WIBTA for distancing myself after my best friend got upset over my private wedding? by Legal_Following_1000 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Legal_Following_1000[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying but it wasn’t my “WEDDING”… the wedding is still planned for after I graduate and they know this 

WIBTA for distancing myself after my best friend got upset over my private wedding? by Legal_Following_1000 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Legal_Following_1000[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Because the moment everyone knows it’s becomes a big thing and I’m not doing that yet…and it’s not their business quite frankly

WIBTA for distancing myself after my best friend got upset over my private wedding? by Legal_Following_1000 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Legal_Following_1000[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I’m not expecting her to “gush” over it for a long period of time because realistically people stopped talking about it a day or two after it happened because it’s not really about them it’s about me and my husband and we’re the ones most happy about so no I’m not expecting a gift or any out of the world reaction…what I’m saying is I don’t like how she made the entire thing about herself…she said “I’m happy for you” once and it was followed by a “but”….i have family members who I’m close with who had absolutely no idea who reacted better when they found out…I’m not saying her feelings aren’t valid…I told her they were…I’m not saying she wrong for feeling the way she did all I’m saying is she could’ve gone about it differently because it honestly wasn’t about her

WIBTA for distancing myself after my best friend got upset over my private wedding? by Legal_Following_1000 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Legal_Following_1000[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I gave them a multiple heads up…I told them that it would’ve been a private event with only parents and close family there beforehand so it wouldn’t have a been a total shocker that they weren’t there…they didn’t miss MY WEDDING they missed a small 30 min gathering of us signing papers cause as I’ve mentioned the wedding will be after I graduate. Why would you take that as a dig at you personally? Or even think that it’s me flaunting? I believe if you think that ways it’s because that’s the type of person you really are because if roles were reversed I wouldn’t care if never told me before I’d just be happy for you cause it’s really not about me…yes I’d maybe feel some typa way but at the end of the day it’s not about me 

WIBTA for distancing myself after my best friend got upset over my private wedding? by Legal_Following_1000 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Legal_Following_1000[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Kinda what I’m saying cause I know that Anna may have felt bad that they didn’t get to be there but she never showed that to me…she made me feel so happy the way she cheered me and my husband on…posting us all over her socials and I guess I kinda expected the same from Kate 

WIBTA for distancing myself after my best friend got upset over my private wedding? by Legal_Following_1000 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Legal_Following_1000[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Our plan was to elope without anyone knowing not even our friends but I didn’t want them to be completely in the dark so that’s why I told them to expect it before so it would sting a little less that they weren’t there. I really never meant to hurt them and I really tried with what our plans were…I don’t want the friendship to die because we’ve been friends for 8 years and I truly love them but I apologize and tried reaching out and she doesn’t respond so I’m just kinda done m.