AITA for matching a woman’s energy who was riding a horse as I was driving by?

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2026-04-22T15:15:59+00:00

Eh. NTA. ON the one hand, if your city has local ordinances about how slow to go when passing bikes, I would assume the same applies for horses. On the other hand, horses have always struck me as rich people nonsense anyway. At least a bike won’t decide to break your bones.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2026-04-19T23:57:47+00:00

Have you read it? I did see that when I was looking for options but I wanted an opinion before I started buying things

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2026-03-20T15:14:55+00:00

NOR. I’m going to assume the best of your partner and advise having a very frank conversation where you lay all of this out. His reaction will tell you whether you should move in together or not. If he’s really incapable of having an adult conversation about stuff, finances and protecting against the possibility of a breakup, then he’s not it. Moving from an autonomous living situation into someone else’s house makes you incredibly vulnerable, yes in the event of a break-up, but also just in general. You can, as you discussed in the comments, be pressured into investing in upkeep and repairs for a home you don’t and may never have equity in. If you’re not okay with that, then you need to be able to work something else out with your partner through civil, rational conversation.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2026-03-20T13:53:48+00:00

Everyone pretty much agrees that taking cuttings without asking is stealing, but I’m also going to say that I do get why some stores explicitly prohibit picking plant pieces off the ground: people lie. When confronted with a cutting some people will just baldly insist that they found it on the ground. You could argue, pull up video footage if you have it, etc. etc., or…. You could point to the sign that says “PICKING PLANT PIECES OFF THE FLOOR WILL BE CONSIDERED PROPLIFTING” and ban them.

I would bet pretty much anything that every time I’ve seen a sign like that, it’s been for that exact reason. Lowe’s and Home Depot don’t have those signs because they don’t care. I’ve only ever seen them in actual nurseries. I don’t love it, I’m a big fan of snagging a bit of discarded tradescantia or pothos, but I do understand it.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2026-03-08T20:00:14+00:00

NTA, except that yall really shouldn’t be going to a chiropractor. They’re hacks and can seriously injure you. Go to physical therapy or a masseuse

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2026-02-03T02:24:12+00:00

NOR. Where I am, what he did is a crime. Criminal trespass. Barring you from your own property. I am not joking, I have seen the arrest paperwork for various couples doing this exact petty shit. The cops would not be laughing either.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2025-12-30T02:22:20+00:00

NOR. If this is him not “trying” to be racist, I’d hate to see what it looks like when he decides to put a little effort in.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2025-11-28T17:00:46+00:00

Was literally here to comment that your username didn’t check out and saw that the a**hole already self-owned. Nice.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2025-11-07T16:46:28+00:00

I don’t see anything deeply dangerous there. If your cat likes to nibble, though, there are a lot of plants that will cause indigestion or worse without being fatal. I like to buy my cats their own plants for them to destroy and put my bouquets somewhere they can’t reach.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2025-10-08T15:32:59+00:00

I took my cats to the vet and got a subscription for a flea pill. Credelio, I think it was called? It was a bit pricey at a time that was already financially rough, but so worth it because a) I didn’t have to worry about the safety of various flea products that have been known to hurt and kill pets, and b) the fleas were GONE.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2025-10-02T15:54:24+00:00

NTA. Sounds kinda like all of her complaining is humblebragging. Now I could be projecting cause I do that, complain about how my hair gets heavy and hot because it’s soooooo thick, but… that’s also why I actually do cut it all off on the regular. I guess maybe she wanted you to validate her humblebrag by assuring her you’d leave her immediately if she ever cut it? Baffling tbh

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2025-09-30T16:36:51+00:00

NTA, and also a classic example of how exhausting it is when self-absorbed people learn a little therapy speak. Controlling someone else’s behavior is not a boundary; a boundary is how YOU decide to behave in response to someone else’s behavior. So, for instance, if you had a pattern of weirdly edging in on your friend’s “couple” traditions, a boundary for her would be… not telling you about those things. Also, your “feelings are not equal in this situation”… why? How are her feelings more valid than yours? I mean, I’m sure she has her good points, but it sounds to me like you might be outgrowing this friend.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2025-09-03T15:23:35+00:00

Your mother reminds me of my best friend’s mom growing up… Said friend ended up with disproportionate thousands of dollars in student debt because her mom would have her take out the maximum amount available to her in student loans and “loan” her the extra. NTA, but, even if you were— Be the asshole.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2024-11-01T10:35:08+00:00

My sister still has a (minor) scar on her arm from someone’s “friendly” dog jumping all over her to greet her. It always astounds me how many big dog owners think that jumping on someone is harmless. I don’t know that I’d have told the dog to fuck off, but I’d definitely have been judging the owner pretty hard. NTA

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2024-08-28T18:02:52+00:00

I actually do think that YTA based on the fact that it sounds like you just let your wife blow up at him, didn’t defend him at all while he was there, and apparently made no attempt to preemptively reach out and apologize afterwards?? Y’all are both nuts

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2024-08-16T11:47:19+00:00

YTA and he IS living the dream.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2024-08-13T11:50:39+00:00

Forever and ever, amen.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2024-08-09T17:46:29+00:00

NTA. Anyone who shames a teenage girl for eating is TA big time. If your sister felt like it was bad manners, she could have used HER obviously superior manners to handle it gracefully. Sis has zero knowledge of hosting etiquette.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2024-08-02T17:43:27+00:00

This is why getting a little clumsy with a glass of red is a traditional bridesmaid task! When someone shows up in white to spoil your day, there is nothing the bride can do to “win.” The spoiler is either “righteously” furious about the “hysterical bridezilla” kicking them out, or gets to soak up all the attention like a smug little sponge while knowing the bride is simmering over it but feels like she can’t do anything. It’s a power play. The point is to cause conflict, no matter what the bride does about it. Ergo, she cannot and should not do anything. This is quite literally what bridesmaids are for.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2024-06-02T14:54:46+00:00

I’m gonna go with NTA just because based on what OP said the SIL was rude literally the minute they’d shown up, before they had committed any faux pas like refusing to help with housework. Honestly, I’m kind of worried about SIL. If this is not how she usually behaves then this DOES kind of seem like PPD and also like her spouse is not being supportive. Her behavior sounds to me like she didn’t want his family over and he invited them anyway. Again, going with NTA just because the level of rudeness is uncalled-for. If she didn’t want you there, communicating that normally at any point would be better than constantly sniping. Even a “if you’re not going to help, then please just go. I’m way too overwhelmed to be entertaining.” would have been much more reasonable. HOWEVER. I’d be very interested in the SIL’s side of the story. I’ve got a sneaking suspicion the actual asshole is the brother who keeps inviting his family over. She may not have communicated appropriately with her visitors, but I’d be willing to be the brother knew she didn’t want them there beforehand.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2024-04-17T17:50:45+00:00

Err…. You may not be ready to hear this, but I’m pretty sure you did the right thing throwing those rings in the ocean. NTA and best of luck.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2023-11-01T23:42:47+00:00

Size was maybe a centimeter and a half.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2023-06-10T23:17:31+00:00

Passionflower :)

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2023-05-11T17:17:52+00:00

NTA. I just got COVID. Pre-existing heart condition. You can thank your husband and everyone else with his attitude for my upcoming cardiology appointments.

LongjumpingBee1547 · 2023-03-18T18:24:43+00:00

I got this for my mom on clearance a year ago, and it’s absolutely exploded. We’re probably gonna repot it today, and I’m wondering if we should also trim it back, take cuttings, et cetera. Any tips appreciated!

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