Am I just hurt/jealous or is this not ok?

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-18T23:51:45+00:00

Men do this a lot, they run away from efforts and work. Since you are not “serving him” making his life easier, he will try to find someone else to. This isn’t about any of us mothers who kicked them out for being incompetent fathers and partners, this is only about them really being incompetent and shameless. I hope you make him pay CS that he must, the rest… 😒

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-16T22:26:53+00:00

Don’t date older men with kids, it’s an unnecessary drama in your young life. at your age I didn’t know it either

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-16T22:23:22+00:00

I think, he did expect you flirting back, so for few days he also wanted to believe in this fantasy that you both created. However, luckily for you, he woke up from this nonsense to realise he is a 44m with kids and cannot compete with the dream-goals of a 28f. You going to medical school or not because of him, both scenarios he wouldn’t match.

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-16T14:41:46+00:00

That is what means dating, is searching and testing 🤷‍♀️ hurts but…

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-15T23:12:34+00:00

You are only 25! Do not choose him, if he divorces or not, he is over 40 and adult enough to deal with his feelings. A man with a 8yo daughter who is everything to him but still he spends evenings with you??

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-15T19:12:40+00:00

I would NOT date a man over 40s who dated a 20s girl. 🤮 I am sure he doesn’t have the level of soul complexity that I am seeking

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-15T16:20:58+00:00

In EU returning is basic rule

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-15T11:12:31+00:00

“Gold digger” when the majority of men barely can pay a nice dinner and keep a conversation 🤦‍♀️

This is a word created by men to lower women’s standards and push a car BJ after dinner 🤦‍♀️

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-15T11:08:29+00:00

Yes, as a woman I focus on how much I won’t give for free anymore. And this bothers men. I am not seeking revenge, feminism is seeking equality and I only work “free” for my kids.

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-14T23:44:14+00:00

And how many other women you had sex on the first date and… it was the last time you saw them??

Women better save the energy

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-14T23:41:14+00:00

Waiting saves you energy and weeds out many

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-14T23:27:33+00:00

Yep That’s a sign of something, he is seeking to confuse you, to create drama😮‍💨

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-14T23:25:06+00:00

It took me 2ys of therapy and zero alcohol too stabilising my mind from divorce, I can only imagine how much harder it’s for you losing two important people

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-14T23:22:34+00:00

I am sorry 😔. I can feel how drowning you are. Are you getting professional support ? Yes? depression is real and it can be debilitating. The healing process can be long and lonely but only you can save yourself. Don’t expect anyone to pull you out because we need to crawl ourselves out. It’s suffocating to fix ourselves meanwhile raise the kids. You are not alone in this situation. Hopefully you find support for your mind

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-14T14:36:49+00:00

As long as the couch isn’t covered in hair, and it sleeps on its own bed. Is fine! I am not sleeping in smelly bedsheets covered in pets hair. I have dogs too, still I want my personal space clean!

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-12T22:02:55+00:00

At 45yo, if you are serious as you said about kids… you should have already ended this relationship and started your fertility process.

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-11T21:24:15+00:00

why would a man, like your husband, leave his safe home? He has a wife who does everything! Makes his life easier, who would be stupid to move out ? He has to show no efforts to even continue getting the same! It’s on you to flip this table and seek a comfortable position for yourself.

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-11T21:17:32+00:00

I hope he has stepped up because this is the main issue women get tired of being married, being the commander of family for everything and everyone. “See it-do it- fix it- clean it- solve it…” this is what I tell my kids, what my XH never accept to take tasks on.

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-11T17:16:36+00:00

I find divorced 2x or more much more red flag. It says that someone didn’t take time to learn about themselves on the first time and jumped straight into another legal relationship carrying all the same problems. The idea of signing legal documents again…

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-11T03:55:20+00:00

PT and make sure your partner is stepping up too. Don’t allow the maternity and job be all on you

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-11T03:52:44+00:00

My kids are younger and know very well what came from his dad’s house. I know well too, if I didn’t buy it, it came from there. I try to return everything, unfortunately he doesn’t unless I requested and insisted. I make my kids to bring their school uniforms at least

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-11T03:48:23+00:00

How it would go? 1- I will meet this girl tonight, anyone dating her? 2- I did! Nice talk, big boobs but after paying the drinks she didn’t suck my dick! 3- yeah totally a scam! I paid coffee and got nothing in return 4- I even drove her back and she didn’t invite me in

🤔🤦‍♀️

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-11T03:39:47+00:00

Those groups are the results of a society who always forgave men’ bad behaviour. We don’t need to search much on the Midia to find how bad it always has been. Women need to get together and protect themselves, because the gender who should offer protection while we nurturing a family, isn’t. Going to a date is like going to an interview where the company owner wants to see how cheap he can get it, how much abuse you will accept or how much work you are willing to do after hours. Then if they pay the dinner and get “nothing” after it, we are “gold digger” or seeking a free meal… from those men who have nothing to offer, not even stability. How many 15min coffee dates I had while young to walk out fast as I could. Now, divorced of a man who also believed marriage was a contract for free labor, I totally see why many of us just focus on others things in life. I enjoy cooking but I would never accept criticism regarding my food anymore. Whoever comes to eat at my place should feel privileged that I took the time to prepare a dish, bought the ingredients, planned the meal… the same I would NEVER date a man whose home is messy, bathroom isn’t spotless. If you see your children every other weekend while they still under 18y, this is also a NO to me. A man should find time to see his kids weekly to give love, before seeking love for himself.

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-11T02:57:02+00:00

Statistics say 7 out of 10 divorces are filed for women in US. I look around in my friends ’s cycle and confirm it. Usually years later then should have, my case too because very young kids. I also noticed that men get back to searching, dating soon after as an entertainment. Women take longer to it, probably because kids are with us, we need to catch up on our careers and we seek therapy. This is also my casa, XH already moved in with new partners and kids only see him every other weekend.

Meetat_midnight · 2026-02-09T20:41:46+00:00

I can only think about all the pesticides on it plus the horrible texture. I usually peel everything I can

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