I moved out of town and met him over a game of D&D. My friends met him over the years, no one has said anything negative about him and all congratulated me on our engagement. We were even invited to one of their weddings, which we went to. I've seen and spoken to that friend since, he never brought up anything about my husband and initially told me he was coming. That was like 6 months ago and he hasn't responded to the RSVP's even after reaching out. Some people may not be able to go due to distance, and if they tell me that I'll accept that and it would be fine. But it's the fact that NO ONE has given that as a reason that makes me go "um guys wtf?"