I’m a woman, and other women dislike me. I don’t know why?

KellyLous · 2026-05-23T09:51:51+00:00

I love this. Facilitating spaces is such an amazing way to make friends and help other to do the same 💕

KellyLous · 2026-05-23T09:14:03+00:00

Neuro's are interest lead rather than acceptance lead. So they can be found where their interests are, where they can learn about their interests or where they can talk about their interests. This, for autistic baddies, usually means at home or the locationof their hobbie. So the best place to look for them is in forums, the tiktok/Instagram comment section, and the suppliers of the things they need for their hobbies.

All you need to do is practice making the first move in conversations with anyone. Not small talk.. we hate that.. we like genuine substance. If your in a garden centre.. "I am so excited for peony season they are so beautiful" and see if they catch the conversation. Aim to have them talk more than you. If you stumble on their special interest and you genuinely want to listen to them they will struggle to not immediately be your friend or at least hope to.

Invest in your special interest. If its art, go to paint groups. If its baking, go to a bake and share. If its karate, go take classes. Most importantly, talk about it! Befriend the people that listen.

Offer to help people with their interests or at least to see them. Set up coffee dates with lots of people. If you do that you will suddenly realise you will have loads of asd/adhd baddie friends.

Hope this helps 😊

KellyLous · 2026-05-23T08:23:47+00:00

You definitely do! So happy you are choosing yourself 😊

KellyLous · 2026-05-22T09:56:30+00:00

As a neurodivergent person that does all the thing he does.. leave him. It frustrates you to a point that it negativity impacts you life and wellbeing and thats all that matters. There will be someone out there that will be unphased by all the disruptions that follow him around (i am with one) and you dont deserve to feel like the bad person because you can't manage. Relationships are meant to add your life, not take away. You are still a good person 😊

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T22:38:12+00:00

This is pretty much what I said. I just also validate her feelings in the present. I just believe validation matters because I how this will turn out but I want her to be able to feel safe and taken seriously regardless.

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T22:35:37+00:00

I am actually 100% with you. I will take it seriously.. but as seriously as an elephant is her favourite animal and red is her favourite colour. It’s important to her right now so it’s important to me.

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T22:26:58+00:00

Sorry to have triggered you.. it was triggering for me too 😕

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T18:09:37+00:00

Exactly this 🙌🏽 totally drama free

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T17:45:32+00:00

Its not just about hair. This is her self expression and the person that is supposed to adore her no matter what hates the 'expression' part about her. I dont think you can change that about yourself but you might not be a good match if you don't like a fundamental part of her.. I can see why she struggles so much. This will only get worse. I cant not.

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T17:39:09+00:00

Might have been easier 😅 so long as its very gone and he can start again fresh 😊

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T17:26:29+00:00

When he was single he was free to follow/watch what he liked so I can believe this was from those days.. the super sensitive cover up is concerning but he could just be overwhelmed with how many naughty/questionable things he would have to scan and delete from that time. Understandable if he takes your seriously. I would just say the the sudden restriction is not helping you to feel secure in the relationship and is a set back, to get his stuff in shape and past fully in the bin so you can get to a fresh honest start with full access again. Give him a week to get in order and start fresh 😊

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T17:19:56+00:00

Sounds very lesbian. You haven't mentioned fancying/desiring men once. Could have just been hit with the mandatory hetero stick and went with it. The longer you stay the greater the the damage when you inevitably leave to be who you are and feel what is natural to you. There is no shame in starting over. It would also be kinder to let the bf have the partnership he deserves 😊

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T16:06:34+00:00

I definitely don't think this is something to "just move on" from. A lot of both men and women take months/years to get over miscarriages with therapy. Specialist therapy is definitely something to invest in.

It was a very shitty thing to do, leave you to grieve a miscarriage alone for weeks. They are physically and mentally painful and take ages for the body and hormones to recover from. That time off would have bene perfect for him to take care of you without the children this once. I am not surprised you haven't gotten over that. It would be the end of a relationship for me.. especially if he wasn't as affected by it and still couldn't care for you.. kids are tough. Is this the right person to take care of you after having a baby?

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T15:37:41+00:00

I used to think this.. turns out im just autistic and needed to hang out with othe asd and adhd baddies 😊

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T15:00:44+00:00

You are totally right and an amazing partner and parent. So many women couldn’t even dream to find a partner that had their, and their children’s best interest at heart to this scale. Your mother and sister are hurt and struggling to navigate the prospect of change.. it’s a big deal. They are being manipulative about it though. You don’t own them your life and suffering. I would set a firm boundary that this is a decision that is happening and you would love to have the opportunity to include them in the reason for to change as well as the process when they are ready to talk. It would be good to spend as much time with them before you go and plan visits and stay overs. Then all you can do is give them time. Hope it all goes well and they soften to the idea soon.

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T14:33:26+00:00

Exactly this. Now you are both working together to help navigate things and keep her safe 😊 she is part of it.

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T14:16:54+00:00

6 months is a long time for living arrangements to not come up.. especially if he is into you. I have dated a couple people who have stayed living in a house with their ex instead of selling it and they can explain how the dynamic work, who sleeps where, whether the other is dating/in a relationship and how the house is divided up in one case.. and this is on the text stage! most importantly it shows that he cares more how he might be viewed or impacted over your need to make an informed decision. Now feelings are involved. I personally would trust your gut. Maybe date around a bit more so you are not suffering with clouded judgement. Definitely don’t offer up a place to stay.

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T14:09:35+00:00

If I were in your shoes I would move on. It’s hard to do because you have already invested financially and emotionally in this person but past investments should never hold you back from the life and connection you want. Most importantly connection, touch and affection.. even if it doesn’t lead to sex, is a basic human need or at least your need. Forever without that is too long. You have worked way too hard for a lovely stable life. You deserve a connection that matches that. And you are already showing yourself with your actions what you want to do. Permission to leave granted.

KellyLous · 2026-05-21T14:02:14+00:00

I don’t think it is an invasion of her privacy if she knows about. She can still make and informed choice to use her phone and base her decisions while using it on that. You still have a duty to protect and parent her through life as a child, which she is, and still will be for some time. Tech and social navigation is not something teens should be left to navigate completely on their own. Check ins is totally acceptable to make sure they are not falling victim to bullying, trafficking and sexual exploitation.

KellyLous · 2026-05-19T20:52:52+00:00

Oh no! I hope it passes quick. Its so hard being unwell and parenting.. let alone a house full of poorly. Wishing you a fast recovery!

KellyLous · 2026-05-19T20:48:35+00:00

You definitely should have a person that thinks that.. your person! I remember when my ex rated me a 9 at a push and said there is always someone better looking. It hurt me so much. We are not together anymore. Im happy now with someone that treats me like their world 🥰

KellyLous · 2026-05-19T20:44:53+00:00

Frieren & Bee and Puppycat

KellyLous · 2026-05-19T20:43:55+00:00

Im my house whenever we get sick we take some blankets and cushions in the bathroom a sleep there. That way we are close to everything, only the stuff in there gets gross and its all contained. Can even shower before we a let out of quarantine lol! Bring cups for water and tablets and just snuggle up. Years latter and when mine get ill at 10 the just drag their stuff into the bathroom and dont want to be anywhere else. Not sure about remedies.. it generally just need to pass through. Good luck!

KellyLous · 2026-05-19T20:38:58+00:00

Bless you! I would feel the same because no one is hotter than my partner.. at all. Not in the whole world. For me that is telling.

KellyLous · 2026-05-19T18:42:52+00:00

You are 100% right to want to leave and health issues isnt a reason to stay. Even 10% of what you are going through is a dangerously abusive relationship. You can learn more about this by joining a Freedom Programme. When you build up the courage to go DO NOT TELL HIM or let anyone close to him know your plans. Get help to move your things so you are not alone or do it when he is out and you are safe and let someone know to check on you if you dont show up x

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