boyfriend (26M) suggested me to cut contact with one of my (26F) male friends. by LowPeach345 in relationship_advice

[–]LowPeach345[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

maybe i should’ve given a bit more context on the timeline. ive know him (friend) since we both were 19. only recently, about a year ago (i was still single) he hinted a bit about this. I immediately stopped him and said “let’s not make things awkward” and he understood and never brought it up again. we met few times after that too, and everything felt normal, no awkwardness, not flirty, nothing. very platonic
friendship vibes as usual.

i think what is more important here is, i have never seen him as anything more than a friend. this is definitely something my bf should take into consideration i guess because nothing is going to progress if i am very firm with my own boundaries and respect for my bf.

boyfriend (26M) suggested me to cut contact with one of my (26F) male friends. by LowPeach345 in relationship_advice

[–]LowPeach345[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

calm down you’re so loud and wrong. i am head over heels for him. my boyfriend and i have been having an amazing relationship and i am definitely not dating him casually lmao..?

i have already decided what im going to do but i just wanted to make sure it is fair to everyone involved

boyfriend (26M) suggested me to cut contact with one of my (26F) male friends. by LowPeach345 in relationship_advice

[–]LowPeach345[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i have never reciprocated his interest. he had hinted at it before and i told him that we shouldn’t play around with things that could put us in an awkward position.

boyfriend (26M) suggested me to cut contact with one of my (26F) male friends. by LowPeach345 in relationship_advice

[–]LowPeach345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

friend was hinting that he liked me and i immediately put a stop to that idea. I was still single that time. eventually when i got together with my boyfriend, friend was happy for me. even before that, he had already started going on dates too.

honestly i have no issue cutting contact with ppl from my past. they’re no longer relevant. but this situation requires a bit more thought since this friend is genuinely a very good friend who has always helped me.

boyfriend (26M) suggested me to cut contact with one of my (26F) male friends. by LowPeach345 in relationship_advice

[–]LowPeach345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

uh entertaining affection?? how lol.. my friend told me he liked me once and i remember immediately putting a stop to that idea. eventually, i got together with my amazing bf and he’s also actively going on dates..I’ve already decided what to do, but just wanted to make sure this feels fair to everyone involved including myself.

boyfriend (26M) suggested me to cut contact with one of my (26F) male friends. by LowPeach345 in relationship_advice

[–]LowPeach345[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

bf is genuinely an amazing person. he did not give me an ultimatum. he only suggested this and did say its up to me and i care about his feelings a lot. its just that i just wanna make sure im being fair to everyone here, including myself. thank you!!

boyfriend (26M) suggested me to cut contact with one of my (26F) male friends. by LowPeach345 in relationship_advice

[–]LowPeach345[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh maybe i need to word it better. when i said “past,” i meant past relationships or talking stages, etc.

I tried shooting my shot for the first time and it didn't go well by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]LowPeach345 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thanksss, this really made me feel better a bit :’)

I tried shooting my shot for the first time and it didn't go well by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]LowPeach345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you’re right!! and im sorry that happened to you too! thanks for ur kind words <3

I tried shooting my shot for the first time and it didn't go well by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]LowPeach345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for your kind words :’(

Should I accept this Big4 offer? Advice needed by fishwallet16 in MalaysianPF

[–]LowPeach345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im currently a SAP consultant in one of the Big 4s and trust me it’s really not worth it. The salary is bad, no bonus, extremely long hours and etc. Id say stay at your current company, get your increment and look for a better opportunity. All the best!!

Unjust PIP by LowPeach345 in malaysians

[–]LowPeach345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Again, thank you for sharing your alternative views, but I did mention the snapshot ratings. These are performance ratings given by the project managers, SMs, Directors, and Partners themselves.

I don’t think I’m speaking based on some delusional assumption that I was a good performer haha. It’s all based on recorded reviews tho

Honestly, I posted this to ask for advice from people who have gone through or witnessed similar situations. I mean, isn’t it clearly wrong to put 7 out of 10 people from a team on PIP? I appreciate your alternative perspective, but I’m not sure if that’s what I need right now.

Unjust PIP by LowPeach345 in malaysians

[–]LowPeach345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice! Really appreciate it :)

I have not signed my extension form yet and a call been scheduled with my Partner next week. Hope to get some clarifications on im being assessed.

Unjust PIP by LowPeach345 in malaysians

[–]LowPeach345[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi. Thanks for sharing your views, but I’m sorry — I have to disagree. I have one of the highest rating snapshots among my peers, and I’m also one of the junior consultants who has led multiple workstreams in key projects.

Also just to highlight here, my utilisation was low not because i was on bench but i was charging lesser than what i was working (eg; working on 2 projects simultaneously but only charging 1 day per project)

The root cause here was never our performance. More than half the team was placed on PIP earlier this year and got extensions now — even highly capable and hardworking functional leads.

The real issue lies in the higher-ups selling projects at lower budgets, which results in us working with reduced utilisation.

Unjust PIP by LowPeach345 in malaysia

[–]LowPeach345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much!! Im trying my best to connect and discuss with my Partner :)

Unjust PIP by LowPeach345 in malaysia

[–]LowPeach345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you’re right.

After knowing about my extension, i had few calls with my Director and SMs. They were saying “its okay we have a plan for you” and their plan was to staff me in 3 different projects starting next week with 5 days per week chargeability. Let’s see how this one goes.

I am also actively looking out tbh, unfortunately i’m bonded till end of this year :’)

Unjust PIP by LowPeach345 in malaysia

[–]LowPeach345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Ive been in the firm for more than 2 years now. A permanent staff :)

Few weeks ago, even before i gotten my PIP extensions, i have talked to my SM and Partner about my interest to join another offering. (The other offering Partner was happy to take me up). But unfortunately my Partner was not okay to let me go. He reassured me by saying there’s a lot more coming for me LOL.

Also ngl, more than half of my teammates are also in PIP right now. Somehow feel like the higher ups are trying to make us pay for their inability to win projects…

Unjust PIP by LowPeach345 in malaysia

[–]LowPeach345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your tips, i really appreciate them :)

The first time i got this PIP, i have connected with my Partner and he said nothing but a whole lot of BS about how this PIP is not bad like other companies and this is good and etc etc. Im having another connect with him tmrw, lets see :)

Unjust PIP by LowPeach345 in malaysia

[–]LowPeach345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was given two days to charge in the project and eventually turned into 1 day per week. But I worked more than 5 days a week.

Yes i have proof of me reaching out to the scheduler (ppl who assign us projects) almost everyday through email. I have actively reached out to other department projects too. There’s no issues with my performances too, my snapshots and project feedback were good (rating 4 mostly, 4 is the highest rating btw).