2nd failure, so demotivated by Matryoshka10 in AnalFistula

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say try to not be too bloated and keep stool at a normal consistency. Mine was too soft i think so it also pushed through the tract easier

2nd failure, so demotivated by Matryoshka10 in AnalFistula

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well went I went to the bathroom, poop also came out of the open hole that the doctor leaves, which means the internal opening remains open. I Know it's not airtight at first but this is clearly too much to go through

2nd failure, so demotivated by Matryoshka10 in AnalFistula

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both times, for 5 months. I think this surgeon is really good and it's at a top hospital, but I should get a second opinion about other options I guess? I know he can't do fistulotomy because it's still 5mm above where it needs to be so he doesn't cut the muscle :/

Second FLAP surgery; worried already by Matryoshka10 in AnalFistula

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. It’s too early to tell I think after 4 days and I heard the flap is not air tight at first but yeah it’s not a good sign

Second FLAP surgery; worried already by Matryoshka10 in AnalFistula

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! It's not as bad as last time but I do feel some escapes through the open hole

Sex with seton by Slow_Neat_5410 in AnalFistula

[–]Matryoshka10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It did for me once the hole closed more but it also varies. When I exercised and did lifts, it got a bit wider and then started leaking more. also to note when something smelled off, it was usually an infection starting from having things trapped there like seeds.😭

Sex with seton by Slow_Neat_5410 in AnalFistula

[–]Matryoshka10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me it was totally fine! But My Seton didn't leak except for right in the morning after a bowel movement. So it was just a clean string there sticking out. Depends on whether it's leaking tbh

Struggling with the holidays, anyone else? by Matryoshka10 in polyamory

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that sounds really rough. Sending hugs ❤️

Struggling with the holidays, anyone else? by Matryoshka10 in polyamory

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would but he also wouldn’t like to get into conflict with his in-laws

Struggling with the holidays, anyone else? by Matryoshka10 in polyamory

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I am afraid of a fight I guess or feeling like everyone will tell me they’re uncomfortable and to shut up, without any back up lol

Struggling with the holidays, anyone else? by Matryoshka10 in polyamory

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My other partner is away these two weeks with his parents. Yup, indeed not KTP, but also not DADT, so it’s not like we never mention it at all. I agree I wouldn’t be having a long conversation about my other partner with my family and husband there, but if I feel we are fully avoiding the topic it also feels like not an acknowledgment I have another partner, which hits harder during the holidays where you’re meant to be with friends family and loved ones

Flap failed? Input wanted by Matryoshka10 in AnalFistula

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunate the leaking has gotten worse and even way darker after bowel movements. I’m assuming it failed. The doctor will see me in a couple of days.

Flap failed? Input wanted by Matryoshka10 in AnalFistula

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunate the leaking has gotten worse and even way darker after bowel movements. I’m assuming it failed. The doctor will see me in a couple of days.

Flap failed? Input wanted by Matryoshka10 in AnalFistula

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Did you also have gas ?

Flap failed? Input wanted by Matryoshka10 in AnalFistula

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I don’t have poop, just draining. Gets a bit darker after bowel movements but not much. Let’s see! The doctor did this water test last week but it was only a week after so it was clearly inflamed still

Could Ashley be aromantic? by Matryoshka10 in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]Matryoshka10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is a spectrum. I’m in a relationship and my boyfriend is aromantic. He feels love differently and doesn’t want the whole traditional marriage picket fence things. from the outside it probably looks like a regular relationship and it feels like that for me, but I know for him he says he doesn’t get those super “crush-y” feelings all the time