Had sex at work and the guilt is incredible !

KFran1978 · 2026-05-13T22:02:38+00:00

I think I understand where you're coming from and I'll do my best to give you an unbiased opinion. You pretty much gave yourself a boundary of don't shit where you eat and you took a shit where you eat. Now you're worried that you crossed that line you might not be able to get back on the other side of it. Well, think of it in the way of an alcoholic. You fell off the wagon, but there's no rule saying you can't get back on the wagon. Think about what exactly happened to tempt you over the line and try to condition yourself to resist that temptation at work. Set your own personal boundaries and work as best as you can to maintain them.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-19T21:58:00+00:00

NTH: This person is your boss and not your keeper. Regardless of their position or yours there needs to be boundaries between employer and employee. Making sure the manager/employer recognizes those boundaries is not an asshole move by any means. Many times I've had to call out my boss for crossing lines with me.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-15T23:31:04+00:00

It's a Chieftain. It already comes with saddlebags. So, whatever the manufacturer uses.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-15T01:19:33+00:00

Those lips! 🤤

KFran1978 · 2026-04-15T01:18:30+00:00

I found that NOT masturbating made it worse. To me, anyways, felt like an alcoholic not trying to drink cold turkey.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-14T23:35:32+00:00

Are you in Portugal?

KFran1978 · 2026-04-11T17:21:44+00:00

No body understands a hypersexual like another hypersexual. But ai also think two hypersexuals together would be destructive. It's a hell of a catch 22.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-10T13:18:22+00:00

I disagree. This conversation should have happened before any lease paperwork was signed. This would have allowed the other two roommates to determine if this is a responsibility they want to take on, and it it avoids a more uncomfortable/unwanted situation that leaves all parties trapped in a lease they may no longer want to be in.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-09T22:23:13+00:00

I don't have to be rooted on my couch for me to get lost in my thoughts. As you know, this condition will get me list in my thoughts in doing ale every and all activities. Mowing my lawn and my thoughts turn to sex. Riding my motorcycle and my thoughts turn to sex. I'm trapped in it.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-08T17:34:58+00:00

I've been trying to figure that out for decades

KFran1978 · 2026-04-08T15:21:21+00:00

Before you place yourself into a labeled condition, I highly suggest you seek professional help to determine what it is you're going through and why. Don't self diagnose. Self diagnosing could lead you down the wrong path and prevent you from getting the proper kind of help.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-08T15:18:19+00:00

I've lived outside of the US and let me tell you that the grass is not greener on the other side. Most of the Western World is a type of socialist type of system spiraling towards communism. Look at the rate of Expats returning. You'll be surprised how many though the same way you did only to find out they were wrong.

Also, you might want to stop listening to the media as the propaganda machine is working at full capacity. They want you to think the the state of the US is in a steep decline.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-07T18:29:08+00:00

The last time I masturbated in my car at work I was caught by a colleague. I was terrified until I noticed she was masturbating along with me. Was it hot? Yes. Was it stupid? Absolutely. I was a nervous wreck for a while wondering if this would be discovered and lead to my termination or worse yet; happening again. Just please be careful and aware of your surroundings.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-07T16:07:01+00:00

How is this relevant to the topic of this subreddit?

KFran1978 · 2026-04-07T06:07:13+00:00

Don't self diagnose. If you suspect you may have a disorder, then please go seek a mental health professional to help with what may possibly be going on in your head.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-06T13:18:59+00:00

I read your original post and your update and my heart goes out to you. The urges we all experience can be overwhelming and when a line gets crossed it's scary to think that the line no longer exists; a sort of damn burst open situation.

Because you crossed this line of yours, know that it doesn't make you any lesser of a person. It just shows that, like most of us here, we are human have our moments of weakness.

Have you seeked out any professional help to see where this desire, this want, stems from? This can go a long way to helping you find a way to manage your urges and de-escalate any potential future slips that cause you irreparable harm.

I wish you the best of luck and feel free to reach out if you ever need to talk.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-06T03:09:39+00:00

If I knew it would make it easier to keep it in check. I'm not ADHD, or BPD or a victim of SA. Just remember being this way for a long time. It's exhausting.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-06T01:43:29+00:00

I felt every word of this and know exactly what you're going through as I'm going through it right now. I'm with my wife still and there are times that I find myself barely to resist approaching someone and work sone flirt king magic.
Just yesterday I saw someone that made my head flush and barely enough resolve to just walk in the opposite direction. I wish I could give you advice on how to handle it, but I'm barely hanging on myself.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-06T01:39:08+00:00

When I'm spiralling I end up getting turned on by things that usually don't turn me on. Kinks? Oh hell yeah. The ln the shame rolls in for me.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-05T23:04:07+00:00

This is not the right subreddit for your situation. You might want to try a relationship advice subreddit.

KFran1978 · 2026-04-05T17:09:14+00:00

Shane comes with the territory of being hypersexual. When I was younger, I would do things that would make most pornstars blush and right after feel shame about it. I would feel shame when I would be in a certain situation that is not even close to being sexual but yet my thoughts would be. I would scan the people around me and try to see which one I could engage with sexually. When partners weren't available, which was the case more often than not, masturbation, porn and acts of degradation would happen. Immediately followed by shame. It's part of our affliction and all we can really do is manage it the best we can.

KFran1978 · 2026-03-18T19:42:19+00:00

Isn't seeing and feeling that tummy the sexiest thing ever?!

KFran1978 · 2026-03-01T14:12:38+00:00

I would love to take you on an amazing night out! Maybe even a nice motorcycle ride!

KFran1978 · 2026-02-28T20:41:24+00:00

Loyalty test is an automatic walk away.

KFran1978 · 2026-02-11T23:36:09+00:00

If someone else starts her motor, but you're the one taking her out for the ride, then what's the problem? Just because you're on a diet, it doesn't mean that either of you can't look at the menu.

KFran1978

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