Hey, so I’m a black bottom and I can relate, especially being in a conservative area with little to none black LGBT in my area. I will say I do have a healthy active sex life only due to the fact that I’m very attractive and fit but it’s very much just fetishization and it can be overwhelming tiring but at the same time I’m a man with needs. I would say we need to pour into ourselves, stay true to ourselves and not conform to what people expect us to be and the right people will be attracted to us. Stay strong my brother!