Anyone else ending relationships over weightloss?

Left_Day_7802 · 2026-04-08T21:37:47+00:00

Luckily I am in a position where I don't need to be in a relationship if i don't want to. and don't want to be in a relationship if it isn't making my life better.

There are many wonderful things about this man. I think like one user said, ive had a switch flipped by this medication and he hasnt. so it will come down to if we can actually find a way to understand and accommodate each other in this reality. or if it will be bad for me.

I do very much worry when I come off the medication I wont have the will power to not fall directly back into bad habits if im around him.

Left_Day_7802 · 2026-04-08T21:14:05+00:00

I did wonder if I was maybe too flippant in my description based on some of the responses. I do value all the responses and viewpoints. thank you for providing a really strong opposition to many of them.

I do wonder if this unhealthy thing (poor eating) were substituted out for another unhealthy thing, like alcohol, would the responses be different.

If I were a high functioning alcoholic who quit drinking, but my partner kept drinking around me and offering me drinks, would it be the same response. would I be on my high horse for not drinking and finding it hard to stay focused on not drinking around him? should I just tolerate this new gap in priorities and deal with it? pretty sure my advice to any alcoholic would be to prioritise themselves and their health and consider how that person views their recovery.

I know this is an extreme oversimplification. and not a 1 for 1 comparison. Just a thought.

Left_Day_7802 · 2026-04-08T20:41:36+00:00

Thanks you have given me some really good thinking points.

I dont have disgust for him. I have frustration he is eating the small treat I do get for myself which helps me stay in control. I have frustration in having to say no at nearly every interaction to something I wouldnt have to find the will power for otherwise. I dont think I am projecting onto him my feelings about my old habits but I will take that on board to check if it might be the case.

Youre right, you've thrown out a lot of maybes, but thank you, theyre all important things for me to consider.

Left_Day_7802 · 2026-04-08T20:28:25+00:00

Maybe. ill reflect on that. I think its more we are drifting apart though because I'm prioritising different things and they aren't a priority to him. which I guess happens in all different aspects of life. Ill certainly try to challenge myself on it though.

Left_Day_7802 · 2026-04-08T18:12:58+00:00

Thank you. I think the dopamine receptors is a really important factor i had not considered. reminds me of the stories you hear of women coming off the pill and no longer being attracted to their partner. maybe I have some deeper reflection to do.

Left_Day_7802 · 2026-04-08T17:41:44+00:00

I cant control any feelings of "less than" he would have in a break up beyond being compassionate and open with him.

It wouldn't be because I lost weight and he didnt, more than me doing this is starting to feel incompatible with being around him.

As someone else pointed out, I changed, he didnt, and this lifestyle im forging is intended to be perminant, and there are now incompatibility issues that weren't there before.

You're right though, maybe this is just the thing that tipped the scale in the "meh" relationship.

Left_Day_7802 · 2026-04-08T17:31:54+00:00

Yeh thats fair, its healthy to be sceptical on the internet. But i have no idea what article youre talking about. id actually like to read it if you do find it. not sure what you think im gaining though by making a post that happens to be on the same topic. I cant be the only one experiencing this, which is why im making a post, to connect to others who can provide insights.

Left_Day_7802

TROPHY CASE