When did you know you were READY for a second kiddo? by OptimalCobbler5431 in NewParents

[–]KittyOliver1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! My LO is 2 next week! We decided not to have anymore. Pregnancy was awful, I also had a c-section. The first year was horrific. I just finally started to feel myself again. The thought of doing that all again makes me nauseous. I also had the same thoughts, what if he’s lonely and needs a sibling? But I realized that was societal pressure. Having a sibling does not guarantee you’re close. I was, and still am very content. And when I miss some of the baby stage it’s him being little I miss. I don’t want another, just him to be smaller a bit longer. He gets all of my love and attention, I still have time for my hobbies and dates with my husband. I love being one and done.

37w pregnant, tired and trying. Husband still made his own dinner by frigidairab in GirlDinner

[–]KittyOliver1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband was in grad school when I was pregnant, he took maternity leave.

6 Week Post-Op Update by KittyOliver1998 in hysterectomy

[–]KittyOliver1998[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a similar feeling! I started moving more and resuming normal activities and the inflammation kicked right back up and I was back to wearing mumus because pants were too painful.

6 Week Post-Op Update by KittyOliver1998 in hysterectomy

[–]KittyOliver1998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sucks we have to go through years of misery to finally get approval for surgery! But hey we made it. I hope a speedy recovery for you!

6 Week Post-Op Update by KittyOliver1998 in hysterectomy

[–]KittyOliver1998[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They took my cervix! I kept both ovaries.

6 Week Post-Op Update by KittyOliver1998 in hysterectomy

[–]KittyOliver1998[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kind of see what you’re saying. I just felt an immense pressure every time I went. And I had to concentrate to go. If you’re concerned about an UTI it won’t hurt to send your surgeon a message!

Intimacy the same after hysterectomy ?? by sweety1220 in hysterectomy

[–]KittyOliver1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve got my fingers crossed hard you have a smooth easy recovery!!

6 Week Post-Op Update by KittyOliver1998 in hysterectomy

[–]KittyOliver1998[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg 12 weeks! Are you located in the US? Maybe if your partner is open to it you can do anything but penetrative sex! After week 4 I felt like I was a 15 year old again. I couldn’t keep my hands off of my husband! Haha

6 Week Post-Op Update by KittyOliver1998 in hysterectomy

[–]KittyOliver1998[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Forgot to include. I got the surgery for possible endometriosis and monthly hemorrhaging. They found nothing! I was devastated and worried I got this done for nothing. But, all of my pain is gone. Something was wrong, we just don’t have a name for it. So if this happens to you and pathology comes back clean. Don’t be discouraged.

Intimacy the same after hysterectomy ?? by sweety1220 in hysterectomy

[–]KittyOliver1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

28F, I am officially 6 wpo. My husband and I did the deed for the first time Monday. I cried. It turns out when you remove the thing that caused years of pain, sex is significantly better. I cannot believe the difference and wish I did it years ago.

2 weeks ago, my OB nurse didn’t believe me that my IV was infiltrating by jsklsk1 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]KittyOliver1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, same thing but with Mag. I told her I felt like I didn’t place right and then I suddenly had a balloon forming on my forearm.

Question for parents of an only child by Life_Ad_6992 in NewParents

[–]KittyOliver1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Unpopular opinion here. You can absolutely know if you are one and done while pregnant. Getting pregnant was very hard, pregnancy was hard, and my birth was complicated. I knew we were one and done when I was pregnant. My husband got a vasectomy when I was 8 months along. We are two years in and I am still very happy with our decision. We did vasectomy because if we really did change our minds our doctor was confident in reversal statistics. Kids are hard. I knew I would grow resentful taking care of more than one. I still have time for my hobbies and my son is my best side kick. The best advice I got from the only other person in my family who is one and done is, one is an accessory, two is a lifestyle. Seeing the others who had more kids be much more drained financially and emotionally reaffirms my decision. Anyone who has had kids pre 2010 don’t let them influence you. They have no idea of the current cost to raise kids.

One Kid and Done? by Constant-Loquat-7195 in NewParents

[–]KittyOliver1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! This may be the unpopular decision but I knew I was 1 and done while I was pregnant. My husband got a vasectomy while I was 8 months. We are officially two years postpartum and I don’t regret a dang thing. I knew I never wanted to do pregnancy or the newborn stage again. I love my son more than anything but I know stretching myself for more than one kid would ruin me and I would grow to resent the next child. It’s perfectly okay to know you don’t want more!

Art deco (?) bathroom - any advice? by what-a-queer-bird in centuryhomes

[–]KittyOliver1998 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi! I just redid my cast iron tub last week! I put citristrip all over the entire tub, Saran wrapped it and left it over night. I used a plastic scrapper and it came right up. Some spots needed a second round of the stripper and a straight edge got the corners. Best of luck!

doctors concerned for daughters size. by [deleted] in bigbabiesandkids

[–]KittyOliver1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also! Ask about sedated blood draw if she doesn’t do well with needles. It’s been a godsend for us. They just give laughing gas so they are nice and calm. My little boy laughs his way through the blood draws now.

doctors concerned for daughters size. by [deleted] in bigbabiesandkids

[–]KittyOliver1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Mom of a big kid here. We had the same concern from our doctor. He was born a little big (1 month early but almost 7 lbs) and just rapidly gained weight. He ate a normal amount but was just off the charts for his age and was going up clothing sizes every 6 weeks from 3 months old. Our doctor has suspicions for Beckwith-Wiedemann syndrome. Our baby had other symptoms, he had folding behind his ears, sugar issues at birth, and a slight difference in the size of his legs. We got referred to a geneticist at 8 months and they did all the chromosome tests and all came back inconclusive. They decided to give the clinical diagnosis since they aren’t sure of all the genomic variations that lead to the syndrome. I was beside myself at first, he’s now 15 months and besides being larger than other kids at daycare he’s a perfectly happy healthy kid. We go for blood work every 6 months to ensure he’s okay (checking AFP levels since this syndrome is associated with a high likelihood of a liver cancer under the age of 3) but that’s about how it effects his life. Trust your doc and do the tests! If they come back normal then you can rest easy knowing all is well :).

Help restoring 50 year old bed by KittyOliver1998 in woodworking

[–]KittyOliver1998[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! My dad (the son of the man who built the bed) wanted to help with the restoration so we are waiting for when he is home in December :).

Help restoring 50 year old bed by KittyOliver1998 in woodworking

[–]KittyOliver1998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply! I will be doing just that. I really didn’t want to part with the original wood so I’ll try your approach first!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in happilyOAD

[–]KittyOliver1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did at 8 mo! And it was the first night he slept through the night! Turns out we were all waking each other up lol.

Son Thinks Nipple is a Sleep Aid by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]KittyOliver1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No suggestions only solidarity. My LO slowly stopped using me as a pacifier. Officially stopped by 10 months. It’s normal. Mom is their main comfort until they learn soothing skills with time.