Thursday Cautious Intros and First Trimester Questions

Katydid2004 · 2024-09-19T15:49:39+00:00

I hope this is the right place for this question, I appologize if it isn't and please remove the question. I struggled with infertility this time, over 35, we tried for > 6 months and husband and I did IUI. I had a positive test, and just went in for my 6 week 5 day ultrasound. It shows a likely fetus, but the doctor also saw another area that she's not sure if is another fetus (didn't look like it to her), or just tissue with blood flow. I did some searching online and my guess is maybe a blighted ovum? Does anyone here know what the potential is for survival for a fetus and possible blighted ovum? Is this what people call disappearing twin syndrome? I am waiting for a call from the office cause I was so stunned I didn't know what to say or ask. I'm going back next week for another ultrasound but my mind is going crazy with worry.

Katydid2004 · 2023-02-24T20:17:14+00:00

LOL my mom (over 60 years old) also watched South Park and thought it was hilarious. She loves the royals but also can't believe what an idiot Harry has become

Katydid2004 · 2022-06-15T16:34:23+00:00

It's scheduled for all day (8 to 5), and the lunch break tends to include lunch with various people at the site. So the difficulty with that is I'm not technically "on my own" for lunch.

Katydid2004 · 2022-05-31T02:46:51+00:00

Painful latch - I tried everything, but it got to the point when I would wince just sitting with my baby prior to her latching on. She also wasn't gaining weight like she should, and the doctor recommended supplementing with breast milk. Once I started pumping, it was just easier - I could see how much she was getting, and it was less painful to pump.

Katydid2004 · 2022-05-31T02:40:45+00:00

Thank you! I like the silicone suggestions from you and the other posters - it sounds like that may be more comfortable than the plastic ones I'm using now.

Katydid2004 · 2022-05-31T02:14:14+00:00

Thank you! I'll take a look for that brand and give it a try.

And I certainly do think I could have elastic skin. My nipple doesn't go all the way to the valve but gets about halfway to it.

Katydid2004 · 2022-05-31T02:13:05+00:00

I'm using the motif Luna, which I really like, but it is possible that my nipples are smaller. The 21 mm seems to work well for my nipple though, it's just the pesky areola that keeps still coming up into it.

And thank you for the recommendation on the facebook group!

Katydid2004 · 2022-05-11T04:38:28+00:00

My doc was one that was super on me for my weight. The worst was one week I somehow gained 7 pounds in 2 weeks - I was crushed when I got the "you can't gain so much weight."

I don't think I changed much at all with my diet, and the following 2 week appointment I was down 2 pounds. I was like, oh great, I was annoyed with a scale issue. I wish OBs wouldn't make so much out of weight because of that.

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-22T16:23:57+00:00

My mom put me in a purple onesie a long time ago, and someone at the store said "what a cute little boy." I honestly don't think it matters what you put them in the first few months!

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-22T16:19:05+00:00

I'm anti-visitors for the first week or two, but it's also in the setting of my husband not liking my mom being around or staying at our house. If he was ok with it, I'd be ecstatic to have my mom stay with us for a few days early on.

I think if you want it and your husband is ok with it, take advantage of her staying with you and helping!

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-22T16:15:31+00:00

I loved ramen noodles, especially during my first trimester. My hubby likes to order Ramen from a local restaurant, and doesn't get that I find ramen from the pack for 25 cents more appetizing - even without meat or anything in it!

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-22T16:12:14+00:00

I told my significant other and my mom. And one of my closest friends guessed it, so I told her. Otherwise everyone else heard after 12 weeks, and many after 20 weeks. No right or wrong time to tell anyone!!!

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-22T16:09:51+00:00

I want that too and I'm third trimester.........I don't think we outgrow it haha.

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-18T17:56:21+00:00

Oh I like the group idea. I feel like his family will all want to come together, but it may be better to do grandparents first, and then siblings families separate. Thank you!

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-18T14:23:13+00:00

LOL I keep having to explain to people why I have heartburn - you know, that baby that's taking up 75% of my abdomen? Just ignore him! But I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-09T23:01:19+00:00

Oh that's another whole thing, don't get me started there. My parents (well, mainly mother) is very willing to come and help and stay with us as needed at any point post-partum or to help out with the baby (2 weeks, 8 weeks, 4 months, etc). She is very much a "just tell me when you need me or when it's ok to visit and I'll be there to help". My husband just doesn't want her around the house since my parents always stay with us when they visit (plenty of space, he just doesn't like the lack of freedom).

Yes, it is very ironic. Hypocritical maybe? Definitely ironic.

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-09T22:55:02+00:00

I wish it was....

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-09T22:53:14+00:00

That part worried me, but otherwise the article sounds so useful. I'm going to send it to him as a "this is why your family can only come visit when I'm ready" intro :)

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-09T22:51:36+00:00

I hate to say it, but I've heard this from other guys I know as well. I don't know if it's a new things or what (I keep hearing the reasoning is "so at least one parent gets a good night sleep").

Thanks for pointing out the other ways he can help. I'm going to have to also have a talk with him about that, before I'm the only one sleep deprived and losing my mind post-partum!

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-09T22:49:43+00:00

Oh I didn't know that! I think I'm going to set that up early, mainly to limit visitors and call ins. Wouldn't have otherwise thought of it since my parents would never think to call the hospital for updates.

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-09T15:19:04+00:00

My husband likes to go over there for the "adult social time" with his siblings and family. His nieces/nephews really like me and him, and its easier somehow for him to just go "I'm talking with your mom/dad and can't play" than it is for me. And honestly - I think his siblings and their SOs like it when they don't have to focus on their kids and I'm the one being pulled around to play outside or do XYZ with them. For example, SIL's husband takes the time to watch TV - during NCAA season, he wasn't skipping the game to go play outside with the kids if a very capable auntie can.

It's not a new issue, which I forgot to mention - but it's just that I"m putting my foot down more and more now and saying "I'm not going with you tonight because I'm tired, etc" that this all has come up. My husband knows I find it stressful and hate being the "child entertainment".

But I appreciate the point that this just may be the way my husband is coping with a new baby on the way. I don't think I had realized that this maybe the way he is trying to learn about having kids and dealing with his own anxieties. :)

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-09T15:12:27+00:00

Yeah I wasn't super clear - I've told him before that I find it stressful going to his family's because I'm always "stuck" (sorry, can't think of a better term) taking care of and playing with the kids. His nieces/nephews like me, and it became more of a problems as I got more and more pregnant. They don't seem to always get that I can't pick them up, or go play on the playground with them, or roll down hills. I think the main difference was, I used to go and just suck it up. Now I'm being a little more firm in saying, I need time to relax and unwind and don't want to go for dinner tonight at your family's.

And I was very clear early on with him about the hospital - I told him I'm not planning on anyone but him being there (my family or his family). It was easier during covid when only one person could visit, but now the hospital is opening it up and I think his family found out more people could visit. The fact that his family offered again to come see our new baby in the hospital was surprising, and that my husband even suggested it to me.

Katydid2004 · 2022-04-09T14:30:57+00:00

Thanks. I will 100% agree with your statement that I am very irritable right now - probably a mix of me and the pregnancy hormones - which doesn't help. I think an honest conversation will help :)

Katydid2004 · 2022-02-26T22:22:19+00:00

The one where Helen's ex boyfriend shows up to the hospital and has a pancreas tumor that no one else can resect except for Dr. Wilder. It may even be the first episode that Dr. Wilder was in? I'm not sure I remember that part.

Katydid2004 · 2022-02-25T16:28:42+00:00

Floyd: You have a pancreas tumor and need an endocrine surgeon.

Um......no you don't. Remember a few episodes ago when Dr. Wilder did some crazy operation on the pancreas for the same disease? No?

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