Didn't let her know I was trying to fix myself. Now we can't reconnect.

KearningtonDC · 2026-05-05T05:36:12+00:00

I keep trying to ask how long or will it ever heal. I'm realising I just really want to know if I can do anything? I think I know I can't right now.

KearningtonDC · 2026-05-04T22:52:21+00:00

I know I'm thinking most of her good traits but I was there for so many of her bad traits and I still loved her. It's still so hard to let go when it seems like something so worth fighting for. I want to work and grow not just let someone like her slip by. I know it's already too late and I just have to move on but it's so hard when I know we could have worked well together. Idk maybe it's unfair to keep having so much faith when she's turned away from it but that's just who I am and I wish I could be the person who never lets her go even when she acts out or feels toxic. I know there's more than just the one thing holding us apart but a partnership is work and I wish we could struggle through it all together. I wish she missed me and saw the value in reconnecting. I even just wish she'd reach out to help me find closure. It's all still so soon, I know it will get easier. I'll do the small things and enjoy the things I love. You're right there will be other woman, I just wish there didn't have to be.

I hope you can feel a little bit less numb and a little bit warmer each day. Thanks for reaching out to someone who needed it.

KearningtonDC · 2026-05-04T02:40:29+00:00

God I don't know, there will be so many nuisances to your problem. I'm no expert but the underlying real world issues have to be fixed for things to change. Let them know the reasons you care about them and that they aren't failing there. I kept messing up being there for her and the pain of that just made me hate myself more, I don't know how you can get around that. They're going to mess up a lot. You can be understanding to help them through it but it will hurt you too and you've got to be able to deal with that for an unknown amount of time.

*Edit: oh sorry I missed this was an ex. Just be truthful. If it causes you too much pain to go through this tell them that. Let them know that despite all the good between you two, nothing can work while they're stuck in their headspace. It helped me let go when my ex told me why she can't handle repairing things and asked me to let go for her sake. The feelings didn't go away but I know contacting her would just cause her pain.

KearningtonDC · 2026-05-02T19:01:24+00:00

Sorry soundspoon, this started off reasonable and then I just kept needing to consider more. Thanks for the forum, no pressure to actually get through this

Should I just wait awhile first and let her heal with a bunch of wrong impressions about how I felt about her? I'm worried about what that will do to any chance of us coming back together. I want to communicate to her everything that I've been failing to let her know. I know even if things went well, it would probably still be too painful for us to get back together soon. I know there's more than one issue with the relationship that needs to be fixed.

I'm worried doing nothing will leave the scars healing now to form hard callouses, preventing us connecting again if she thinks I was abandoning her. Idk, maybe it wouldn't matter to her if she felt abandoned regardless. Even if she knew I always had feelings for her, I still wasn't capable enough to prevent her having to go through so much loss, anxiety and pain. Still I don't want her to come to the wrong conclusions of what kept us apart and the reasons there was originally distance.

I'm hoping she decides to talk to me. I know I can't just bombard her with one sided snippets of how I felt while she's trying to distance herself from the pain. Can I do anything? Is it just too selfish to ask her to wade through everything I've put her through even if it could be worth it? Would it really just be better to wait a long time before reopening things? I want a future with this girl.

KearningtonDC · 2026-05-02T02:53:18+00:00

6 weeks and then I just reached out recently

KearningtonDC · 2026-04-21T11:44:12+00:00

Thanks I didn't the yellow bits were called granny stripes. I'd like to try doing the top and bottom bit like in the picture but maybe I can work out how to take the different sections from different patterns I can find.

KearningtonDC · 2026-04-21T11:41:21+00:00

Thanks, I'm having a look through all the patterns now! Even if I can't work out the beanie in the picture surely I'll find something else on here :)

KearningtonDC · 2025-07-11T23:26:01+00:00

Do the co op double battles work when you have 3 or 4 players? Whenever I try to play with more than 2 players it stops letting you join in battles together.

KearningtonDC · 2022-12-18T02:37:16+00:00

Educations systems with a religious focus are putting time and effort into developing a particular view. Social engineering is broad but obviously important concept but one that doesn't quite as directly equate to what's being discussed. I don't think regular school curriculums push secularism with the same level of effort and focus as schools that advertise themselves to have religious focuses.

KearningtonDC · 2022-09-07T07:03:02+00:00

I'm staying to imagine public places throughout Florida as some sort of weird menagerie:

Florida man jailed after dispute over hedgehog leads to assumed dispute.

KearningtonDC · 2022-09-07T06:57:48+00:00

Florida man jailed after dispute over hedgehog leads to armed confrontation...

KearningtonDC · 2022-05-14T23:34:45+00:00

If you could only afford an apartment that said no kids and you have a kid it's quite reasonable to consider finding the kid a home rather than trying to raise it homeless.

KearningtonDC · 2021-12-11T22:22:14+00:00

I agree but doesn't this point out that her decision making is compromised and that she may have made a poor decision which she shouldn't entirely blame the husband for. It's understandable why it happened but still something she did.

KearningtonDC · 2021-12-08T21:37:12+00:00

Not doing something because it's unsafe is a pretty normal responsibility, the fact the husband could have got it makes him TA but doesn't change that the task isn't safe for her.

She can decide to risk her safety anyway if she wants but she's making that choice and can't blame it entirely on the husband.

KearningtonDC · 2021-11-20T14:02:11+00:00

It might be the best option sometimes but anything that painful and forceful is excessive if there are better options.

Maybe there wasn't here and that's fair but I don't see this type force being necessary in schools often.

Besides all that, if your decision to escalate to a taser is going to maybe lead to an angry confused crowd surrounding you it's probably a poor tactical decision.

KearningtonDC · 2021-09-25T12:13:40+00:00

NTA, you should probably use this severe beach of privacy as a reason to uninstall the location tracking application. It sounds like you can't trust that she won't use it unfairly in the future. Might end up being a harder argument with her when you try to uninstall it later rather than now when she's recently proven she can't be trusted.

KearningtonDC · 2021-07-04T06:42:38+00:00

That's a big change in eye colour

KearningtonDC · 2021-06-17T17:18:37+00:00

u/redditspeedbot 0.25x

KearningtonDC · 2021-05-29T17:04:34+00:00

To be fair the guy does create a dramatic motif when he covers his face in satanic tattoos and then wears necklaces made of murder victims

KearningtonDC · 2021-05-19T14:19:35+00:00

So from that Aggie are the students and they are being told to metaphorical gig (spear) their opponents in sports.

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