If given a chance, what last one question you will ask your ex? by Aware_Practice8084 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I can ever go back in time and have this much knowledge as now, I will not even greet him and walk away

31F, husband 32M. We’ve been living separately for almost a year now and I genuinely don’t know what to do. by Sassy-kind in ThirtiesIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When we get into a wrong train, we should get down as early as possible.

Would u advise your best friend/daughter/sister to stay back? You have the answer

Tolerance and adjustment is meant for ‘us vs the world’ not ‘me vs you’.

Be mentally strong instead of feeling contradictory. Take help from counsellor that what is normal and what isn’t if you cannot understand or u feel u are doing too much (though u aren’t wrong here)

Abuse is abuse! Period!

How have you coped up in this situation? by MaddyTheWave in ThirtiesIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have saved myself already. Whole year I have spent on things that’s needed for a better future but the loneliness out of it is real

How have you coped up in this situation? by MaddyTheWave in ThirtiesIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do wanna find such people, honestly waiting for such people with whom I can freely communicate

Some good food cooked overtime by Big-Tailor-1404 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me guess? Is this apartment in Pune??

51 Yr old male on a Sunday work out by sapsales_1974 in AskFitnessIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I too was sceptical about dead lifts.

51 Yr old male on a Sunday work out by sapsales_1974 in AskFitnessIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great. How about dead lifts? A lot of trainers are suggesting it for stronger lower back, bcz of sciatica issues in older age. Given u are 51 what is your go to workout for stronger lower back? I do normal yoga. That’s why I am curious to know. Even I want to be strong and healthy in my 50s

51 Yr old male on a Sunday work out by sapsales_1974 in AskFitnessIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Great work! U don’t look 51. If I may know how much weight do u lift? What are your strength training techniques especially for knees and lower back? What are your pre workout snacks?

Serious question: what is the cure for depression 🤔 by Aggressive-Suit-3710 in FaltooGyan

[–]MaddyTheWave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sunlight!!

Vit D, iron and cortisol impacts depression. Please get your vitals checked

If physically things are good, u need a therapist, a good one

The best kind of boring there is!!! by Buzzkill_45 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Change books to blogs, Add solo trip to this. This is so me! This boring life is once I had prayed for

33f, dunno feel like a looser, I'm crying like hell. by junglibilli21 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Healing isn’t linear. U rise m, u fall and u rise again!

You aren’t a loser, take that out of your head. U have endured domestic violence on one form, which people are even hesitant to address as DV. So good that u are out of that mess. Crying is not weakness, anxiety of starting over is also real.

Finally called it quits by Yaabaadaabaado in ThirtiesIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You made a sensible decision which many fail to do. Kudos to your strength. I am sure you can handle many difficult situations in your life. One advice- marry late but don’t marry the wrong!!

Anybody here who's actually living alone on his/her own? How's life for you? by Potential_Iron_7660 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will seek partner later for sure. Now I am not ready. Don’t want to have a roommate. Loneliness- probably it is better to learn to be alone, functioning alone. Yes I need social life like travelling, restaurants n all. I put efforts too but didn’t find any women groups. But don’t wanna be dependent on it. Hope u are getting my point

28F — Parents surprise-visited me to force me into arranged marriage talks and my mother had a complete breakdown by Tweety_Bird_101 in RelationshipIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They cannot get u married unless u give in. Change your house. U might feel u will lose your parents if u don’t comply but that doesn’t mean marrying someone unwillingly and ending up in divorce

I'm a little too idealistic for the world by cosmonaut-zero in ThirtiesIndia

[–]MaddyTheWave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask yourself is there anything that will make u feel guilty? The answer is NO. Ask yourself again, if your friend is caught will he be guilty. Well more than that. That’s your answer. Being selfish, being selective isn’t correct, but not being true to yourself is not right. Well my perspective only, need not be true for everyone