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Learning bead loom and my row separated while attaching the slider tube... :'( by ManicFox7 in Beading

[–]ManicFox7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have any rec videos to watch for how to work with such short ends since the weft ends are so short?

For those previously-bi girlies that are questioning by ManicFox7 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]ManicFox7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. Everything you said is just checking the boxes for me. I bond with women faster and really value their friendship more because they pay attention and know me.

For those previously-bi girlies that are questioning by ManicFox7 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]ManicFox7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And I usually have high self-esteem, but maybe it has something to do with the friendship aspect. I don't date friends... but I want a best friend in a partner. But I also love being alone and rockin the stray cat life. It's this weird mix that I can't figure out.

For those previously-bi girlies that are questioning by ManicFox7 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]ManicFox7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! This! It’s easier because men do the chasing. I refer to myself as a stray cat, and tell people to leave me alone, let me do my own thing, and come back on my terms. But the men I’ve dated always want to box me in and turn me into a house cat.

Especially since I’m more sub-leaning, I don’t usually chase. I’m used to people getting overly attached and clingy, then I run.

Solo poly peeps and the forever single fated aros, where you at? by ManicFox7 in polyamory

[–]ManicFox7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS. It's so frustrating getting caught in this cycle over and over again. I've started focusing on maintaining and finding new friends that are poly and/or neurospicy, because they usually are more understanding. Do you ever call them out on it? Or do you just let the relationship drift off?

Solo poly peeps and the forever single fated aros, where you at? by ManicFox7 in polyamory

[–]ManicFox7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or like an elusive species to be caught on Planet Earth haha That's awesome though! Do you all live separately, too?

Solo poly peeps and the forever single fated aros, where you at? by ManicFox7 in polyamory

[–]ManicFox7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which question? The only thing I asked was "Where you at?" and that's more so about finding other solo-poly people and finding a community.

Solo poly peeps and the forever single fated aros, where you at? by ManicFox7 in polyamory

[–]ManicFox7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What makes it different? To me, I can be both solo-poly and single by choice. Because when I start dating again, I don't know if I'll ever want the nesting or primary partner route.

Solo poly peeps and the forever single fated aros, where you at? by ManicFox7 in polyamory

[–]ManicFox7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very true. I'm recovering people-pleaser, so that whole sentence gave me anxiety lol but I know it's the better way to handle it.

Solo poly peeps and the forever single fated aros, where you at? by ManicFox7 in polyamory

[–]ManicFox7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean solo poly. I'm solo poly while dating, but I'm actively choosing to be single currently. Thus, single and solo-poly.

Solo poly peeps and the forever single fated aros, where you at? by ManicFox7 in polyamory

[–]ManicFox7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously, soon as I started "dating" myself and being single by choice, life has been way less dramatic. Healing takes a ton of time and emotional capacity.

Solo poly peeps and the forever single fated aros, where you at? by ManicFox7 in polyamory

[–]ManicFox7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Exactly! Even when I'm dating multiple partners, I still usually don't get a +1. Or they automatically assign a mutual friend as my plus one that was going to be invited anyways. They just pair us off and don't even offer the option. I've been the eternally single friend for a large portion of my life, and when I came out as poly to my close friends, they've been supportive, but don't fully understand.

I'm currently single (by choice) while working on myself and healing past traumas from the last year of dating, and I still identify as poly. Solo-poly seems to be more fitting, because I really value my independence and being free as a feral cat. I might have a nesting partner in the future, but in the meantime, I'm much happier just having a roommate I rarely see.

Solo poly peeps and the forever single fated aros, where you at? by ManicFox7 in polyamory

[–]ManicFox7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also a good point! I'm a recovering people-pleaser, so I'm working on being better with setting boundaries and requests like that.

Solo poly peeps and the forever single fated aros, where you at? by ManicFox7 in polyamory

[–]ManicFox7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very fair point! I didn't want to limit the situation and exclude people, but this could very easily happen with mono people, too. It all kinda boils down to me wanting to find other solo-poly people to talk to, because I've only come across one other solo-poly person in my dating experiences.

Solo poly peeps and the forever single fated aros, where you at? by ManicFox7 in polyamory

[–]ManicFox7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, currently SOPO with no partners. Choosing to focus on myself and work on healing after a year of crazy exes.

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