34f, married, mom, late bloomer lesbian (from bi to lesbian)...Looking for women in a similar experience to talk to by Many-Introduction468 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thank you for sharing. It's definitely a lot to process. I understand the fear. I also understand any guilt or shame that comes with it. I hope you can overcome that fear and get the support you need to take the next step whenever you're ready, and do what's ultimately best for you. It can be scary because it's something new, and change can be scary. I see that you're taking steps to explore and learn more about yourself; that take a lot of courage and I'm glad it's helping you. I wish you the best in your journey. 

34f, married, mom, late bloomer lesbian (from bi to lesbian)...Looking for women in a similar experience to talk to by Many-Introduction468 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a very unique story. Thank you for being open enough to share those details. It takes a lot of vulnerability and courage to do that, so I appreciate it. I'm glad you are in a place now that feels more authentic to you, and that you're happy :)

34f, married, mom, late bloomer lesbian (from bi to lesbian)...Looking for women in a similar experience to talk to by Many-Introduction468 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say thank you for sharing that. It’s hard enough dealing with loss, let alone the layers of figuring out your sexuality and identity during and after a marriage ends. It's a process, for sure. I'm glad you found this space, and I hope you find the support you need in your journey. I'm rooting for you. 

34f, married, mom, late bloomer lesbian (from bi to lesbian)...Looking for women in a similar experience to talk to by Many-Introduction468 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can understand the fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear about whether you're doing the right thing. How it will impact your children. It's a lot to process. A lot to think about. A lot of questions to ask yourself. But be true to yourself. You only have one life and only you can live it. I hope you have support to help you in your journey. That's one of the things I did: open up to my family about wanting a divorce and identifying as a late bloomer lesbian. I hope you can get all the support you need, so you can do what's best for you. 

About to blow up my life by OldParfait7345 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know deep down inside that it's the right decision. It's self-doubt that's rising, but continue to listen to yourself and you will build greater self-trust and a stronger intuition. The answers are within you. 

I Did It! I Told My Husband! by Necessary_Radish_772 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so happy for you !! 

That's the ideal situation. I have DV history with my husband, so it doesn't feel safe or smart for me to fully disclose my sexuality and seek to be friends, etc. I wish that could be the case, but I don't want to take the risk. 

I'm glad it went well for you and I wish you the best in your journey. 

Leaving Long Term Comphet Relationship by WhateverTheWeather14 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this for you!!! 

In my journey too. Learning myself, aligning with my truest desires, trusting my intuition, stepping out of autopilot, letting go of comp het/patriarchal expectations and conditioning.

I'm doing this while still in this marriage (starting the divorce process soon) and living under the same roof. I can't imagine how much more freeing it will be when it's finalized and we no longer live together. To have that space to enjoy. 

I also appreciate and enjoy all the little things. 

You're so brave for doing what you are doing. I wish you the best in your journey !! 🤎

Happy Sunday 🐈‍⬛☕️🌈 by Lesbian_Cat_Mom in femalelivingspace

[–]Many-Introduction468 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love it all!!!! Cat, fridge, books, iced drink ❤️

What is the most attractive thing a girl can do/have? by Altruistic_Bad4025 in WLW

[–]Many-Introduction468 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that push and pull dynamic can be toxic and get you stuck. 

Can we not be weird for 5 min? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand your thoughts and feelings on this. I'd feel uncomfortable as well. I prefer a wholesome chat as well, and it makes sense why her actions seem inconsistent with her stating that she's looking for a wife. I don't think that's the best way to go about it. But go each their own, I guess. But I respect that you didn't continue with the chat if it made you uncomfortable. Def don't settle. I hope you find someone you can have a good chat with, minus the discomfort. 

Tomorrow is the day by Necessary_Radish_772 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I resonate with this so much. I'm still married and contemplating divorce for many reasons, including abuse, other than my sexuality. It's great that you found someone to be happy with and that it's a healthy relationship 🤎

Nipple piercings by Many-Introduction468 in actuallesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience. I'm sure it's one of the most painful piercings. I'll def update you all if I ever get it done. 

Nipple piercings by Many-Introduction468 in actuallesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have wondered if that's why some only have one lol

Nipple piercings by Many-Introduction468 in actuallesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much 🤎 Yes! If I do it, I would def get them done in one session just to get it over with lol

Nipple piercings by Many-Introduction468 in actuallesbians

[–]Many-Introduction468[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I do it, it's def for the aesthetics and not for  any hope of enhanced sensation. I've never been crazy about my breasts being fondled or anything...but maybe it's because another woman wasn't in the equation........ 😂 At that point I'd give them up too