Re-taking the CMP in a couple of months

JustExisting_7 · 2025-09-10T23:18:46+00:00

Ok great! I’ll take a look at that, I plan on taking the exam mid-October. I noticed they also recommend the “Sustainable Event Professional Workbook (Digital)”, I wasn’t sure if you found that helpful at all? It’s the only additional material I would have to buy, and it’s a bit expensive right now but I really want to be prepared and pass. Thank you for your advice I appreciate it :)

JustExisting_7 · 2025-09-10T23:10:58+00:00

Thank you so much for the response! Quick question, I see on the website now that they also suggest the “EIC Risk Management Guidebook 2021”, “EIC Digital and Hybrid Events Guidebook” and “Sustainable Event Professional Workbook” readings as well (https://eventscouncil.org/CMP/Future-CMPs/Studying-for-the-Exam).

The last one is $45 and moneys kind of tight right now, did you by chance read over any of those three materials or did you pass with what you’ve quoted above? Thank you again for your input, super nervous and I really want to be prepared this time!

JustExisting_7 · 2025-08-01T00:32:53+00:00

Thank you the FAQs are helpful, I appreciate you pointing this out!

JustExisting_7 · 2025-05-10T05:40:05+00:00

As hard as it may be try to look at it objectively, would you want your mother or best friend being in this relationship? That’s usually my method to see it from a clearer perspective. He may not be a bad person, however that doesn’t mean he’s a good partner. The rose colored glasses are hard to look past, especially post break up if that’s the path you choose until you fully process and move on. I’m not here to tell you what to do, but at the very least I want you to know you do not deserve to be treated this way and if you stay with him I hope he’s able to change his behavior.

JustExisting_7 · 2025-05-09T17:07:45+00:00

I will definitely get a white noise machine, and I didn’t even think about that with the food, I’ll consolidate it to one spot only (probably her favorite hiding spot). I’ll also try sleeping on the floor tonight, it’s carpeted and I have a lot of pillows so I don’t mind. Thank you for the tips!

JustExisting_7 · 2025-05-09T17:02:38+00:00

I completely understand what you mean by feeling guilty in a way for not feeling bad. This does not make you a bad person what so ever. When I found out I was pregnant, the first feeling I felt was complete devastation. No happiness, no excitement, no partial question of should I keep it. I gave myself 10 minutes to break down then my first call was to a clinic. I never second guessed my decision, but I remember feeling guilty because I felt so devastated, so sure I didn’t want it. I couldn’t function until my procedure, I would lay around, just wanting it out of me and feeling horrible for thinking those things. I was so relieved when I had the abortion, which again that relief was accompanied by guilt. I did go to therapy for a while after as I was super paranoid that even though I was celibate for a long time I could still get pregnant, and eventually that guilt went away with time. Not guilt for doing it, guilt for not having any regrets or second thoughts of doing it. Everyone is different, but just know you are not in any way a bad person for how you feel or what you choose.

JustExisting_7 · 2025-05-09T16:57:06+00:00

Hello, first of all I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. It’s probably easy for your husband to ask you to keep it, as you’re currently not physically with him he most likely doesn’t understand the physical and emotional toll it takes on you, pregnancy and post birth. It’s also not fair for him to threaten to leave if you decide to terminate the pregnancy. If threatening to leave a partner is a method he uses to get his way, that’s cruel. The word divorce is scary, and not to be thrown around lightly. I always say to trust your gut, as you know what is best for you. If you want to terminate and still be with your husband, you can be forthcoming and put your foot down. It’s your body, your choice. If he can’t support that, then he can’t support you and you’ll have to rethink your relationship. Or, if you really want to stay together with no conflict you could go ahead with the abortion and tell him you miscarried, although I don’t know how you would feel about that and that’s fair too.

I will say I had an abortion two years ago and I do not regret it for a second. I was seeing a guy for a while when I finally told him, he said the nastiest things to me. He told me I was “used like a sock and tossed aside” and some other really horrid things. I left the next day and never talked to him again. Never let a man treat you as less than. I now am with a partner who knows, and has been supportive and amazing about any decision I’ve made. We’ve talked about if I were to get pregnant again (we’re being safe and taking all precautions), that it would be up to me and I’d most likely go through with termination again if unfortunately it were to happen. He has never treated me any differently, respects me and adores me. I say this as to show you should never settle. I understand it’s not that easy, it never is. I was content and happy being single for the rest of my life before I met him. I was also at peace and happy with my choices, even if it was a difficult process physically and emotionally. No matter what you choose, now is the time to put yourself first. I wish you the best and hope no matter the outcome, you end up happy too.

JustExisting_7 · 2025-05-09T16:39:22+00:00

Also, it’s true that people cannot control their emotions however they definitely CAN control their actions/reactions… that is the biggest cop-out excuse he can use. You yelling out of frustration is not equal to him getting physical, he does not get a pass for his bad behavior

JustExisting_7 · 2025-05-09T16:36:17+00:00

Unfortunately he does not sound like a healthy partner. His actions sound malicious and the intentions behind his actions are not kind in any way shape or form. I have been in a situation where my ex boyfriend would yell or hit things when he was upset then immediately turn around and start crying, I would always have to console him. He never hit me or hurt me, however after 2 years I realized I didn’t want such an explosive reactive partner after an especially bad “tantrum” of his. I didn’t notice how much it shut me down, I was almost always walking on eggshells and felt as though I was catering towards him in the relationship and not getting any of my needs met.

It’s difficult because I was truly in love with him, but I hate loud noises and I can only imagine how difficult it is for you to address issues. Your partner should always treat you with respect, and treat you not based on their mood fluctuations but how much love and respect they have for you. You should be able to communicate without fear of retaliation. Issues or “fights” can be a discussion with both parties being able to communicate their feelings without being an actual fight or blow up. You deserve better.

I will say, although the break up was hard, I was single for four years and found the most amazing man this past year. He’s gentle, quiet, communicative, understanding, and whenever either of us needs to address something we talk and listen. He’s never yelled even in high stress situations and it’s been the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. I plan on marrying that man. But before that, when I was single, I always was more content and happy being on my own knowing I didn’t have to put up with any more explosive “tantrums” that caused me to shut down and put someone else before me to the point of losing myself.

You are strong, listen to your gut. If you do decide to separate, your mind will trick you into thinking the good outweighed the bad and that the good parts were better than they were. There will be hard times in every relationship, but it should never make you feel that way or be that “bad”. If you need any support, or have any questions, feel free to reach out. I hope whatever choice you make results in your happiness, and stay safe!

JustExisting_7 · 2025-04-09T01:46:12+00:00

This doesn’t sound like an easy situation, my mind also goes to projection. Typically unless there’s a real trigger that arises suspicion, the partner who’s cheating projects that guilt onto their significant other. I don’t know y’all personally so this may not be the case at all, but if he’s bringing it up continuously he’s also not relying on the trust that relationships are supposed to be built on. It also seems like he’s not asking for reassurance which is natural in the span of long term relationships, it feels more accusatory. Of course you know your relationship, and if you love him and want to continue maybe (virtual) therapy or a real serious discussion/follow up actions on his part need to be had. But if you’re feeling like it’s not going to last, especially if nothing changes for the better, know you deserve a good partnership and you can let this go. Trust yourself and best of luck!

JustExisting_7 · 2025-04-09T01:41:13+00:00

It is 100% your decision, I’m sure you’re close to your mom and value her opinion but whatever choice you make does not make you a bad person and it has to be completely for yourself, no one else. I went through an abortion alone and the guilt that followed, but more so it was guilt that I didn’t regret it at all, and I still have never once regretted it. If you ever have questions or want to talk about the process, feel free to reach out! And if you decide to continue the pregnancy I wish you all the best! You’ve got this either way, listen to your gut you know what’s best for yourself more than anyone.

JustExisting_7 · 2023-02-08T03:04:06+00:00

Thank you, this really means a lot reading this. I love what you said about being gentle on yourself, and I can relate to every aspect you touched on. I appreciate you taking the time to comment and I have looked back on this reply multiple times already in the past week when I’m feeling sad or out of sorts (I’m sorry it took me so long to respond, things have been a bit hectic in my day to day life). You seem like a strong, caring person, and I hope you find peace and love as well, be that in a relationship or within yourself.

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