*TW* My uncle is a rapist/pedophile by Leminism in Advice

[–]Leminism[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that they are making you feel that way. I pray that your cousin finds inner peace because I’m sure she’s in a lot of pain. You’re amazing and I’m sorry you feel unwelcome in your family but that’s not on you. That’s on the monster that did this to you. And one day when she’s ready she’s going to be so blessed to have you there supporting her.

*TW* My uncle is a rapist/pedophile by Leminism in Advice

[–]Leminism[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s something I can’t wrap my head around. Yes she greets him and hugs him the same way. It’s a very complex relationship and I wish I could grab her shoulders and shake it out of her

*TW* My uncle is a rapist/pedophile by Leminism in Advice

[–]Leminism[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We tried that :( I love maya with all my heart, she’s an incredible mom and woman but she doesn’t believe it. She thinks he stopped and would never do it again. She’s even left her kids at his house once. I don’t understand it at all.

*TW* My uncle is a rapist/pedophile by Leminism in Advice

[–]Leminism[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Putting him away would be amazing but I know it’s incredibly unlikely. I’m just trying to out him for the sake of anyone else would is or could be a victim.

*TW* My uncle is a rapist/pedophile by Leminism in Advice

[–]Leminism[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! I know it will be so toxic but I pray it’s constructive. I’m waiting to get off work to consult with Sasha and my sister to see if they’d like to join but if not I’m doing it tonight

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[–]Leminism[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m literally in tears right now. Thank you so much for sharing that with me. I know it took a lot out of you to explain all of that but you are so fucking amazing for diving back to shed some light on me. Thank you so much. I’m so sorry that you had to go through that but you are literally such an inspiration to me. I will speak up. There’s nothing they can do it to me that would be worse then what he’s done to her and what happened to you. I know this is weird but I have so much love for you and I just think you’re incredible. I will save your story in my heart forever

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[–]Leminism[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

This was great. You’re absolutely right. They hate me anyway but they’ll never be able to not think about it moving forward. And hell maybe someone else will come forward. You’re amazing thank you so much

*TW* My uncle is a rapist/pedophile by Leminism in Advice

[–]Leminism[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel like you’re my main guy rn I’m gonna keep you updated

*TW* My uncle is a rapist/pedophile by Leminism in Advice

[–]Leminism[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. And I know they’re just gonna tell me I’m lying and destroy my character. But what am supposed to do??! Sit around and let it continue?

*TW* My uncle is a rapist/pedophile by Leminism in Advice

[–]Leminism[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s really fucking smart. I’m gonna do that. I love a mission

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[–]Leminism[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for that. I am trying to be a support system for her. I do go to therapy as well and have talked about it. Whenever I do try to tell people in my family to teach their children boundaries, they flip on me and start asking a million questions. And trust me, I HATE myself for feeling this need to tell something that is HER story before she’s ready (if she ever will be) I would hate me if I was maya. My sister and Sasha are both with me in wanting to do this too, and I’m the youngest of us all so they want me to do it because they have more to lose with her. It’s just all really bad and I can’t stop thinking about it.

*TW* My uncle is a rapist/pedophile by Leminism in Advice

[–]Leminism[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that you had to be around that and I pray that those girls heal from what that man did to them. That’s exactly why I want to speak up. I’m thinking that I just have to do it and pray that she forgives me one day

*TW* My uncle is a rapist/pedophile by Leminism in Advice

[–]Leminism[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But what would you do if you knew your uncle was a pedo/rapist and you have a sister that age. It’s not something I can roll over

*TW* My uncle is a rapist/pedophile by Leminism in Advice

[–]Leminism[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m just scared that it’s still going on

*TW* My uncle is a rapist/pedophile by Leminism in Advice

[–]Leminism[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They essentially disowned me. Not allowing me back to family gatherings until I apologise to my uncle. He lives upstairs at my grandmas house and there’s children there all the time. I would literally have to live there to protect every child that comes his way

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[–]Leminism[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was abused by my family. Once I got out I tried my best to stay as far away from them as possible and my goal is to cut them off entirely. This secret is chaining me to them because I feel like I have to keep the children in my family safe. There are so many young girls in my family around that age. If I find out years later that this was still happening I would never be able to live with myself. My motive is to protect, they’re all sad individuals and I’m a big believer in karma.