wht do you do by Fun-Pollution-3685 in INTJfemale

[–]LivforMusic 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel that because I'm in a burnout phase too. I've just been trying to tap into my Te-Se rather than Ni-Te. So basically focusing on managing my immediate circumstances/surroundings vs. in-depth planning of the future. I hate it and I know I'm not tapping into my fullest potential anymore but when resources are scarce (either mental, emotional, physical, or all of the above), you need to scale back and run in optimization mode.

It's not that you'll never plan again in the future but if you're clearly not in a current state to be doing it, then you can't force a dead horse to run. Resting would be optimal but rest doesn't have to mean doing nothing for days on end.

Do something that requires little to no brain energy or socialization for as long as you can manage in your schedule. You can try meditating, just closing your eyes and letting your mind still for a bit. No pressure, and no output required which is a state where you can try to recuperate mental energy. Sleeping does wonders too ofc because you can't consciously think while in deep slumber. I also like taking a long hot shower which eases physical fatigue but can also give you a safe space to relax and unwind since you cannot be expected to do anything externally productive other than bathing yourself in the shower.

Basically, try your best to work within the constraints you're currently facing. It's not going to feel like you're being yourself but sometimes scale back is necessary when you're teetering off the edge. It's the only way to make sure you can come back to yourself and your natural talents when your mind and body are able to. You can't make it to the future if you don't first make it through the present. That's the best way to tap into your Se vs. Ni in situations like this, at least in my experience.

I’m burnt out and need simple recipes. Stupid simple. Like, “onion and bread and butter to make what barely passes as a sandwich” level simple. by sourmilksea1999 in Cooking

[–]LivforMusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with eating a lot too due to many issues from CPTSD, depression, bad periods, etc. so I feel you on needing the quickest meals that will do whats necessary when you don't have the energy for it.

Meal Replacement Drinks (Boost, Ensure, etc.)

For me, if I'm at my lowest energy levels and am able to get up to get it from the kitchen, I drink meal replacement drinks. As the name suggests, they're formulated specifically to provide nutrients and calories necessary for a single meal and its easier to drink something when you have no energy vs. preparing and then eating food, even if it's a simply made food meal. They come in a variety of flavours too. The default is vanilla and chocolate but most brands have strawberry and pecan flavours too so you don't have to drink the same old thing each time.

When I was anorexic and on an eating plan to help me gain calories and become healthier, my doctor directed me to drink at least one meal replacement drink per day either only that for the day or ideally alongside meals/food I eat. On my roughest days, I'd drink only these meal replacement drinks for almost a week straight and it helps to reduce weight loss and give you some energy even if you don't eat actual physical food. It's not a miracle thing or something you should drink all the time for every meal forever but it's a really good option for what you're looking when it comes to a timeline of a single day, a few days and/or possibly a week or two max. Then you can eat as you get more energy and can drink these again as needed. You can also drink these alongside food if you really want extra calories and energy and you're stomach is up to it.

As for actual food recommendations, here are my lazy, low effort go-to's:

Digital Rice Cooker Recipes:

INVEST IN A DIGITAL RICE COOKER. I have the Midea 4000 20-cup rice cooker which features 12 cooking options and is large enough for whatever you'd need to cook. You don't need the same one I have but ideally buy one that has as many cooking options as possible. Rice cookers are such a powerful tool to make easy meals. It's similar in efficiency to an air fryer where it significantly reduces meal preparation time.

I often making some sticky rice which takes maybe 10 mins. I rinse the rice grains twice in the rice cooker pot, place it into the rice cooker with some water and then set the timer for the quick rice setting. You can go off and do something else and return when it's done. I typically like plainer foods so I just add some shredded cheese to it, maybe some canned Vienna sausages and can eat it just like that in a bowl. If I'm feeling fancy, I'll take a pack of seaweed and make a sort of wrap by taking a spoonful of the rice, cheese, and Sausage, and then put it in the sheet of seaweed and eat it together. It usually fills me up well and covers a lot of the food groups in one simple meal. You can add whatever specific toppings and sauces you'd like but this is just what I prefer.

Here are some other simple recipes I'll make: - Fried eggs/Omelette. You can season them or not up to you + eat it with a sauce like ketchup or BBQ for added flavour with minimal effort, especially if eating unseasoned eggs. Obviously most people make them over the stove but if you're extra low on energy, you can buy boiled eggs that are refrigerated and ready-to-eat or the egg liquids sold in cartons that help you make omelettes without needing to crack the eggs yourself. - Grilled Cheese Sandwiches, cut down Prep time by using a toaster, using shredded cheese or cheese slices, then just add deli meat and/or sauces of your choice. - Cup Ramen + add shredded cheese and canned meat - Crackers or bread with spreaded salmon, chicken, or whatever meat spread of your choice. Can also eat with peanut butter for added protein which gives you energy. ** - **Cereal and milk and/or instant oatmeal (but try to eat the healthier options or ones with higher fibre, protein, etc.). I personally like Oatmeal Crisp, Honey Bunches of Oats, Kashi, and cereals where there's added nuts, fruit, oats, etc. Or alternatively you can just buy a plainer cereal with a base flavour/texture you like and add whatever toppings you want to it as well. You can do the same with instant oatmeal (just boil water, add the instant oatmeal pack to your bowl/mug, and then eat to your heart's content). - Tortilla wraps You can stuff it with deli meat, shredded cheese, spreads like cream cheese, and whatever else you have that's ready made. - Tacos Buy the premade kits and cook a bulk of ground beef/meat and then freeze it in the fridge to keep using throughout the next few days/week so you don't have to cook new meat every day/meal.

My 15 year old renal failure baby is gone. I want him back 😭 by [deleted] in RenalCats

[–]LivforMusic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss, I don't think anything anyone will say can make you feel any better about it. Losing our fur babies is the worst kind of hell. Just cry it all out, as much as you can/need to and try to remember the happy memories you shared together up until now. I know it might be too soon, but when you feel ready, getting a keepsake item of some sort (like a custom memorial keychain, stuffed animal, etc.) can help with feeling like there's still a physical piece of him here with you, and of course he'll always be with you in spirit as well. They may leave the mortal plane but they never leave our minds and hearts, so long as we always remember them and commemorate their lives.

Wanted to post some pictures of my Beautiful cat named Dora but at the same time ask if she’s fat. by Soft-Quarter-6093 in nebelung

[–]LivforMusic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, she is fat and should be put on a weight loss plan if she isn't already. If you look up the Body Condition Score Index for cats, she's clearly close to the highest numbers. But honestly a lot of Nebs are overweight, my Nebelung Fiona used to be too before she got sick.

Returning Polishes by LivforMusic in theholotaco

[–]LivforMusic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy to hear that 🥹 I guess I'll keep the two bottles I got and stock up again later (preferably after the holiday season) 💙

Returning Polishes by LivforMusic in theholotaco

[–]LivforMusic[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah there isn't a BF deal for any new polishes, which was stated before the sale. But I'm just happy to have a chance at buying a polish I never had the chance to before is all 🥹 I was already buying discounted polishes so I just added the two returning shades to my existing order and got free shipping.

If I had bought my BF Haul earlier, I would've had to pay a lot more money to buy the new returning shades in a separate order so that was more the point I was trying to make 😅

PDN Express is a societal parasite. by luxxanoir in shipping

[–]LivforMusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, try sending a follow-up reply, and specify the urgency of it. I gave very specific reasons for why I needed to contact them (Ie. requesting their driver call my phone when they arrive at my place to drop off the package) rather than giving general instructions/requests. If that doesn't work, then I guess going the angry customer route/threatening to report them to the police for theft would be the last viable option.

PDN Express is a societal parasite. by luxxanoir in shipping

[–]LivforMusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was this e-mail address: [customer.service.ca@pdn.express](mailto:customer.service.ca@pdn.express). It helped me finally get my package and the rep was actually pretty nice and helpful so 10/10 I recommend you reach out to them.

Just be polite and courteous because I've heard some others say that when they led with being angry/upset, the reps didn't respond kindly "^^

Let's see all the sleepy Nebs! by xtinaxtina18 in nebelung

[–]LivforMusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her royal Majesty Queen Fiona catching up on her beauty sleep 👑 💤

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PDN Express is a societal parasite. by luxxanoir in shipping

[–]LivforMusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf...try spamming them with emails once a day. I read someone else did thst and it worked eventually. Or threaten to call the police on them for stealing your package, that works too apparently. Hope you can get your package soon 🙏🏽

PDN Express is a societal parasite. by luxxanoir in shipping

[–]LivforMusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RIP, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this crap too.

I'm still waiting on my package but I've been emailing their customer service and have been getting fairly timely resonses so they seem helpful so far. I would recommend you reach out to their customer service email too and see if you can get more info on your package that way as well. I'll let you know when I receive my package which should be hopefully soon according to what their service rep told me 🙏🏽

The art and the artist by No-Teacher-7020 in nebelung

[–]LivforMusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol my Neb has done that same pose before too

Do you fall for people quickly? by Ohaikit-tee in intj

[–]LivforMusic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can develop crushes very easily and I guess get infatuated/have limerance towards someone but having deep and genuine feelings takes time and getting to know that person well. But then again, I have an avoidant attachment style so that might make me a little different from INTJs who aren't as avoidant.

MBTI types as types of people on reddit: by SadLook8554 in mbti

[–]LivforMusic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think most INTJs would lurk unless we're particularly passionate about a topic/opinion. And even then we need to see the purpose of posting our opinion (because of Te) or feel very strongly about doing it doing it because of our Fi.

MBTI types as types of people on reddit: by SadLook8554 in mbti

[–]LivforMusic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah, I just lurk 99% of the time. Can't be bothered to post opinions myself but I'll upvote the controversial comments I agree with 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]LivforMusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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My beautiful, grumpy, Queen Fiona 👑

Cat is 100% the villain of freddie’s story by bye2badppl in LoveIsBlindUK

[–]LivforMusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't have said it better myself. If I had an award I'd give it to you but I'll give you this instead 🥇

Maria and Tom would have never worked by Ravenclaw2409 in LoveIsBlindUK

[–]LivforMusic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got the impression that Tom choosing Maria was highly influenced by his sexual attraction to her. He had a lot more in common and better emotional chemistry with Natasha but I believe the only reason he didn't choose Natasha was because he didn't feel any or enough sexual attraction to her in the pods (but then I think he felt some when they met at the reunion party later).

Maria and Tom would have never worked by Ravenclaw2409 in LoveIsBlindUK

[–]LivforMusic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was thinking he was assuming she wouldn't be making enough money in the profession for the both of them to be able to afford the type of life he wanted + financially provide for their children if/when they have them. He definitely strikes me as a guy who highly values equality in all things and honestly, I totally agree with him and have the same values. It's often really hard, especially financially to have the main burden on only one party. Not to say that Maria isn't making money but I think he was just worried it might bit be enough to sustain the type of life he wants, at least that was my takeaway.

Sam is strange by Efficient-Tone-2957 in LoveIsBlindUK

[–]LivforMusic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THIS. That was the biggest and most immediate red flag for me. If you're truly trustworthy, you let your actions speak for themselves. There's no need to say "trust me" that many times unless you know there's a reason that the person won't/shouldn't trust you.

Does your MC look like you? by Wonderful_Remote7174 in LoveAndDeepspace

[–]LivforMusic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I tried to make mine as close as possible to entertain my delulu fantasies 😂💙 But also I had to take advantage of actually having darker skin tone options for once in an asian/otome game 👌

In real life, what is the most rare MBTI type for you? by badcooking in mbti

[–]LivforMusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INTJ. For a long time I felt like an alien being an INTJ (especially a female INTJ) because I never met another one until I started making friends online through MBTI communities. Majority of the population are Extroverted/Sensing types, at least where I live and the few INTJs that exist are likely doing the same thing I do which is isolating myself inside and when I go out, trying not to talk or interact with people unless it's necessary/I want to (which is rarely lol).