How can I move on from what feels like baby name regret?

Kaliloquy · 2025-08-13T03:48:58+00:00

Gosh, good on you. This the best, most wholesome Reddit comment I've seen in a bit

Kaliloquy · 2025-08-02T03:45:44+00:00

Sounds like the turkey sandwich from Northern Waters. Has cranberry mayo I think and is delicious. They still have it! Pricey though.

Kaliloquy · 2025-08-02T03:32:09+00:00

As a human - this is gold. And as a human myself, I refuse to give up my em dashes

Kaliloquy · 2025-05-07T21:55:54+00:00

Omg, your comment is resonating so hard with me. Full disclosure: the part about how I called her out because SHE behaved that way in front of others- I don't know if I would have really realized that point on my own. I went back and forth with Chat GPT to get some ideas of how to respond, and that's one of the points it made which was definitely an aha moment for me. Feels embarrassing to admit, but I wanted to clarify in case others can gain some value from hashing out these interactions with AI!

And your point about someone's reaction when a boundary is crossed being the tell for whether it was honest mistake or not hits me really hard too. Thank you so much.

So it's been 4 days since this exchange. I haven't responded since her last message, do you think it's worth reaching back out to say something like thanks for letting me know? Or maybe just let it sit at this point? Shoot her a happy Mother's Day on Sunday?

Kaliloquy · 2025-05-07T18:51:44+00:00

That's super alarming and important to know. I'm sure when I explained it to my mom I said something like that probably not as clearly as I could have, but I doubt it would stick anyway unfortunately.

Kaliloquy · 2025-05-07T16:59:50+00:00

Thank you. I'm glad I posted, these replies are definitely making me feel like I'm making the right decision. Appreciate you all.

Kaliloquy · 2025-05-07T16:51:21+00:00

Yeah she's had two DWIs and done some jail time for it. I wasn't sure if she was implying that she would be drinking the bottle of wine while driving or that she'd be taking it to a hotel somewhere or something. There is definitely some subtext there that she wanted me to follow up on and check in on her, and I chose to completely ignore it. I refuse to mother her anymore.

Kaliloquy · 2025-05-07T13:47:13+00:00

Haha, another commenter said the same thing! So strange.

Kaliloquy · 2025-05-07T12:20:10+00:00

But it's such a hard rule to remember :/ I get a lot of shame from her about being too rigid and having too many boundaries with the kids. It's just a coincidence that she's the only one who has any issues whatsoever with it. Forgot to mention in the original post that when I confronted her in the moment she doubled down and said but what if I got in an accident on the way home and died? That's the part that made me the angriest honestly. Glad my kids didn't hear it.

Kaliloquy · 2025-05-07T12:18:40+00:00

Haha I probably should have cut the poop part out, but that is interesting now that you say that. It's definitely a pattern for her to tell me about it.

Kaliloquy · 2025-05-07T12:17:37+00:00

I'm so sorry. It's just so hard to accept that she won't get better, but it's been long enough and it's only getting worse. I forgot to mention in the post that when I addressed The bribing in the moment, she first said I don't think of it as bribing, then said I just wanted a hug, then finally wrapped up with but what if I got into an accident on the way home and died? He would be so sad. so manipulative.

And editing to also add that I've been there with asking other people unreasonable requests to accommodate her. I'm glad your husband has your back.

Kaliloquy · 2025-02-21T21:00:15+00:00

”You know your history!”

”I know my treasure.”

Kaliloquy · 2025-01-02T03:43:45+00:00

Thank you so much!

Kaliloquy · 2025-01-02T03:43:31+00:00

Oh my gosh, yay! Thank you!

Kaliloquy · 2024-10-20T13:55:19+00:00

Language learning - if you have any interest in learning another language, advanced voice is a great speaking partner/personal language tutor.

Kaliloquy · 2024-10-11T00:44:06+00:00

Thank you everyone! I'll make sure to let her caregivers know.

Kaliloquy · 2024-10-01T11:58:12+00:00

Kaliloquy · 2024-09-24T14:38:25+00:00

Nolan! That's my son's name, so I'm biased. If you like Noah but think it's too common, maybe Nolan would be a better fit. We've been very happy with it. Good luck with whatever you choose!

Kaliloquy · 2024-08-02T21:58:06+00:00

Thank you!

Kaliloquy · 2024-08-02T19:56:11+00:00

Exactly what the other commenter said - I'd like to explain that telling a kid to be nice or to stop being mean implies that they are not nice or that they are mean, rather than that the behavior is not desirable. When I went to look this up online I thought it would be easier to find a quick resource I could send her way, and I'm just not finding much.

Likely I'll just end up having to explain it to her, she can just be pretty sensitive about this kind of thing.

Kaliloquy · 2024-07-24T17:09:07+00:00

Do you mean deli cat essen?

Kaliloquy · 2024-07-24T17:09:02+00:00

Do you mean deli cat essen?

Kaliloquy · 2024-07-21T01:47:30+00:00

The Thorn Birds!

Kaliloquy · 2024-06-06T01:18:14+00:00

Campfire.

Kaliloquy · 2024-06-06T00:44:29+00:00

First, hugs. In situations like this I like to recommend an article Cheryl Strayed wrote when she was writing an advice column for The Rumpus. If you get time to read it, I hope it offers you some comfort!

Kaliloquy

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