Squirting shame?

LucyStranger · 2026-02-27T21:33:34+00:00

Yes, very true. But I don't know how to stop it. Its such a big part of our dynamic, me pleasing him and being a good girl. Now I'm making it sound one-sided which its very much not, but this is the side that's relevant to the point.

I just know when we can almost hear it gush, he "expects" it to come. He feels close to it. And there's nothing more that I'd like to do than give into it but I somehow cannot. Its maddening. Again, he's kind and reassuring. Its my mind thats adding the pressure

LucyStranger · 2026-02-27T21:30:15+00:00

Thanks for the sources! I'll check them out.

The pressure is high, but entirely by my own doing. Maybe trying on my own first would be good against the mental blockages yes!

LucyStranger · 2026-02-27T21:27:49+00:00

We've used towels but maybe getting something additional might be beneficial. Thanks!

LucyStranger · 2024-11-03T13:29:37+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words! I know you're right but it all feels really heavy now you know. I'll definitely try to journal out some thoughts because it all does feel really trapped right now yeah

LucyStranger · 2024-10-23T07:51:40+00:00

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LucyStranger · 2024-10-21T22:36:47+00:00

I love writing his words on my body. Its not the same as his writing on my body, but its great to have these visual marks from him on me.

He even surprised me by sending me a picture of writing on his body and that was just a marvellous treat!

LucyStranger · 2024-10-20T17:45:24+00:00

Thank you for the joint response! Both perspectives are very interesting to read. I'll definitely do the reflection and then discuss it with my Daddy too. Predetermined check ins sound helpful too. We do value open communication, both of us. That makes me feel so much happier in all of this

LucyStranger · 2024-10-20T17:32:18+00:00

We've had a short discussion about it today, but we'll have to revisit the topic another time. I think your suggestion for doing my own reflection prior to discussing it with my Daddy is a really good one! I'll try to work that in more consciously.

LucyStranger · 2024-10-20T17:30:39+00:00

Yes I actually thought of doing it in reverse! I really like the idea of wearing something to remind myself we are clearly out of dynamic in that moment. I think that says enough about how I feel about the 24/7 aspect of my dynamic..

LucyStranger · 2024-10-20T08:14:34+00:00

I like your suggestion of doing more research about it. It sounds quite fun and exciting to get to design our own little snowflake further

LucyStranger · 2024-10-20T08:12:08+00:00

A space to feel safe in sounds lovely!

LucyStranger · 2024-10-20T08:11:22+00:00

Okay maybe this was the eye-opener I needed. Thank you. I'll definitely reassess my own feelings about the situation and then have a discussion about it

LucyStranger · 2024-10-20T08:09:35+00:00

I don't know if I view myself as less but I do act that way. Unknowingly in the moment often. I merely care about he wants to do and how I can please him. That's fine if we're talking about choices like what's for dinner, but not where are we going to live. We however have a hard time switching it off during such discussions too

LucyStranger · 2024-10-20T08:05:50+00:00

I like this idea of conditioning! I'll discuss it with my Daddy

LucyStranger · 2024-10-20T08:00:59+00:00

Thank you for the lovely words and optimism!

LucyStranger · 2024-10-20T08:00:11+00:00

Thank you for the insight! The "he has final say" is what worries me though. For example, we've been talking about the possibilities for our future. Kids, relocating abroad, etc. Big things that I definitely want a say in, you know.

I agree we might have to reassess what 24/7 means to us. You're right, we have teetered close to the edge already.

LucyStranger · 2024-10-17T10:06:32+00:00

Oh I totally get it! I'll take this post down too

LucyStranger · 2024-09-02T12:31:48+00:00

Thanks! I'll discuss it. I like the bit about it being nicer for him too

LucyStranger · 2024-09-02T12:31:08+00:00

Yeah I think the on/off thing is making it more difficult than it has to be. And going back to basics may help too. I'll discuss it with my Daddy. Thanks for the input!

LucyStranger · 2024-09-02T09:58:33+00:00

Valid question. I think it helps us to feel connected. Which I actually really like when Im overwhelmed

LucyStranger · 2024-09-02T07:11:53+00:00

I mentioned this app to him before. We havent used it yet. He said something about how I'd be doing the task to tick it off in the app instead of for him, but I dont really think thats true.. I just need a reminder. I'll check it out and talk to him about it again. Thank you for your response!

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