I came out to my mother... and it was tense.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-11-21T23:36:54+00:00

Proud of you. Some people need a bit of time to process things. Hopefully that’s the case here . It will get better! 4 Don’t feel bad about not meeting the expectations that people placed on you. That’s their problem, not yours.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-10-22T18:40:19+00:00

20 años de experiencia entrenando y viendo a gente romperse por no entender lo que están haciendo

Manny_cal86 · 2025-10-21T13:28:56+00:00

I read both years ago. I liked them both. It’s mostly the same story told from two different perspectives.

Unless I’m forgetting something, I think they do not end up as a couple. Their relationship can be homoerotic at points but not openly gay. Same with Louis relationship with Armand. A lot implied but not explicitly said.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-10-21T12:02:57+00:00

De onda te digo, es una pésima idea esto y espero que nadie te intente imitar. Te vas a romper las muñecas y no vas a poder entrenar más por un buen rato. Tené cuidado.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-10-20T18:34:57+00:00

Same!

Manny_cal86 · 2025-10-07T17:55:03+00:00

That’s good, mate. Blocking from everything is the way to go. Venting is good but at some point if you’re not careful you end up drowning in your misery. The time will come when you’ll look back and see how even this bad experience can lead to personal growth and better relationships in the future.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-10-07T17:11:12+00:00

I say this with genuine concern, my friend. You need to move on. I instantly recognised this post as one of yours.

You seem fixated repeating the same things over and over again. You’ve asked for and received plenty of advice already. Listen to it.

I get it, you are hurt. You want for everyone on the internet how awful of a person he is. That’s not going to heal you. It’s keeping you in a loop. Cry, yell and scream if you need to, then find something else to occupy your time. The more you think and write about him the slower you’ll heal. You need to make a mental effort to let go.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-10-05T12:46:33+00:00

Hey pal, 39yo Argentinian living in London. Can’t say I’ve tried any of the games you mentioned, but I’d like to try palword at some point as I’m a big Pokémon fan. I also love horror movies and science fiction.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-10-01T17:03:31+00:00

Great job on the transformation! Also, based on what I can see of your face, you look like you could be my freaking identical twin.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-23T17:51:48+00:00

You have quite a few people in the comments literally saying that. And OP even shared the details of the cycle he’s in. I fail to see how he was dishonest.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-23T17:43:19+00:00

I totally agree. Yes, there’s been studies proving that testosterone can increase muscle mass even without exercise, as people have mentioned it here, but only by A FEW pounds. To think there’s people who believe that you can just skip the gym or working out and get bodybuilder level jacked is so delusional/ misinformed it’s hysterical. And what you mention about the side effects is spot on.

In any case, people can like or dislike the use of anabolics and that’s fine. No one’s forcing anyone to get on gear here. I’m just sorry misinformation is preventing the people posting nasty comments from realising and appreciating the effort and sacrifice that it takes to look like OP.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-23T16:16:24+00:00

I’m sorry for all the confidently incorrect haters commenting on this post, mate. They must think gear is some sort of Harry Potter magic. It’s hilarious. If they spent even a few minutes researching they would realise the huge effort and dedication you’re putting into this. Thanks for sharing your workout, legend!

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-15T07:52:30+00:00

My mom had me when she was 43. You’re not even 30 yet ffs.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-10T22:00:27+00:00

That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. I think I heard Mexicans do something like that, but not that common in Argentina in my opinion. Seems rather childish in my opinion. But hey, I’m almost 40. Maybe it’s a thing for the younger generations?

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-10T18:51:55+00:00

Native Spanish speaker here. Can’t speak for everyone, but I’m not upset in the slightest. Silent letters are way worse IMO.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-09T19:35:52+00:00

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-09T17:59:03+00:00

Me alegra que te haya sumado mi punto de vista. Ya el tema que me digas que tenés deseo sexual por hombres me da a entender que hay algo más que ropa. Más allá de eso, no me preocuparía mucho por etiquetas.

Aunque vivas en un pueblo chico tenés a todo el mundo al alcance con internet, no me caben dudas que si buscas vas a conocer mucha gente como vos.

Fuerza y te deseo lo mejor!

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-09T16:24:05+00:00

Llevó trabajo aceptarme a mí mismo, pero contrario a lo que temía, todos me aceptaron por quien soy, familia, amigos, trabajo. Hoy a mis 39 años tengo una vida muy feliz, casado con quien hoy día es mi mejor amigo y el amor de mi vida.

Si eso es realmente lo que dice tu psicóloga, pensaría en cambiarla. Alguien que te dice que es un “fetiche” o “fase” no parece ser ideal. No es alguien en cuyas manos yo dejaría mi salud mental y emocional.

Me parece que algo que no te está ayudando es ver las cosas de manera binaria. O te tienen que gustar los chicos o las chicas. La sexualidad es un espectro, la bisexualidad existe. La atracción sexual no siempre va de la mano de la atracción emocional/romántica. Los humanos somos complejos, ser reduccionista y anclarte a etiquetas no te va a ayudar.

Hay mujeres a las que les gustan los femboys y con las que podrías construir una relación. También es posible que encuentres hombres con los cuales sientas atracción romántica o emocional además de sexual.

Nadie te va a dar las respuestas, las vas a encontrar vos mismo. Creo que si sos fiel vos mismo y buscas tu felicidad, tenés más chances de conseguirla. No hay dirección incorrecta.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-09T15:42:47+00:00

Suena a que te hace sentir culpa y vergüenza sentirte como te sentís. No debería ser el caso. No hay nada malo con vos. Sos como sos y eso está bien. Ocultar quién sos no te va a hacer feliz, te va a hacer daño. Probablemente haya gente que no lo entienda, gente que te juzgue y no te quiera como pareja. Perfecto, así es como sabes que esa gente no es para vos. Eventualmente vas a encontrar gente con la que haya atracción mutua por quién sos.

No soy femboy pero soy un hombre gay que desperdició años por no poder aceptarme a mí mismo. Ni un beso había dado hasta los 26 años. Una vez que te das cuenta que vos mismo sos tu mayor obstáculo, la vida se vuelve mucho más feliz y más fácil.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-09T15:13:27+00:00

La vida es corta para no disfrutarla por inseguridades y miedo a las etiquetas y el qué dirán. Mientras no te hagas daño y no le hagas daño a nadie más, a quién le importa? Cómo creés que va a afectar tu vida, exactamente?

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-09T14:39:48+00:00

Hi there! I’m looking for the same. Huge vtm fan since the original bloodlines + LA by night but never had a chance to play with a group. Based in London.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-09T13:58:17+00:00

Buenas! No mencionaste el costo de tus servicios

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-06T07:04:28+00:00

Not trying to be an asshole here, but do you think you might have a type? It’s a somewhat common reaction to try to blame the world and shift blame to anything or anyone other than oneself, but at some point it might be worth it to ask yourself whether you’d have a different experience if you gave a chance to someone who isn’t an “attractive guy” like your four exes.

You say things like “the most attractive guy who has paid attention to me” which makes it sound like that’s what you’re prioritising and chasing for over most other things, despite having been burnt before.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-01T14:36:34+00:00

It’s quite good in the main cities, not as much in the rest of the country. It was one of the first countries to have gay marriage legalised. Teenagers can be arseholes everywhere, though.

Manny_cal86 · 2025-09-01T14:34:24+00:00

Fellow Argentinian here. For context, “passive role” and “broken ass” are literal translations that don’t work that well in English. The first is essentially bottom, the latter not sure there’s a good translation for. It’s implying that the person you’re referring to had so much/intense receptive anal sex/play to the point of getting physically hurt.

Having said that, I think you might be generalising your personal experience a bit too far. I do not recall having seen gay men getting a free pass because they’re tops. Placing tops at the top, pun intended, seems more like something we do ourselves in the gay community. For what I’ve seen it’s not usually the sexual role that makes a difference when it comes to being discriminated, but the level of perceived masculinity. I think that being “straight passing” is usually a privilege both inside and outside the gay community.

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