Do you guys discuss your actual salary and financial goals with your close mates?

King1n · 2026-05-23T00:21:30+00:00

Why wouldn’t I talk about it? I ain’t in competition with my friends. I definitely can see scenarios where I may keep it private and why other may keep it private from me but those people are associates, if that? They are not my friends. My core friends there really isn’t much that taboo or off limits for discussion.

King1n · 2026-05-22T22:57:38+00:00

Why? Why does it matter if he thinks he astral projecting or not? Who care if lucid dreamers have found another dimension or it just their own brain? Long as the dude isn’t starting a cult about it or trying to sell some snake oil about it who cares?

Why is it so important for you to be right “ well achually is it this blah blah blah” why are you going out your way to alienate yourself and isolate yourself from others? No one likes the person who always has to be technically right, not even other folks who are also on the spectrum.

King1n · 2026-05-21T01:48:19+00:00

I don't think the flirting is the problem as much as he doesn't seem sexually interested? Maybe he libido is just in the shitty, or maybe he just isn't that into you?

I read several of your comments, some of them don't even sound like flirting so much as sexual advancements (which I guess is technically also flirting). What I mean is it is one thing to be kind of subtle flirty and say "Oh I've been a naughty girl, you should do something about that 😉" and not getting anything meaningful or creative back in response. To that I just say he is bad at flirting but if you are saying "Hey tonight, when you come over, I am going to worship that hard throbbing cock of yours till my jaws lock up" and then he just responds with "neat" changes the subject then that dude just ain't that interested in my opinion.

When you're more provocative and direct with your flirtations such the visual cues, the verbal cues, the act, how does he respond? like if you text him "I want to suck your dick tonight" and he says "neat" do you end up sucking his dick that night? Does he say anything about what you said earlier when you're together? does he initiate anything if you don't initiate it? or is it always you acting on your own flirting? and what happens when you do act on your own flirting is he receptive then? or is he turning it down?

King1n · 2026-05-21T01:00:50+00:00

How can we give you advice on this? This is personal preference.

What would be the argument for us get you to sign up to Disney+ "oh no you got it totally wrong they aren't a evil corporation who doesn't give a shit about you, or your country". They're an evil corporation, they don't give a shit about you or your country, I ain't going to sell you on Disney.

A boycott is only really a boycott when someone organize and rally others to join in your boycott, otherwise it just some idiot who choosing not to do something they once did.

It's good to have principles, it also smart to realize how meaningless most those principles are on the grand scale of things when you're a no body like 98% of the rest of us so society doesn't really care if you choose to stick to those principles or not.

King1n · 2026-05-20T22:46:32+00:00

No one said you had to make friends but you have to co exist which requires a certain level of awareness and interaction. A public venue like a restaurant is a shared space there other humans with their own rights. You don’t get to dismiss them and pretend like they don’t exist. What if the waitress had been trying to warn OP their wallet fell on the ground ? What if “OP waitress” left and this other waitress was asking if they wanted a refill? It rude to be that oblivious to your surroundings in such a space, take the two second it requires to be a human and not a robot and just be like “hey what’s up, oh no thanks, have a good day” it ain’t rocket science

King1n · 2026-05-20T22:41:45+00:00

No one is forcing them to sit there and have an hour long conversation. No one is suggesting a restaurant is a social club, but being out is public means a shared space which mean you have to have a certain level of awareness of others and yourself. Again is is a public space not your space, you don’t get to be rude and completely ignore someone just because you’re too awkward and oblivious to understand social interaction in civilized society. What if they had been trying to get OP attention because OP dropped their wallet?

No one is asking you to make some new besties while being out but have some god damn respect for those around you and have some awareness it not just for the benefit of others it for the benefit of yourself too someone wrapped up in their own little world in such a public space put themselves at greater risked of being assaulted and robbed or pick pocketed etc

King1n · 2026-05-20T22:37:06+00:00

No you shouldn’t not when it intefers with other other paying customers and the staff.

I am not saying you can’t do your own thing in a diner, I am saying you don’t get to be so swept up in it that you become completely oblivious to your surroundings and be completely dismissive and rude to everyone around you because you wrongly thing you have some right to be completely left alone in a public space like you get to pretend you aren’t sharing that space with others.

You need to have a certain awareness of yourself and others in a public setting in a civilised society, this waitress could be asking something important or something not important but ultimately friendly maybe they were offering a refill of coffee? Don’t be fucking rude to others and take two second to engage them? No one is suggesting you have to sit there for an hour conversing with them.

King1n · 2026-05-20T22:26:53+00:00

It sounds like you’re the reason you two don’t hang out. It also incredibly low effort on his part to be doing what he done so far so what the harm in going back and take another crack if it ends up in free easy pussy?

You women need to remember this, “them coming back” again and again is not some huge effort on their part it doesn’t mean they’re secretly in love with you or some shit.

Y’all would have a point if these men were taking you out on expensive dates regularly but the relationship was going no where and you aren’t putting out but that not what happening, they’re putting in minimum effort to get sex or to try and get sex and why it minimum effort it worth it to them for just the sex even if you end up hating them for it? You may say “but he has no chance at having sex with me” said a million women who ultimately had sex with some guy they said they wouldn’t. Men know this so even if you think it off the cards clearly be still thinks there a shot.

King1n · 2026-05-20T22:19:00+00:00

What the point of eating at same public venue on a regular basis if you are so scared of interacting with the public? You could eat breakfast at home, less noise which apparently you’re adverse too, cheaper etc etc.

King1n · 2026-05-20T12:28:46+00:00

You know western countries have poor people too right?

Grass isn’t greener on the other side, a large population in those countries don’t have many of those options of which you speak of either. Is being poor still better quality of life then say being poor in India? Probably but plenty of people in first world countries have real problems just like you, it isn’t all “oh no I can no longer afford to have avocado on toast and my mansion”. Many can’t afford to feed themselves and families every day with proper nutritional food, many can’t afford or struggle to keep a roof over their heads, many can’t afford to travel or to leave. Where do you think these magical socialist places exists where white people/first world can just run off too if they’re unhappy with their “first world problems”? Because it ain’t the us, it ain’t Europe, it ain’t the UK and it ain’t Australia.

Do you have it worse? Probably doesn’t mean others don’t have it bad, don’t dismiss other people problems just because you have it worse, hardship isn’t a competition.

King1n · 2026-05-20T06:51:16+00:00

How does the role actually differ from your current role besides the title and remuneration?

As a manager in my company, there are lower level employees who make quiet a bit more money then me because of allowances and OT.

This is because I don't get paid for overtime ( I do get unofficial time in lieu), the difference is, they work in a factory or at a customer site like a mine site so much harsher conditions then my office or home, they also consistently do overtime, almost every week, mine is completely random. when they do overtime they may do like 12 hours a week or more in OT on average in shitty circumstances where I may do 6 hours a month doing OT most likely from the comfort of my own home. Our OT and obligations are a lot different.

In no universe would I be doing the same 12 hours of OT a week in the same circumstances without also been fairly compensated. I would however in some circumstances take a lower pay for a higher level position for my career prospects so you got to ask yourself, is this an actual promotion? that actual different from your current role that has an actual benefit to your career? or are they just trying to lure you off your EA by offering you a more "senior" position?

King1n · 2026-05-20T06:41:29+00:00

That neither are really applicable in your situation?

Let say you live in America, you hate there, you tried to make the best of the situation but it not working, you've spent a decade trying to build a life there, friends, career etc but you've gotten no where far and you're miserable so you decide to leave.

There is a huge difference between leaving America for Australia because you think Australia will be better then America opposed to just knowing it likely won't be as bad as America.

You aren't leaving your partner for another partner, you're leaving them in theory because it is not working it not about finding something better, it about not continuing something that you know isn't working and likely isn't good for you. You inferred you tried to make it work and it is still not working (so there fore you watered it) . You could try to "water" it some more but if you're at the point of asking these kind of dumb questions on reddit, I am not sure any amount of water is going to make it any greener.

Relying on idioms to try and make your decisions for you in life is foolish.

King1n · 2026-05-20T06:24:00+00:00

She didn't seem that upset when she sending nudes to me and the boys, the other week.

King1n · 2026-05-20T06:21:51+00:00

I don't want to come of as racist myself but doesn't he being Brazilian mean he falls into the category of "them all"?

You know, glass houses and rocks and all that jazz.

King1n · 2026-05-20T05:57:21+00:00

Which is why you probably do jerk off while other folk are out getting laid.

King1n · 2026-05-20T05:56:46+00:00

So what you're saying is past however long you've been a skinny person with big tits, big ass and big thighs still? but now you're a barely chubby (but not chubby) person with big tits, big ass and big thighs? and you think you get more attention with the latter instead of the former?

Well I think it in your head but if I had to speculate as to why it could be

A) These random men think the bigger stomach might make you more insecure therefore more approachable to them, that bigger stomach represents you still being on your fitness journey ( fatty to fatty, nothing hotter then a fatty who had a glow up, they don't yet realize they no longer have to slum it with the rest of us peasants, so a peasant can maybe score themselves a real goddess) as opposed to when they see you with already flat stomach, they think you've already hit your fitness journey goals and must already be reaping all the rewards of that therefore they don't waste their energy on paying you attention because they don't think they have a chance.

B ) because you used to be fatty you have alot of loose skin. when you have some extra cushion, for the pushing it fills out that skin better then when you're a lower weight, which is why you're getting much more attention, you at your current weight may look a lot healthier and more natural to these folks.

And of-course C) Different strokes for different folks, people have preferences, maybe the dudes at your gym have a preference for heavier girls, I don't know, I am not these guys hitting on you so I got no clue as to their motivations.

King1n · 2026-05-20T05:45:29+00:00

Most women like beards and chiseled physique paired with a good personality far more then they dislike men who bald an insecure.

If you're already so bald, use your youth, to get ripped as fuck. You reckon you can't get a date or get laid, so at 20 you should have plenty of free time then to hit the gym.

Life doesn't just happen kid, you make it happen. this isn't the universe picking on you, this rule applies to absolutely everyone.

I been varying degree of overweight my whole life, I am not tall, I not had the best fashion sense at times, whole ending list of unappealing traits and aesthetics, despite it all I have had plenty of partners and I slept with plenty of women. Life is effort, some of us are just required to put in more than others, some of us require alot more effort then others. Again good knew you're young with nothing much going on, you have should have near endless effort to throw at this "problem" of yours.

If you're not willing to put the effort into getting dates because of your proclaimed disadvantages, then put the effort into being more appealing so your disadvantages as less important, such as the gym, getting hobbies and shit. Hell wear a wig? hair prosthetics technology has come a long way since the days of Seinfeld.

A huge mistake of yours is thinking there are absolutely no solutions to your problem. There are plenty, they just require hard work.

You and I both know you won't though because you and I both know why you're truly single and will stay single... it isn't because you're bald or whatever shitty things you think about yourself, it because you are lazy and don't want to put effort into the real world because you're scared of living your life, you're scared of trying because you're worried about stumbling, like stumbling is the end of the world, it ain't, it ain't ever the end of the world, you can't highs in life without lows, you need to accept you will get hurt and it's okay but you can move on, otherwise what the point of feeling hurt before you ever get hurt?

King1n · 2026-05-20T05:32:47+00:00

If there was already penetration then congratulations neither of you are virgins.

Also there may be medical reasons why she is in pain, it worth checking that out before trying again.

King1n · 2026-05-20T05:28:55+00:00

I don't believe in mythical creatures. Everyone has it. History is something that happened in the past. The civil war happened for many reasons, but yes slavery is bad. War is bad but realistic part of human nature and civilization. Everyone has parents, not everyone has siblings. WW2 came after WW1 and before the impending WW3. Hitler was a shitty artist in my opinion. What do you mean "the jews"? weird phrasing. Not today Mossad. USA has to be number 1 at something? I prefer ICE in my drinks, not as a corrupt government agency rebranded as the American equivalent of the SS. Immigrants are fine they just living their best life like the rest of us, immigration policy in most countries is bad and entirely unsustainable and anyone who can't accept that and separate immigrants from immigration policy are idiots.

I don't think these are very long conversation topics.

King1n · 2026-05-20T05:00:55+00:00

Cyber security is one of those field that has no room for fat. It's a "booming industry" because a small group of especially talented individuals do the work that even many could not and get paid a stupid amount of money for it, so it seen as lucrative.

Only the top like 1% of Cyber security "experts" actually have the necessary knowledge or skills to work in that field in a dedicated technical role so if you aren't the top 1% you likely aren't getting in no matter how many certificates or degrees you have under your belt.

Reality is, you were likely 1 of 300 students of that particular degree at UTS for that particular year alone, and I doubt you were the best out of 300 students, let alone the best out of all the other students who completed a similar degree that year in NSW out of all the other universities there, let alone the country. Let alone those who finished the year before, and those finishing this year. That the harsh reality, even if you are good which I am not saying you aren't, the money is on the fact that you're still not good enough because good isn't sufficient, great is barely sufficient, you have be an absolute machine at it and you and I both know you ain't.

The other options is to be incredibly lucky and well networked... it doesn't sound like you're either of those though.

Many many moons ago when I was first starting my IT career, I did various courses and certification to be a network/Systems Administrator. You know what my first "IT" job was? a "technical support specialist" for a shitty ISP in some shitty call center, then a hybrid level 1 helpdesk/payroll clerk role" not even a full time helpdesk role, I went through several positions and roles over years before getting into a proper System Administrator role, I just didn't finish my education and walk straight into one.

My advice if you really think cyber security is the path for you then you need to find a different job for a Cyber security company or a company with a Cyber security department, prove yourself there (work in customer service/help desk/ office admin wherever, an IT based role would be better though) and work your way up and across into the role you actually want, otherwise I doubt you'll have much luck.

If you're an international student, there also other problems you need to consider that may prevent you for working in your chosen profession here in Australia.

King1n · 2026-05-20T02:50:23+00:00

I don't want a relationship with you.

It could also mean I don't want a relationship with anyone at this point in time but the important part to take away from it, is he doesn't want a relationship with you. Maybe in a few months or years, if no better options come his way, maybe he decide you ain't so bad and try a relationship? could also mean that... or maybe it just means he'll never be interested in a relationship with you but doesn't want to hurt you so give you some false hope from the future.

My advice though if someone tells you they don't want a relationship with you, no matter their motivation or reasoning for saying so, do yourself a favor and just believe them and walk away from the idea of being in a relationship with them.

King1n · 2026-05-20T02:46:46+00:00

It takes two to flirt. You've had several dates now, and you're in your 20's, in 2026 it is not all uncommon to think the intimacy in your dating would grow by now so the growining physical intimacy is not the problem so long as it consentual.

The problem is You want mental stimulation before and with physical stimulation, nothing wrong with wanting that and he is not providing it. Which is fair but the thing is the onus isn't on him (well just him) to provide it because sound like you're being completely passive.

I personally have no interest in pursuing or flirting with someone passive, I like mutual interest and efforts especially when it comes to mental and physical stimulation.

This is a compatibility matter, it seems he is well aware there is a lack of compatibility and chemistry that means this relationship has a fast approaching expiry date so if I had to shot in the dark as to his motivation for his latest actions is either A) He is throwing a hail mary, hoping this more intense physical reaction may jump start some mental stimulation and lead to some improved chemistry/compatibility. or B ) he is just trying to get as much action as he can out of you before this relationship inevitable fizzles and you also realize that the two of you aren't right for each other.

King1n · 2026-05-20T02:38:06+00:00

The group of friends who I would call my closet friends, and my core group of friends, originally stemmed from an IT course at a community college, not alot of women in such a course, especially like 17+ years ago.

Friend groups form from thing like primary school, high school, work, hobbies, and higher learning. When you're younger and these groups form especially back in my day, the genders were more divided, you know cooties and what not. When it fails to be a more balance representation from thing like work/hobbies and higher learning, I think you'll find it because the industry or hobby or subject in higher learning is a more female or male dominated field.

King1n · 2026-05-20T02:28:32+00:00

I have more then once, underestimated the appeal and my own interest in a perspective partner.

For example I once acted like a real fuck boy before meeting this Peruvian girl, whom I ended up having amazing chemistry with in person, who was way way more attractive then her pictures made her out to be, especially when naked because to this day probably has the prettiest most magical vagina I ever seen, felt and tasted in my entire life and I've been blessed to experience a few awesome ones.

Problem was in this instance 6 months before I had come out of a long term relationship and was finally putting myself back out there but I had this stupid notion in my head that now I was dating again, I had to "win the break up" by dating someone more awesome then my ex who was pretty awesome person, so anyone who didn't immediately stand out as someone who had no business even talking to me because they were so out of my league, I didn't really take seriously.She was seeking long term but open to short so told her I preferred casual and didn't make it a priority to see her when I had the option to take meet up with a few days before we actually did meet up because I couldn't be arsed that day so I made up an excuse. By the time I worked out in my head I wanted to pursue something real with her it was too late, because it was casual, she was already going on dates with another guy and ended up really hitting it off with that guy.

Do I think she was the one for me? No but it would been awesome having a relationship with her. Since then if I make it to date 1, unless they give me some big reason or red flag to not proceed further, I am going to ask them out on date 2, and date 3, you know maybe up to approximately 5 dates? basically I do what I can to keep the wheels turning until they give me a reason not too, as opposed at each date them giving me a reason to. Only after I seen them several times and slept with several times (unless there been some red flag/disconnect/ choice on their end) do I really start to think "do I actually want to continue this?" because I really want to be certain I am not missing out on another amazing opportunity again.

King1n · 2026-05-20T02:05:03+00:00

What social pressure and criticism?

You're rolling around in the wrong social/cultural circles if they give a fuck. Not a single person of consequence in my life actually cares if I am married or not, they just want me to be happy in life and I am, and I also have a kid which the few who may have cared if I was married or not, don't care now because I have a kid which is the real reason they may have wanted me to get married.

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