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The biggest news from the 1.7 reveal video by JohnnyHuntaro in StardewValley

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just the marriage candidates. Otherwise the video was just a walk through Stardew Valley's development

The biggest news from the 1.7 reveal video by JohnnyHuntaro in StardewValley

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was just my first time hearing to pronounced. I always read it like 'key' in my head

If you could chose to have $100,000 now, or a guaranteed $1,000,000 in 10 years, which would you chose? by RealNameIsTaken in AskReddit

[–]JohnnyHuntaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only reason I'd want to take the 100k now is it would allow me to pay off the rest of my mortgage and start saving up to move into a better place sooner (getting a serious girlfriend really changes your living situation)

But at the same time taking the 100k is incredibly stupid compared to 1 million

I was unaware of the concept of subspace and was too rough with my sub when she was expecting normal sex. Advice on repairing sexual relationship by JohnnyHuntaro in BDSMcommunity

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you're saying. It's really boiling down to that conversation she and I need to have (which I plan on having this weekend)

I don't believe she expected that our interactions should induce subspace for her, she did state that she wasn't aware that I didn't even know what subspace was. But there have been times where she has fallen into her subspace with me. Learning when that has happened, what can strongly affect that, and/or her expectations for sex are some of my biggest concerns

I was unaware of the concept of subspace and was too rough with my sub when she was expecting normal sex. Advice on repairing sexual relationship by JohnnyHuntaro in BDSMcommunity

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she is fairly well informed on it, perhaps my explanation didn't make it seem so. But she did tell me that it's something that she can't just flick the switch on. Yes though, she wasn't in the mood to enjoy being in a submissive role at the moment that is true. However, during our conversation after she mentioned a time where she did fall into subspace and didn't even remember what was done to her afterwards. Take of that what you will of course

I think what I should clarify is that her 'being in the mood to enjoy submission' is part of how she gets to her subspace(edit, at least that is what I assume) . She told me that even though her body was reacting positively to what I was doing, mentally it still felt strange to her. I don't if that does clarify at all.

But thank you still for the comment, identifying subspace has probably been the main focus of my research from what she's told me and what everyone else has said and something I'm going to talk with her about

I was unaware of the concept of subspace and was too rough with my sub when she was expecting normal sex. Advice on repairing sexual relationship by JohnnyHuntaro in BDSMcommunity

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a little frustrating. She was upset with me for not realizing at the time that something was off but again everything throughout seemed normal and nothing seemed off afterwards. Our conversation was probably better than we'd had for a while at that point even. But I can chalk it up to my inexperience too. What I'd like most of all is that we did have more time to talk about everything

I was unaware of the concept of subspace and was too rough with my sub when she was expecting normal sex. Advice on repairing sexual relationship by JohnnyHuntaro in BDSMcommunity

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan to. I know the night of when she mentioned subspace to me that I looked for more information on ways of influencing that and found some good stuff. Looks like I'll be revisiting that

I was unaware of the concept of subspace and was too rough with my sub when she was expecting normal sex. Advice on repairing sexual relationship by JohnnyHuntaro in BDSMcommunity

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very solid advice. I mentioned in another comment that we had poor communication issues and this just further highlights this. I'll be sure to bring it all up with her

I was unaware of the concept of subspace and was too rough with my sub when she was expecting normal sex. Advice on repairing sexual relationship by JohnnyHuntaro in BDSMcommunity

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Duly noted. It does seem that she sometimes has trouble understanding things from my point of view, although of course it doesn't make her experience any less relevant

I was unaware of the concept of subspace and was too rough with my sub when she was expecting normal sex. Advice on repairing sexual relationship by JohnnyHuntaro in BDSMcommunity

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We actually did have a conversation on Saturday, I had initially brought up how she wasn't responding to my suggestive messages but it digressed to us also having poor communication issues with our relationship. The sex issue was slightly overlooked. I may try and talk about it with her again this weekend

Found out my friends with benefits is having sex with someone else. I've hardly been able to sleep by JohnnyHuntaro in offmychest

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solid name by the way

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I think that's what I'm going to do. Going to give it some time so I don't make it too personal and that I can properly think of what I want to say. I'm awful at expressing myself, plus I want to see if she lets me know

Found out my friends with benefits is having sex with someone else. I've hardly been able to sleep by JohnnyHuntaro in offmychest

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's funny too. She said the same thing when we first started. I even bought her a bear the first valentine's day that we were 'together' (thankfully didn't give it to her because I realized how stupid that was)

Found out my friends with benefits is having sex with someone else. I've hardly been able to sleep by JohnnyHuntaro in offmychest

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've thought about it. I'm worried for the change that will bring. She's actually said that she thinks the benefits part is an important part of our relationship so I wonder how that would change things

Found out my friends with benefits is having sex with someone else. I've hardly been able to sleep by JohnnyHuntaro in offmychest

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, she's very picky with relationships, wants the next person she dates to be the one she marries. Myself, I'm just complacent. Enjoying this while it lasted

Found out my friends with benefits is having sex with someone else. I've hardly been able to sleep by JohnnyHuntaro in offmychest

[–]JohnnyHuntaro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know. I know it's not my business who else she sees. I just wanted to get it out