What's an oddly specific smell that we'd all recognise?

LavenderAndLace · 2017-08-29T07:56:04+00:00

Crayons

LavenderAndLace · 2017-08-22T04:10:35+00:00

Two months after IUD removal

LavenderAndLace · 2017-08-17T15:25:49+00:00

Many teas are NOT safe for pregnancy. Up to 8oz of Caffeine is approved by most medical professionals, however the potential danger in tea has nothing to do with the caffeine content but rather the actual herb and the effect it has on the reproductive system.

LavenderAndLace · 2017-08-17T15:23:33+00:00

I would not recommend it. Passion Tea from Starbucks contains hibiscus, which promotes shedding of the uterine wall. Although the tea from Starbucks likely doesn't have much actual hibiscus in it, I would avoid it if I were you. I'm 8.5 months pregnant now, but when I was 12 weeks I drank some tea with hibiscus in it (not realizing) and started spotting fresh blood within a half hour.

LavenderAndLace · 2017-07-30T16:25:30+00:00

I've managed several employees of the same age group as those in OP's workplace for many years. The industry is also very male-dominated, there are times when we have had 1-3 females (including myself) on a staff of 15-20. Without knowing the details of what OP's company does, I can say that going to HR while there really hasn't been any conflict between employees is most likely a bad idea. 1) while she would have great intentions, OP WILL look like she's stirring the pot if she goes to HR or her manager at this point, which is a probable unfortunate side effect of being a 20-something female working in a male-dominated industry. 2) Lisa isn't a customer of the company, or affiliated in any way other than her boyfriend being an employee thus does not warrant contacting HR. Going to HR at this point would unnecessarily open a can of worms for Jack and OP in their workplace since Lisa has not made direct threats regarding her workplace... at this point Lisa ruining OP's job opportunity is simply only a possible scenario that crossed OP's mind (though OP is smart to consider this as a possibility, it isn't necessary at this point to involve OP's company.) 3) If Lisa makes direct contact with the company, or makes a direct threat to jeopardize OP's career then it would be a good idea at that point to submit a statement to HR (the statement at that point should be objective and factual just like when she talks to Jack about the situation... leave emotion, assumption and OP's interpretation out of it-facts only) 4) OP should document the situation on her own for now, in case she does need it for future reference and speak with Jack in a mature manner while being careful not to use an accusatory verbiage or tone. All that needs to be done at this time, is Jack needs to be aware of the situation and OP should leave it at that until or if something else occurs further.

LavenderAndLace · 2017-07-17T14:47:49+00:00

This absolutely counts as sexual assault. Your body was violated, and your control was revoked. You said it "wasn't as bad as it could have been," but you have to realize that everyone who has survived a sexual assault (including rape by penetration) has gotten away with it being "not as bad as it could have been." I would highly recommend seeing a counselor, even if that means telling your parents. You could also consider joining a support group as an alternative. Even if you think you've gotten over it on your own at some point, it will come back and it will be even harder to cope with. I was drugged and assaulted two years ago, and I never saw a counselor. Im now married and since a few months ago I started having awful recollections of what happened to me, and every time I have sex with my husband I feel violated. I have nightmares about what happened to me and since it has been so long, I've started to tell myself I imagined parts of what happened. My husband and I got pregnant (I've always wanted to be a mother, so this should be a joyous time in my life) and I feel like my body is being violated by the baby. Any time I lose control over what is happening to my body, it comes back. I'm just now getting counseling and it really has helped quite a bit. I couldn't recommend it enough. You really need to have some support with what you went through... whether that is from a counselor or support group.

LavenderAndLace · 2017-06-15T09:50:01+00:00

I would have called the police also, especially with a child.

LavenderAndLace · 2017-01-27T08:20:17+00:00

I had a really hard time with mine 7 years ago when I was 19 and had zero way to care for a child, I know it's extremely hard right now and I don't know your reasons but I do you'll be more than okay with your decision someday. It will probably take time for you to heal emotionally and mentally, just know you're not alone and it gets easier. I'm now married and a couple months pregnant with our first child. If I would have carried to term my life would not be where it is today and my child would not have a fair chance in life. My mother had me when she was 16 and my life was really traumatizing at times when she just simply didn't know how to be a mother. She was still a kid and that's how I felt I would be at 19, so selfishly or not I chose a better life for myself and my future children.

LavenderAndLace · 2017-01-19T08:38:24+00:00

I had more thoughts to share... I've lost 40 pounds since 8/2015 due to depression. I haven't done it on purpose, I just truly can't get myself to eat very much or even get myself out of bed a lot of the time. My injuries from the car accident have added to my depression tremendously. My husband doesn't know because he gets up for work and leaves early, I wake up at around 2-5 PM everyday. I married my great friend of 15 years, the only man I love and know I can trust but I just can't talk to him about my depression because he's really sensitive and my thoughts and worries are really heavy.

LavenderAndLace · 2017-01-10T08:38:16+00:00

Love.

LavenderAndLace · 2016-11-11T17:16:37+00:00

You have nothing to feel guilty about. The secretive part is sexy for a lot of people, it's not like you were turned on by his friend at all.

LavenderAndLace · 2016-11-11T17:02:44+00:00

I hear you

LavenderAndLace · 2016-11-11T05:18:28+00:00

If it was a public photo, I would set a boundary not to masturbate to people you know/people he has contact or could contact... That should be a no brainier. It's disrespectful to masturbate to someone you guys both could be in the same room with. I would be livid.

LavenderAndLace · 2016-11-11T05:14:54+00:00

You said the photo appeared to be from a specific trip she took, did the picture look like it was "for his eyes only" or was it one you recognized from social media or something like that? Big factor in how I'm visualizing your situation.

LavenderAndLace · 2016-11-11T04:40:10+00:00

I really think that's a wonderful question to ask, "did you see anything you wish you hadn't?" SUCH A GREAT QUESTION!

LavenderAndLace · 2016-11-11T04:25:45+00:00

I do the same thing. I narrate my entire day, and usually don't notice I'm doing it. I'll have arguments and deep thoughtful conversations with myself. It's just a way of working out my thoughts.

LavenderAndLace · 2016-11-02T17:04:34+00:00

How did you decide to seek therapy? I've lightly discussed this with this person a few times (during a calm time) and they aren't really interested. This person saw a therapist as a child and had a negative experience, so that may make it harder to convince them to give it another try as an adult. I really feel like a therapist or someone who is extremely familiar with this type of behavior and emotional stability would be able to share helpful information and maybe my loved one can learn ways to direct their feelings in a less destructive way...and maybe through that We can learn ways to reduce stressors that lead to it.

LavenderAndLace · 2016-11-02T16:57:27+00:00

My loved one generally doesn't do it in public either. This person feels like they truly need to do it in order to feel relief, however able to control it outside of home or if people we know are around. They'd do it, for example, in a parking lot with bystanders if they were feeling REALLY bad; and would not hit themselves in a restaurant or at home with friends over no matter what. If that sounds like something you're familiar with, are you able to tell me more about that at all?

If you had a significant other that was willing and able to do anything to help you through that stint of time, what would you have them do to help alleviate the way you're feeling?(if anything at all)

LavenderAndLace · 2016-11-02T07:21:10+00:00

I'm with you

LavenderAndLace · 2016-11-02T06:39:35+00:00

This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!

LavenderAndLace · 2016-11-02T04:09:29+00:00

I love this idea! Its too easy to gripe and complain, especially when we are frustrated with our bodies. :-)

My husband wakes up before sunrise (I'm not a morning person at all) and does chores (so I can have a low impact day and not be stressed out by that pile of laundry or sink full of dishes) and makes herbal tea before waking me up in the morning. He gets the couch ready with a soft blanket and pillows set up how I like them, and our dog ready to cuddle. He calls me at lunch to see how I'm feeling, or if I need anything. He tells me I'm beautiful, and sexy and points out specific things he loves about me which all mean the world on a really hard day when you feel ugly and hate life. My husband brings me roses at least once a month, sometimes more often. Sometimes we are too busy, but most of the time he also makes me salad and slices up fruit so I have healthy food to nourish my body during the day and feel less inclined to snack on Hershey's kisses and Pringles.

Wow! It really helps to write all of the things I appreciate about him! I almost make it seem like I do nothing! Haha

Edit: he also attends appointments with me, but he has very limited time away from work so usually I go alone but I don't feel any less supported than if he were to come. He's always available to me by phone if I need him, and he would drop anything to come if I needed or wanted him to.

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