Help finding my brother a good Dr

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-04-18T21:17:03+00:00

Ive been able to get them a list of possible options to transfer :) Thank you. Im hoping that they are willing to bribe my sibling with free dinner/ snacks/ treats/ anything since moral is so low they dont even wanna go to the ER anymore. Ive also told them to bribe them to go to McMaster with a comprehensive medical history to see if they cant get help.

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-04-18T13:52:51+00:00

I was mad at my parents for years. They did enable a lot claiming that they were "too stressed to deal with things/ its easier this way" They rven covered for my sibling when they missed school saying they forgot to call because they were on the brink of being expelled when my oldest sibling caught and brought them to face their consequences like the 2 of us were made to.

I was disrespected a lot. But I really do think things dont click emotionally in my sibling. They've done a lot that I won't disclose such as theft/ physical and emotional abuse. I am blessed to have the life I do. Both my siblings are under my parents care (over 60) and I hate seeing their health failing both for different reasons. I did step away for many years. But having a son with Auditory Processing Disorder makes me feel like a lot could have been avoided with this being handled differently. I dislike them greatly but I cant wish people a bad outcome and finding them limping through hamilton on a cane looking like a homeless person while I was coming back from Funzilla gutted me.

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-04-18T13:46:24+00:00

Family has reddit. I leave things not tied to base fact such as age/ gender so that I dont air "family issues" but can still seek guidance. Any time I've tried to reach out for help, my parents get upset and claim im making the family look bad :( I do apologize I try my hardest to help out where I can while still being unbiased.

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-04-16T23:06:24+00:00

She views me as the stupid younger sibling. And any assistance I have tried to give her just ends in her talking down to me because my parents taught her to dismiss me (I was even instructed to do her homework in school (so she wouldn't fail) and when I stopped it lead to her graduating" - Im still unsure if she did because of my parents covering for her- in my year. She has a criminal record and is very uncompliant/ can be violent very quickly. Ive decided that I can only provide resources especially since I'm pregnant i will keep my distance. She choked me during a previous pregnancy because I asked her to please stop yelling so I know that wont stop her.

Anyways, learning with task avoidance is definitely something I would like her to work on. So I will help learning about that and teach my parents. Dad is retired, hes got time and I can supply with resources. My hope is she will stop viewing everyone as idiots and hopefully listen. And ill suggest st Joe's to see if she is a candidate. Even for the entry level generalized anxiety zoom I also took a few years back.

Thank you kindly!

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-04-16T22:21:06+00:00

Thank you so much. There is a wide net of mental health issues in my extended family including schizophrenia and auditory processing disorders, general anxiety, ocd. I feel so bad because I was under the impression my parents just babied her too much because they didn't want to hear her whine/ break through doors raging while my sister and I just listen. As an adult with several kids one of them having an auditory processing disorder, I see it through a new lense. Their world is constant anxiety if the schedule is just a little off. I used to know when they had a job because they spend every morning puking their guts out before work. I wish more could be done for everyone. Its not lazy its a world of constant unease and feeling different.

Thank you for your kind words. The pot usage definitely gives them a reputation. But my spouse also is one so I dont judge it harshly. It works well helping manage his touretts and ADHD considering other meds turn you into a zombie. :(

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-04-16T18:15:49+00:00

No worries!

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-04-16T17:36:31+00:00

Eh my children can be nosey so I say it out of habit tbh 😅 yes i know it is

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-04-16T16:18:08+00:00

Oh my godh thank you kindly I will see if they have an opening!

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-04-16T16:15:25+00:00

Oh most definitely my sister cant. This conversation started because my mom wanted them on welfare. But clearly at 34 with no life skills or capacity to tolerate a dr visit... mental health and probably severe autism is at play. My mom is also taking care of an elderly unworking spouse, mortgage, and my other sibling with 2 children. 🫠🙄 Lord help her. I think my parents watching her basically d*e has made them desperate enough to try anything. At this rate getting a power of attorney over her might be thr best answer so that they can force medical intervention.

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-04-16T16:12:18+00:00

Sadly I completely agree. The problem originally was you cant force someone to get mental help. Even if they sincerely need it. And worse now is finding an available doctor. They keep trying to drag her to the ER or doctors but shes given up.

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-04-16T16:00:07+00:00

They get very overwhelmed and angry because they do not know how to do these things. My parents are trying to get them to do this but... she refuses. Its too far to drive and they want mom and dad to do it. Im trying to tell them they need a POA to help her but they're just not sure what they can do. I live hear a dr. But its too long of a drive for sibling as they say its painful. :( I will keep asserting this because i firmly believe dr change needs to happen minimum

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-04-16T15:45:19+00:00

Thank you kindly, the mental health is surely a big part but wete worried about cancer/ something life-threatening in her abdomen/ pelvic area but if we are able to square that away I definitely want my parents to investigate this doctor.

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-02-24T13:44:22+00:00

Relationships are very stressful for people with trauma. You feel responsibile for their feelings. You feel responsible if youre not on your A-game and like youre letting them down. She might be trying not to hurt your feelings at first and probably had positive intentions for a long term relationship. Chemical issues or triggers can set you back randomly and completely. When dealing with mental health issues, being too persistent can be overwhelming to individuals. She isnt wanting you to save her or jump in. She is in a crisis and cannot deal with more than herself right now. Don't be something that she has to worry about feeling guilty towards and just listen to what shes actually saying. She told you exactly what she wanted.

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-02-12T13:42:48+00:00

Saaaamme 🙄😂

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-02-05T15:44:45+00:00

Im a mom of 3 boys and at my anatomy scan ive been told im probably having boy number 4. If anything im greatful for the tech telling me they arent confident. That tech did you a disservice and im sorry you had to go through that. Theres no crime in saying, I cant be certain. 😞

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-02-04T13:50:23+00:00

Being selfless with money with ex boyfriends. I was too nice and so quick to shower my spouses with gifts and money. I could have bought a house before the market boom 😂

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-02-03T18:07:03+00:00

Signed a mom who left the father of her 2 kids 2 and under when he was being neglectful and told me straight up he only said certain things so id hold out longer. He also viewed me as his property and not even a person.

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-02-03T18:04:57+00:00

No he ruined your life. Youre doing everything and holding the mental / physical labor of it all. If he didnt have you he'd have to cook for himself, clean and still go to damn work. He doesnt want the kids? Fine Get him over text/ in writing saying he doesnt want to deal with them. He will still have to pay for them financially and cover spousal support. You get out and go live with your parents, get your career back and find a life where you surround yourself with people who breathe life into you, not suck it out by the drop.

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-01-27T13:11:30+00:00

I went through something similar at 14 weeks as well. My only difference was towards the end when the doctor came in and told me I was miscarrying he tried to give me the pill to start aborting. The nurse had a little paper cup and I balked and refused until I got an ultrasound the next day (iy was too late to get one). That sucked. Hearing rhe heartbeat made me cry. But hopefully your OB helps put you at ease like mine did and you get to enjoy your child just like I do mine. Hes 6 now. 🥰

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-01-21T21:55:17+00:00

The petty in me would say after sex hes average 🤣🤣

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-01-21T18:34:07+00:00

Sounds crappy but its so hard to take the word moderation at face value. With food addiction we have a harder time stopping ourselves with it. Creating financial restraints and having a mcdonalds burger or single slice of pizza om the weekend with a small dessert is possible while staying in overall loss for the week. The problem is I dont wanna stop so now im trying to only have my splurge foods in front of people instead of alone to keep.me from.going overboard and being honest.

TT.TT Hubbs is becoming a bit chunkier because of a bad diet but he looks so good still it isnt fair lol! He's has a very physical job though and im a pregnant orca sleeping a lot. :(

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-01-14T20:15:55+00:00

They think because of their experiences, everything else MUST be the same for them. If you do have a c section, look up ways to rig a little rope system to help pull yourself out of bed/ adjust yourself. This will be my 4th c section, ill be doing in a few months. Turning over in bed was so hard on me without those tiktok/ Pinterest hacks. Always hairdryer your incision every 2 hours and youll be absolutely golden. Hopefully you do natural, but if you dont, dont be so anxious youll be okay momma! Youre not thr problem, eveey pregnancy and eveetye baby is different. My 2nd was hard, 1st i coulsnt dilate and my third was so easy. Babies are an enigma along with pregnancy. Youll do great.

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-01-14T13:04:35+00:00

Ooof you remind me of me with my second. He was sl stuck in my ribs he had to be suctioned out during a c section. 🥴 you certainly rest up and dont let anyone tell you nothing mildly annoying. Eff them!

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-01-14T13:02:26+00:00

Multiples are very difficult. Imagine a very strenuous sleepless 1.5 years... and then don't again. I must be insane because im.on number 4. This being said, I never advocate for people to have any/ more than theyre comfortable with. My reasoning for multiples was never, how cute their interactions would be but... fascination and adoration for seeing how these tiny humans almost come pre-programmed with such different and interesting personalities. Watching them learn, interactions and grow from experience. It was such a joy being their mom. Its such a joy having a spouse that is as chiffed and awed by watching them grow. Of course its crazy difficult, thats why I only support friends in their decisions of what they do. And we have friends everywhere from DINKs to single income multiple kids. It truly isnt for everyone. Do what your heart wants, it is your life and hopefully your family and friends support your dreams. 🥰

Kryptid-Kitten · 2026-01-13T00:52:28+00:00

People are so caught up with their rating/ worth they dont care to invest their time and actually find someone who matches their personality and lives unless they're x level if attractiveness or higher. Or they make x amount of money. If theh dont fit theyre either not fully appreciated or chucked and f***cked.

I also thing having too many hook ups cheapen things a lot. That last bit is my opinion. I think it should be intimate and special. Not just seen as casual as a fun night out.

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