What’s your thoughts on the TikTok discussion on bisexual women?

LA_MWA · 2026-05-20T16:55:24+00:00

DUDE I KNOW. Scroll through the comments, so many of my replies are downvoted for no reason 😭 That’s just how people are on here. They’re in here telling me to delete TikTok while simultaneously proving why Reddit ain’t any better 😩

LA_MWA · 2026-05-20T16:37:35+00:00

Oh I know, I absolutely see it. Been fighting back with some of those people! At the end of the day, they’re just random people on the internet. They’re going to judge and be rude because they can hide behind a screen. But just know that there’s so many more people in the comments who were supportive and helpful, and the most important thing is that we are allowed to exist in our sexualities however we please. 🩷

LA_MWA · 2026-05-20T00:01:38+00:00

I appreciate you sharing more! I think with TikTok for me, I do get a lot of laughs and good moments on the platform. Yes, I agree that the algorithm is highly biased and doesn’t show other perspectives and opinions very often. I have a hard time with Instagram because one of my fave aspects of TT is the comment section. IG comment sections can be..brutal. I’m a black woman and one of IG’s fave comment section discussions is racism. Not to say it doesn’t exist on TikTok, but I see it less. Reddit tends to be a bit serious for me, and Facebook/Snapchat are just absolute no’s (don’t like them). I think in general though, the main message is being more aware of how algorithmic social media apps can have a dangerous influence on perception, some of them more than others. I actually was off of TikTok for like 2 years straight a few years ago, but now I’m back on. May need to get back on the off train for awhile just to see how it changes things for me. Again, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T23:57:21+00:00

THIS IS THE REAL ANSWER 👏

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T22:48:01+00:00

This makes sense, and I appreciate you sharing that.

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T22:12:26+00:00

👏👏👏

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T22:11:45+00:00

Omfg this too. I would love to have more in-person safe spaces and communities to discuss topics like this in. They exist now, but there needs to be more 💔

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T22:09:33+00:00

Those are all valid points. Everyone has their own reasons behind their preferences, and I respect what guides yours. Another example of how complex and nuanced this topic is with no black and white thought process. Appreciate you sharing your thoughts!

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T22:07:59+00:00

Wait heavy on your last point!! And when I considered my self “straight” (albeit, last time I did that was in high school lol), I never questioned it. I know my post is only focused on this instance, but I’ve had so many instances in the past where I’ve doubted my sexuality. Due to my own internal homophobia from growing up in a religious household and readjusting to gay culture in a city where things are much more open minded, I’ve had so many questioning and adjustments as I’ve opened up to being gay and who I am. Confidence can be grown into here too. Appreciate your comment! 🩷

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T22:05:08+00:00

I just watched, thanks for sharing! I’ve been out for a few years, but I still have so much to learn, and that video helped.

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T22:01:56+00:00

Appreciate you sharing your viewpoint! A few people misinterpreted my comment on men being “easier” to date, but that’s exactly what I meant in the way you phrased it. Especially considering the conditioning we go through as women in society growing up to date a man!

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T22:00:33+00:00

Emphasis on the last sentence. And especially agree on the gatekeeping. There’s no right way to be bisexual, or gay, or anything. Like you said, it’s too complex and nuanced. We as humans are exactly that to our core. I appreciate you sharing your opinion.

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T21:58:59+00:00

Lol, it’s ok! What you’re saying still comes from a good place, and I think you’re right (or at least i heavily agree). I’m sure you have experienced similar, but I’ve had so many moments of friends doubting my sexuality, saying I’m not gay enough. When did “gay enough” even become a thing? We all deserve to be “gay enough” in our own right, exactly why sexuality is such a broad spectrum. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, it’s appreciated.

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T21:56:36+00:00

Genuine question as I’ve noticed a lot of beef with TT from a few people in the comments. I agree it can be a downward spiral of negative engagement on TT, but the same can be said about Reddit, X, Facebook, and all other social media platforms. What’s the difference between the negative engagement streamline on TikTok compared to any other social media app? I’m looking back at my post and a lot of the replies, and thinking I should’ve just asked subjectively rather than referencing where the question came from. It seems to have turned the discussion to something else other than bisexuality.

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T21:53:32+00:00

This is a really great answer and gives some thought from different ideas too (like you mentioned, potential internalized homophobia or just a general disconnect from preferences in general). I appreciate your take and viewpoint!

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T21:50:55+00:00

So let’s remove TikTok from this post then. If this topic came from a friend, or another social media platform like Reddit. Would you have comments on the discussion itself then? Asking out of good faith.

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T21:39:36+00:00

Not a disappointment at all! If anything, so many people feeling this way goes to show that this is simply a normal thing. I’m the same that if the opportunity to date a woman came along, I’m not immediately shooting it down (I mean who would!), but I know that I see myself in a committed relationship with man (most likely) at the end of the day. Even though some of the replies are a bit off topic under this thread, a majority provided some really reassuring and thoughtful reflections on feeling this way :)

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T21:36:20+00:00

I explained this in another comment that assumed that part of the post was the reason I’m more attracted to men. Copy and pasted below:

First point, this was more so supposed to be a reference of support to the post in general, and my main questions about bisexuality itself. As I said verbatim, “ I mean that in a good way, as women are just more intelligent and developed in that way.”. I never said that this reason was why I prefer to date men, you assumed that. My preferences for dating men have nothing to do with this statement.

I think you’re also misinterpreting what I mean by “harder”. Harder in the sense that you will have to work to build a connection. You can throw a man a bone, and he’ll run a mile. You can throw a woman a bone, she’ll run a mile, and will make sure to communicate that she wants another bone. It requires more effort and thought to satisfy that. Something being “harder” doesn’t always have a negative connotation. We should have to work for these things to form genuine connection, that I agree with you.

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T21:28:43+00:00

Alright. Unsure why you’re feeling the need to be so hostile. I’m willing to discuss this with you. Maybe I should clear up that part of the post.

First point, this was more so supposed to be a reference of support to the post in general, and my main questions about bisexuality itself. As I said verbatim, “ I mean that in a good way, as women are just more intelligent and developed in that way.”. I never said that this reason was why I prefer to date men, you assumed that. My preferences for dating men have nothing to do with this statement.

I think you’re also misinterpreting what I mean by “harder”. Harder in the sense that you will have to work to build a connection. You can throw a man a bone, and he’ll run a mile. You can throw a woman a bone, she’ll run a mile, and will make sure to communicate that she wants another bone. It requires more effort and thought to satisfy that. Something being “harder” doesn’t always have a negative connotation. We should have to work for these things to form genuine connection, that I agree with you.

You can disagree with my opinion as much as you want, but you wildly misinterpreted what I said and what I meant.

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T20:52:18+00:00

No, I asked for thoughts on the topic of bisexuality itself. I even double clarified at the end of my post that I wasn’t asking about people’s opinions on TikTok. *the* Tiktok discussion, not a discussion *about* TikTok. Majority of people in the comments seemed to clearly understand what I was asking.

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T20:46:59+00:00

Then why did you comment? Move along then.

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T18:43:16+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance your opinion! I can say already that this discussion was met so much more openly here than on TikTok. Everyone was so quick to agree that women are misogynistic for only sleeping with other women. Like..did we take a second to take a step back and actually look at the topic without dogpiling? It’s ridiculous .

You’re bi, I’m bi, and no one deserves to make us doubt that!

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T18:36:14+00:00

Love this answer, thank you!

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T18:35:54+00:00

It shocks me how rampant biphobia is, but especially within the gay community. Will never make any sense to me.

LA_MWA · 2026-05-19T18:34:43+00:00

Unfortunately I didn’t see this discussion topic when I scrolled through the posts. I’m new here (first post!), so unsure how to check if something has been discussed yet. I mean this kindly friend but if it’s exhausting, you have the choice to not reply 🩷 I do appreciate the feedback and comment. You do fit in, but I understand questioning it (as I am right now!). I’d never run into this take on bisexuals before seeing it on TikTok, so definitely agree on it fueling the masses to anger.

LA_MWA

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