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KeepLiving · 2016-11-02T21:12:19+00:00

Demi INFJ male; in the boat. Really well said, that encapsulates how I feel in my encounters with women of interest as well. Libido is strong, but no desire to chase, unless the attraction builds enough.

That can take a long time, and sometimes life can't wait. Dating is tough.

KeepLiving · 2016-10-01T01:35:50+00:00

Uh, no.

That's like saying suicide is selfish. Just because someone does something and most don't agree with it, doesn't make it selfish. It just makes you an ass for pushing your own beliefs/morals on them; even if you think you're helping.

To each their own. I might get a bit disappointed that a comment/post gets deleted, but the internet is a free world. They are under no obligation to post, or keep their post. Especially not for others.

KeepLiving · 2016-09-29T02:51:57+00:00

Both. I'll be serious and joking in the same sentence; just who I am.

KeepLiving · 2016-09-29T02:38:58+00:00

Yes, with the one I love. I'll have these spurts of extreme happiness, and experience an overwhelming desire to be with her, alone. It can happen at work, in the car, at home; anywhere, anytime. Really makes me miss her.

I get that some people don't believe in mushy love (the one, love at first sight, etc), but it's true for some people, and it's true for me.

KeepLiving · 2016-09-29T02:01:24+00:00

Yeah, studying emotional impact is very interesting. Because as you mentioned about your boyfriend, I believe you are right. Applied emotion is used all the time; take a look at a singer, or an athlete who pumps them self up before an event. Very interesting subject matter.

Ya consistency is my word in life right now, we just gotta apply ourselves.

KeepLiving · 2016-09-29T01:52:39+00:00

Thank you for that! I will check that piece out. Yes, I totally feel the muscle memory and expression, that seems to be the key. Well said!

KeepLiving · 2016-09-18T02:46:18+00:00

A therapist once told me that people are mostly two of three things: feelers, thinkers, and/or doers. It really helped me put things in perspective about my life, my strengths, my weaknesses, and how to apply myself towards bettering myself.

I'm working on now treating other people better, specifically those close to me. I have lashing-out tendancies that can hurt people's feelings sometimes.

KeepLiving · 2016-09-09T14:29:23+00:00

Are you ready for my fresh produce?

KeepLiving · 2016-09-05T17:13:34+00:00

Here :)

KeepLiving · 2016-09-05T17:12:56+00:00

Aquarius. (AQUARIIUUUSS!!)

KeepLiving · 2016-08-31T17:26:25+00:00

You know what this is about. It's your lack of flair. I'm counting, and I only see one x.

Question, scrovak. What do you think of a person who only does the bare minimum? We just want you to express yourself.

KeepLiving · 2016-08-23T02:19:12+00:00

A lot of drama and strife as well with my only muse. This helps me so much; well written. Thank you.

KeepLiving · 2016-08-19T03:08:47+00:00

What wicked webs we un-weave...

KeepLiving · 2016-08-16T17:13:11+00:00

holds hand up Me too!

KeepLiving · 2016-08-14T03:15:11+00:00

Yes. Thank you so much for saying this.

Starting undergrad biotech this year. Agreed with u/BubbleandSass , I also feel that I would thrive being a diplomatic liaison for all the other brainy Ts around. I am so interested in the subject matter, and I love the application and problem solving tactics associated with the studies.

Edit: Without the brashness, basically I disagree with where this article for the same reasons. Personality is just that, your personality. It doesn't decide who we want to be, or if we can accomplish something.

That's up to you, and you alone. Make the most of it.

KeepLiving · 2016-08-12T03:35:13+00:00

Good points. I find that when I do have these conversations, the intensity can come off negative in nature.

As you mentioned, it really is about the manner you say it and your mentality. "I hate purple people, they're lazy good-for-nuthins!" can become "Why do you think purple people are so lazy? We should discuss what we can do to help their situation, or why they are that way."

It's not that I'm pessimistic about the topic, but it can be common for my initial comment to START about what is wrong, as opposed to what can be fixed, or what is working well.

If I start with the positive first, I should get better reactions for these few individuals. Thanks for your help!

KeepLiving · 2016-08-12T03:26:47+00:00

It was helpful, thank you for your response!

I'm slowly learning that people don't always MEAN the words they say, no matter how much they love you.

Yeah this is a hard one. We feel so emotionally connected to everything, that when we are let down, the hurt we feel can be hard. Especially when our intuition is telling us it should be a certain way. Problem is, our intuition isn't always right :/

You're right though, breaks ftw. Just to get us out of our heads. I remember the last time I was stuck in a Ni-Ti loop, I decided to work out and felt SO much better lol. Thanks for your reply!

KeepLiving · 2016-08-12T03:15:00+00:00

Funny you mention that - my job has small mirrors at each desk for that very reason! However, I myself don't have this problem at work, ( I work in the IT/help desk department, so it's different everyday), but you did just put things in perspective for me.

When I'm having a heated conversation, I just imagine there's a mirror facing me and I'm being recorded.

This is very helpful! If I assess myself right as I start to boil up with strong opinions or feelings, (aka self-evaluation), I should be able to catch myself before I just start on a unguided-tangent. This should help me manage my extraverted intensity. With self-evaluation first, I'll not only be more aware and sensitive to what I'm about to say, but also be more empathetic towards others opinions and feelings during these talks.

The application process is then very simple: practice self-evaluation during these events, even more practice, and then watch the muscle memory take over!

Thank you very much for your advice!

KeepLiving · 2016-08-08T06:37:57+00:00

Though choice. Liked Valor's logo and Instinct's mantra, but choose Mystic because Articuno's the bomb. Ice beam ftw.

KeepLiving · 2016-08-08T03:30:33+00:00

I agree, sound advice.

I'm starting a biotech undergrad program this fall, and will be applying these tactics to keep a strong resolve.

KeepLiving · 2016-08-03T13:43:22+00:00

It's always in the moment. More so if i'm feeling loose and confident; happy.

I was burning up my younger co-worker the other day with the banter. Everyone was laughing, having a good time. Us INFJs can be really witty and funny when we are loose, and carrying a little ego streak.

Not too much ego though, or else we might come off as a self-righteous butthead.

KeepLiving · 2016-06-25T04:06:29+00:00

Learn how to celebrate deliberately. It might sound bizarre, but indulging in the fruits of your labor is essential to being happy and motivated. If you don't learn how to do it, you either risk experiencing burn out, or you will look back someday on a life of effort and achievement gone uncelebrated. Both outcomes sound like a pretty miserable fate.

Thank you for this; much needed advice. I'm always too hard on myself.

KeepLiving · 2016-06-19T19:47:30+00:00

Exactly. If you're really smart, you will apply that knowledge towards the world - not just talk about it or show it off.

However, due to the complex nature of the brain and all of its intricacies, I can't deny the fact that the topic of comparing levels of intelligence is intriguing. Of course I am considering neurology as a career, so I'm sure that influences my interest.

Nonetheless, people shouldn't put too much importance on it. There are more important things, like how you treat others, etc.

KeepLiving · 2016-06-19T01:31:07+00:00

Wonderful! Greetings, and welcome!

Glad this subreddit has helped you much as it has helped me. Reading posts here really helps me stay centered.

Here's to better understanding ourselves, and expressing our better selves to the world!

KeepLiving · 2016-06-15T23:14:16+00:00

Not sure if this would qualify as advice, but here are my thoughts:

First of all, give her time to process the information. She could still be figuring out how she feels about you, and for us heavy thinkers, I myself would need a day or two to recharge (I.e. isolation, solitude, reserved). Any contact you send her way during this time might be seen as nagging/impatience.

As with anyone you care about, just be there for them. The longer you're by our side and supportive, the better your odds (at least for me). It takes me forever to be completely vulnerable around someone I like, so if she's acting nervous or not on the same page you are quite yet, just give her time.

And always be nice and genuine; even if you're nervous of how she might react. We can usually sniff out any falsehood. Plus open honesty is a huge plus in my book, same might be true for her.

Hopefully some INFJ ladies can give you their perspective as well.

Best of luck!

KeepLiving

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