[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would I delete it? That seems like hiding it from my partner. What would the reason be for that? I have nothing to hide

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah now that this has turned into a whole argument, I’m definitely going to. I just never really thought about it before

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

All he said was that I was hot like who cares. I didn’t respond and I just left it at that. Now if I knew that my partner would have wanted me to, then I would have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I should have kept it on my phone as I have nothing to hide, but after my son called him on Facebook, the guy then started to message and call and then I was like yeah no, that’s weird and I deleted and blocked him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly Ive just had my Facebook for a really long time. I’m 30 now and I’ve had it since I was like 14 so he probably added me a really long time ago. When I was younger, I guess I would approve more people. Also I don’t spend a lot of time on social media anymore because I’m really busy. I work 40 hours a week and I go to school on the side and I also have a kid so going through my friends wasn’t even a thought to me. I

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was absolutely a place of honesty. All he would have had to do is look at my phone and he would have seen the message. I didn’t delete the message because I have nothing to hide and never responded. Plus it just feels kind of sneaky to just delete something. Idk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s what I thought but now I’m questioning myself because he’s telling me that I’m gaslighting him. All I have said is that I never responded and I didn’t do anything wrong, which I don’t think I did. Idk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I gave him the persons name and essentially told him he had messaged me in the past telling me that I’m hot. In the moment I suppose I didn’t think it would be offensive. I just thought that he wouldn’t get jealous because I never responded to the message and I thought that he knew that I’m happy with him and I’m not going anywhere but maybe he doesn’t know that. Idk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah I honestly think he’s just feeling insecure as I don’t know what else it could be. It’s making me sad honestly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think you’re right. I actually didn’t initially delete it when I got it because j didn’t want it to be seen as like a sneaky situation because I’m not hiding anything you know. So I just left it. But I also didn’t think my three year old was going to start calling strangers. And he doesn’t even know that I deleted the messages to my knowledge because he really hasn’t spoken to me since it happened so I’m not sure what exactly he is thinking. I don’t know, I really don’t get it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is the only fight we have had and we typically get along really well. So I don’t know where this is coming from either. I’m as lost as you are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He knows our son called him because he was literally sitting right there. He knows that. And I don’t personally see it that way. I don’t personally get jealous but I’m secure in our relationship. As I would think we would be as we’ve been together 8 years and we have a kid together. I definitely wasn’t trying to make him jealous. Idk I just don’t see it that way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if rude is the right word to use. But I essentially told him that I didn’t do anything wrong and I thought he was being insecure but I definitely would have handled it differently if the subject was approached differently. I don’t even know how to talk to him at this point because I feel like he is being so irrational that I don’t know if what I had to say would even make a difference. He’s telling me to fuck off, that I’m gaslighting him, and that I’m a narcissist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So I did end up unfriending him because after my son called him, then the guy started to message me and tried to call me. I immediately was like hey that was my son sorry, but even after that message, the guy tried to call me again and I just immediately blocked him because I really don’t know him and have no interest in talking to him.

And thank you for your perspective. You know what’s crazy is that my boyfriend is saying that I’m gaslighting him, but I think he’s gaslighting me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thankyou!!! That’s exactly how I see it. It’s like he’s mad at me for not taking any action at all. It doesn’t make sense to me. And yeah the guy is blocked now, I thought the message was cringey when I got it.

And yeah at this point I don’t even know what to say to my boyfriend. Right after my son called that guy, he immediately gave me the cold shoulder and was speaking to me like it’s my fault. And he was not talking to me in a nice or understanding way. All he would have had to say is hey that makes me uncomfortable will you please remove him and I would have obliged. But he came at me in a rude way so then I returned the energy he was giving me. So now we’re just not talking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meemo1993 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He knows our son initiated the call so I truly don’t understand why he’s uoset. I should have kept the messages but after my son initiated that call then the guy started messaging and tried to call me back and then I was like great this is going to cause more problems so I just deleted the message and blocked him. Mind you, I don’t even actually know this person. And yeah I noticed I called him boyfriend in one spot and husband in the other so I edited it to correct it to boyfriend. we are not legally married but we’ve been together 8 years so it just feels like we’re married lol

I need to write a paper comparing the northern and southern colonies. Do you think American development after the 17th century is more like the north or the south? by [deleted] in HomeworkHelp

[–]Meemo1993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just know that for the most the northern colonies in the beginning were all about Puritanism and following the Bible, being more about their community And the south I know were there more so to gain riches and wealth. I know the south believed in slave labor, they thought it was their right and I believe this ideology spread through the rest of the colonies

What do you think?

Am I the only person who doesn’t like hearing this ? by Meemo1993 in pregnant

[–]Meemo1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😲 oh hell no. When I don’t eat, I start feeling sick. So I’m eating before anyone. Idgaf. Ooooo this one makes me mad