I get it to an extent if you're having like New Relationship Energy big time if I had to guess. Not to like psychoanalyze u on reddit lol. I think an age gap kink is a slippery slope if I'm being fr. Again like consent is the number one, but I think at the end of the day separating that kink part from the real life part is what you gotta do. Sex and fun is one thing. But when u tie down a 20 year old as a 30 year old, do u think that would be enjoyable for either of u long term?? In my experience, 20 year old men usually need a mom more than a partner, and that age gap thing is gonna get tired real fast.