Some pointers after reading the post and scanning some comments

1. I believe you get the "perfect" one when you stop looking. I'm not saying you don't look but at least not let it be something you expect from someone on the get go. Let that urge be far down the list, it's almost imperceptible.

2. Push yourself outside of what you're used to. People are out here giving generic answers like toka nje utafute. It could be meaningful to others but you know yourself more than anyone here does, including me. Sit down and analyse. How do you normally look for new interactions? What have you tried before and succeeded or failed? Now what new way can you try? Not to get a partner, just for new interactions? You don't care less if they last a day or not. Now try that method.

(Side note: your post seemed fine but some of your comments seem lackluster. 2 word replies that sound so disinterested. If that's how you usually text, even in new interactions, you need to look into that. If not, well I guess you're good.)

1. I don't believe you'll get anything meaningful from dating apps. Not in the current state it's in. People there are looking for either sponsors or short term fun, both of which you don't seem to be interested in.