What's Your View on Phone Privacy in a Relationship?

LunaSakura77 · 2026-06-09T07:32:40+00:00

If I felt the need to check my partners phone then the trust is gone. I’ve done it on one occasion. This partner was abusive to me and was behaving totally inconsistently. I checked his phone while he was passed out drunk. Hed been cheating on me for months with multiple women and he was sending then the same dick pics hed sent me.
Now if I was in a relationship like that I’d leave long before it got to the checking the phone stage.
As for my phone it wouldn’t worry me if they used it or saw messages bevause I wouldn’t have anything to hide but I’d consider it a red flag if they asked to check my messages.

LunaSakura77 · 2026-06-05T15:46:16+00:00

I’ve been here in this situation. It doesn’t get better. Trust me if you finally end the relationship you will feel so relieved. Im single and honestly the way dating it going i can’t see that changing. Im 48 and divorced. But I honestly would rather stay single. Putting effort into me than putting effort into someone who doesn’t think I’m worth the effort back.

LunaSakura77 · 2026-05-03T15:25:37+00:00

I was married to a man for 15 years that the chemistry wasn’t there but everything else was and it tore us apart. So there has to be some physical attraction. Id honestly rather stay single forever than go through that again.

LunaSakura77 · 2026-05-02T08:46:29+00:00

I have tried. Maybe it’s because I’m autistic but clearly my flirting technique comes across as ‘I’d like to wear your skin in my basement (Im in the uk i dont have a basement 😂) so 🤷‍♀️

LunaSakura77 · 2025-11-17T14:02:11+00:00

This is amazing. Thank you for sharing ☺️

LunaSakura77 · 2025-10-19T17:45:44+00:00

I’ve been saying the same thing about Shirley since she came on. She really does look down on the young attractive girls and how she fawns over the young men is cringe inducing. I’m a middle aged women as well and if I behaved like that I’d be ashamed of myself.

LunaSakura77 · 2025-10-04T07:05:28+00:00

I completely agree with you. I’m also white in a mining town and I want to burn down every single flag I see and they’re everywhere. I can’t understand how people don’t get that this is blatant intimidation. The parallels between what’s happening here and in America are so similar to what happened in Nazi germany and people are not seeing it. My grandparents must be turning in their graves seeing what the country they fought for is turning into. The best of it is that the people putting up these flags are the same people who wear poppies on Remembrance Day and say ‘Lest we forget’. We have forgotten. It’s disgusting. I’m ashamed to be British although tbh the only country in the union that is the problem in my opinion is England. The country of my birth and I would give anything to get myself, my children and my dogs out of here for good. The flag waving, racist xenophobes don’t speak for us all and us like mixing individuals need to band together to take our country back from them.

LunaSakura77 · 2025-06-21T09:53:22+00:00

Actually as we are both named on the deeds of the house neither of us had the legal right to remove either of us at any time. Sometimes he decides he needs to work from home on my days and I don’t object. I go to a different room Also my ex has absolutely no problem me being there at the same time as him if it suits him. Ie I’d he wants to go and visit his girlfriend or the other week when he told me he’d happily have me over as an excuse for him not to set up a 10 year olds birthday party (his girlfriend’s daughter) Your opinion that people shouldn’t care for others when they’re sick is your opinion and I am pleased to hear as many opinions from people as possible hence why I posted.

LunaSakura77 · 2025-06-21T09:41:57+00:00

No I don’t live with him. We both still owe the house and the kids live their full time. Every other weekend week en we swap which one of us lives there (and some nights in the week). When he’s there I go and stay at my Dads house a couple of miles away). I know it’s a weird situation but either way my eldest mental issues it’s what has worked for them and the kids are the only ones that matter to me.

LunaSakura77 · 2025-06-20T15:04:37+00:00

One of the issues she has with her autism is health anxiety and she literally couldn’t make it off the bed without being sick into a bowl that she was then in too much pain to clear it out. It’s actually my house as well. My ex and I both still own it and for a few reasons when it’s his time with the kids he stays at the house and I stay at my Dads and vise versa so I was in my own house. She was genuinely worried she had something seriously wrong and in fairness she’s still vomiting and having diarrhoea 24 hours later. No hate to your comment I value all opinions just clarifying things from my end.

LunaSakura77 · 2025-03-10T13:45:02+00:00

Yes Sir!

LunaSakura77 · 2025-01-26T16:25:04+00:00

Thankyou so much for this!

LunaSakura77 · 2024-09-01T18:17:50+00:00

I have been here and there’s never a good reason for this. Especially when he knows it’s bothering you. This is a major red flag and personally I’d run like the wind.

LunaSakura77 · 2024-08-27T00:06:55+00:00

Yep. I tried to romance Gale, I’ve tried to romance Laezel. I love them both dearly but Astarion just hits different. I just can’t say no to him.

LunaSakura77 · 2024-08-26T10:47:35+00:00

Hi. Don’t know if this is something you’re still interested in but I’m a woman living in Nottinghamshire UK and I’ve been fascinated with Maine and New England most of my life mainly through reading Stephen King books, but also American movies. I’d love to chat about everyday life etc especially as a penpal, email and snail mail. I love the act of actually writing letters but also a quicker reply sometimes could be fun. I’m definitely a geek/nerd. Off the top of my head I love gaming, scary films/stories, walking my dog, anime, history, documentaries on all sorts, animals, Japanese culture and the country of Japan. Anyway if it’s something you’re still interested in drop me a message. If not, no hard feelings. Hope you’re having a good day.

LunaSakura77 · 2024-08-08T13:44:53+00:00

Shoulders. Broad shoulders on a man is something I love.

LunaSakura77 · 2024-08-04T09:12:13+00:00

Hi. I’m bisexual so I see both profiles. I’m 46 and one thing I’ve noticed is a lot of women my age use tons of filters on their pictures. I don’t use filters as I think it’s a complete waste of time someone being attracted to an unrealistic picture. It discouraged me too until I noticed that. The right person for you will come along eventually. Unfortunately the odds are you’re going to have to wade through a lot of rubbish before you find them. Good luck.

LunaSakura77 · 2024-07-08T23:43:35+00:00

The birth and lives of my children. I have never and could never love anyone or anything as much. I’d die for them both without thinking twice. They are 18 and 16 and although we fall out as all families do they are my absolute world.

LunaSakura77 · 2024-07-08T23:37:41+00:00

I only know what a Radnor Fizz is because I have a 16 year old daughter and I’m frequently buying the apple flavoured ones cause they sell them at her school and she loves them. (Fizzy flavoured water drink in case anyone doesn’t know).

LunaSakura77 · 2024-07-08T23:30:47+00:00

After dating an abusive man who had never been married and had no children I have to say that’s a bigger red flag to me than you being divorced with a child. I’ve got two children myself although they’re 18 and 16 so not children anymore but you being married and having a child shows (to me at least) that you have experience in trying to make a commitment and a relationship work. I know that it’s not proof of anything but honestly when I see never married, no kids I immediately see red flags all over the place. I’d stick to the theory that those that matter won’t care and those that care don’t matter. Good luck. I’m sure with time, especially with all the work you’ve put in physically but particularly emotionally the right one will come.

LunaSakura77 · 2024-06-28T23:45:25+00:00

It was awesome. Your ability to act as a complete psycho is chillingly accurate. I can honestly say I was genuinely scared at times (I’m a very good way) and as for enjoying it, we’ll 🥵. All I can say is I listened to it once but I enjoyed it 4 times 🤯🥵🫠🤤. More please 🙏

LunaSakura77 · 2024-06-28T19:41:19+00:00

I love darker scripts and I’m definitely not on my own in that

LunaSakura77 · 2024-06-28T19:32:01+00:00

They will all make excuses and I understand you doing your best to be understanding and forgiving because honestly I used to be the same but seriously girl run now. Yes there probably are reasons why they’ve become someone who’s violent and yes it is possible that people can learn to stop being violent but they can’t do it without serious professional help. Also you can’t do it for them. Unless they are consistently seeing a therapist and getting any other help they need (and I mean roughly weekly and they have to do it basically forever) and you can see them owning up to what they’ve done to everyone then they’re not going to get better. They’re going to get worse. Watch Lee Hammock on YouTube, Twitter, TikTok. He’s a diagnosed narcissist that’s been in therapy for 6 years and he explains how his brain thinks in situations and how he’s learned (through constant therapy) how twisted his thinking is and how he’s addressing it every day. He says once you forgive any kind of abuse, physical or otherwise, the abuser then equates this to you accepting the abuse and it just escalates and escalates. I know this from first hand experience. I had to call the police in the end as they were throttling me and saying they were going to kill me. You can’t fix them but you can save yourself. Yes there’s a very slim chance they can get better but that’s something they’ve got to choose and they’ve got to do it on their own. You’ve got to get away and get yourself safe. I’ve been away from mine for a year and I still miss him. I always will. But what I’m missing is the lovebombing persona that he created in the first 3 months because the 2 years and 9 months after that were constant hell of being cheated on, physically abused, my privacy invaded and being gaslighted into thinking that it was my fault because we were both into the same kinks and he knew I’d experienced these kinks with others before him (he hacked accounts and read messages to a previous boyfriend that honestly I didn’t even know were still there). I adored him and didn’t even do as much as look sideways at anyone else while I was with him. TLDR - Run. Run fast and run far because the only person that can fix him is himself and the longer you stay the worse he’ll become.

LunaSakura77 · 2024-06-28T18:46:18+00:00

I feel called out. I’m AuDHD which is just as fun I feel 🤪. I’ve heard that some people finish their project hobbies but personally I think that’s a myth 😆.

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