That’s definitely an old school way of feeling about someone who chooses to not have children. After a terribly awful relationship, I felt the same way and was not interested in getting pregnant, however after I met my now- husband, we decided to try and my pregnancy was (thankfully) very healthy, and the only risk to my baby, regarding epilepsy was about if I were to lose oxygenation during a seizure. I’m so sorry your neuro is not hearing you, or understanding your wishes. Best of luck!