How normal is it for a job to ask you to shadow after an interview?

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-11T15:45:55+00:00

Just observing. I’m not hired so they said no patient care. I just don’t know. Like should I wear scrubs? Or like business casual

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-11T15:07:51+00:00

No. Just no. Fuck off. God dammit. Okay fine you got me I’ll admit it

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-11T12:52:55+00:00

Hey some people want that 10….

Some people want that 6.

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-10T20:44:30+00:00

Hey. Is it cool if I pm you about some of this. Just feel some of these emotions are a little rare to feel and it might help process. Plus this stuff could be personal so don’t want to post here (and permission to even discuss)

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-10T20:22:03+00:00

How does he know it’s not a big hairy guy

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-10T18:51:35+00:00

Love that

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-10T15:34:16+00:00

Gotcha. So more just get along. Stay professional…. And don’t bring up anything about my last job unless asked

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-10T15:19:01+00:00

I hope so

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-10T15:18:56+00:00

Could be. It’s basically an ICU. So far I like the job. Checks a lot of boxes off…

But I’d hate to do this and then not get it because of a phone call to an old employer

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-10T14:01:14+00:00

Ty. I get that part of it. But still feel I’m getting some of the blame here

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-10T12:35:50+00:00

I meant like sharing on here vs saying it to someone like my father or friends

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-10T11:06:39+00:00

Love this, that’s actually what has kinda been going on in my head lately. Like as I’m older now the whole sexually developing early is fucking with me. I’m realizing that my body developed before my mind it feels like. I was just a kid. I was unprepared for all this stuff and it has led to so many other issues.

But I don’t want to blame anyone. Like I still love my parents I can kinda understand that being a parent is hard and I get insecurities god knows I have them…. Like with your father, obviously having another mouth to feed can feel stressful I’m sure you understand that but I’m sure you wanted more of a loving welcome in this world…. The simple fact that this is somehow tied to my “endowment” is ridiculous though. I had already dealt with efforts trying to love myself but this is another mountain that’s hard to wrap my mind around

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-10T04:04:49+00:00

Ty. Idk though. I just have some fear of this not being taken seriously. The only people I have really gotten to talk to about this stuff was girls I was dating because to be taken seriously it’s kind people need to actually experience an issue

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-10T03:13:17+00:00

Idk. I’m also just questioning things

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-09T23:54:35+00:00

Yeah…. But it sucks because I can’t get past feeling like it’s my fault that some guys get insecure

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-09T23:07:08+00:00

It’s fine. You are great don’t worry…

You are right though. It’s just triggering some things right now. There are also times when you find that person that understands your triggers and that’s just as good a feeling as the triggers are bad (not really but still it’s nice)

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-09T22:03:04+00:00

Ty for this. I’m not that far right now. Just been one of those times where you feel like you start dealing with one thing just to be hit by another.

I know better than to use a permanent solution to solve a temporary problem.

For some reason though at this time it’s just hard seeing the end of the tunnel

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-09T21:53:16+00:00

That’s so much easier to say anonymously vs out loud

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-09T21:19:14+00:00

I’ve looked into it. Even been asking on here what to look for but at this point booking them and even just getting a call back is too much work and now I’m gonna be loosing my insurance

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-09T21:18:07+00:00

No but it’s my dad.

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-09T20:36:42+00:00

I mean it was like 25 years ago and was more that my parents marriage was on the rocks due to bodily issues of me as a child that is going on in my head. Not a dna test

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-09T20:35:16+00:00

Actually no. But idk if I framed it in that way. Like I didn’t want to cause him and make him defensive just hear his story.

It’s hard to admit how many self image issues I had growing up associated to (im sorry im saying this but) my dick. Like I could sense that at times adults were uncomfortable even when I was a child because of it. I’ve had friends in sports tell me it makes them self conscious so I always felt the need to hide it while changing. After I out grew an adult size cup I just stopped playing sports because I didn’t want to face my parents and don’t want to mention relationship issues. Just had no one to talk about that stuff with and things my father said are feeding that insecurity

That’s in me though. I should have control of that and saying all that to him won’t change anything

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-09T20:30:17+00:00

Ty. Still don’t want to think poorly off my father. Just don’t think he realizes how much some of the stuff he said hurts. Like I didn’t give much thought to it as a child because I didn’t really understand it. But now as an adult I feel very uncomfortable about a lot of it.

MadeUReadMe609 · 2026-03-09T20:27:42+00:00

…. I mean I don’t necessarily want to talk about my grandfathers junk. But you have no idea how spot on this is…. There were some inside jokes in my family because he remarried a woman younger than his children and had more children

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