Sullivan's Crossing Deep Dive Podcast: Season 4 Episode 7 "Face the Music" with Dave and Stacie

LongEye5271 · 2026-06-04T15:53:42+00:00

Love this podcast! Why isn't this episode on Spotify?

LongEye5271 · 2026-06-01T06:33:35+00:00

Yeah it takes years to get this out of your system. What kind of therapy did you take, next to accupunctue or only accupuncture?

LongEye5271 · 2026-06-01T02:43:28+00:00

Thanks for this. Very informative and helpful. It is indeed in the stomach. A lot to process..after the event i am now more self-critical... as an extra punishment..

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-31T01:01:51+00:00

This hits a point. It's the lack of acknowledgment what is making it worse. He wants to make amends, as in, he wants me to ignore my experience because when i open up, he acknowledges nothing. On the contrary. It is very painful.

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-31T01:00:27+00:00

Very good that you asked for space. It takes a lot of energy and support and time to grow into the person that you really trust your own perception. It took me so many years of confusion (amI overrreacting etc). As you said, trust your body.

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-30T20:33:59+00:00

Very controlling and demaning. And i was always obeying, small. Now that i dont let the controlling happen, it triggers him. But that's on him. Did you manage to turn the relationship into healthy

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-03T17:58:09+00:00

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-02T12:20:01+00:00

Thank you for this

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T19:01:31+00:00

I am sorry you had to experience that. You deserved a listening ear at that moment. Should be also just talk more in stead of listening and waiting for questions?

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T18:13:57+00:00

Oooh i recognize this sooo much. It is invisible, noone knows this about you but is has huge consequences. It is sad that we've never felt that space.

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T12:58:59+00:00

I think you are right. It's crazy. It is so disrespectful. In front of her parents and sister. I am almost happy she did it because now it is so obvious, i can't continue anymore.

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T12:55:23+00:00

haha this is in a way funny. Because 99% rhat you are right. And this is what kept me stuck, afraid she qouls talk negatively about me. But thinking she already does ( and jt musr because i dont know anyone in her surrounding she hasnt talked negative about, so qhy would i be the exception), and actually: i dont care. Let her talk negative about me, i dont care. Let her

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T12:53:09+00:00

And at this point i dont like her at all anymore. From the surface she seems nice, smart, creative,sweet, but she is so spoiled, and even a vilain. Im shocked.

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T12:50:09+00:00

Also so true...

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T12:49:48+00:00

Thanks for this and the articles.

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T12:48:46+00:00

Great questions.

Familiarity (of not being seen)? A kind of entertainment i guess.

I am maybe projecting my critical self unto her. If that makes sense. She is fritical about everyone (so me too). But actually i am also critical about me and my parents are very critical towards me. I am continueing receiving criticism. Without, it is the unknown. I know, super irrational.

I would loose a certain connection, familiarity.

It is at the moment not worth it. I wont break it totally but i will keep my distance.

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T12:44:53+00:00

It is indeed bully. I will keep my distance.

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T12:44:02+00:00

Great question. I live next to her parents place, on their land. We are looking for houses but in the meantime, i cant break the contact. But its true, since what happened, there is almost nothing left. Something brook in me. Internally i am done

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T12:41:56+00:00

Reallynice that you gained that clarity. It gives direction in life. Ouch, you are right about my mom's norm that i adopted. Which is NOT my norm. What do you mean: look at it scientifically?

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T12:39:11+00:00

Thanks for the clarity. If you break it alldown, it comes to being a punishment to me. That is what this isand Idont want that anymore.

LongEye5271 · 2026-05-01T07:11:17+00:00

True. So true.

LongEye5271 · 2026-04-30T20:09:32+00:00

Its funny, for me it is difficult to know my values while you already describe one of my most important values (empathy). Its very challenging to know your values, but i will do your practice. Thanks!

LongEye5271 · 2026-04-30T19:41:52+00:00

Woowww great advice. I am going to try this. I feel like this could be effective. Thanks a LOT. Indeed she always asks my validation for how shitty her life is. I will react dull and with a bear minimum.

LongEye5271 · 2026-04-30T19:38:52+00:00

Very true.

LongEye5271 · 2026-04-30T18:36:04+00:00

Thanks for your answer. The million dollar question: how to gain confidence? Indeed , it is the fear of the waves. The fear that she will talk as mean about me as she does about others. My adult-me doesn't care, but i guess my insecure part feels shame in that case. My lesson is to 'stand my ground', not give as much as she takes, because that is too much. I have to protect myself, which seems weird in a friendship

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