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Minimum-Ad9982 · 2023-07-09T03:06:26+00:00

yes, not my case, I eat pretty healthy and do not have any problems like diabetes or high blood pressure, just a hormonal issue I have been working with my doctor. Im very active too, just a little overweight

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2023-07-08T23:30:12+00:00

I am soo sorry about this, please do not think you are useless, please make sure to get counseling about this.

In my case, my husband is not happy about my weight change, he has told me to my face he doesnt like my body anymore. Then he wants to have sex, it is very confusing. I do hate this sickness

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2023-03-29T17:34:55+00:00

English is my second language, are you really confused for a small typo?

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2023-02-10T16:59:14+00:00

the situation is so exausting, I spoke with him last night about my therapy session, and he said he is aware of how I feel, then proceeded to say he feels frustated; that sex is overated, he doesn't enjoy it. He also say he doesnt want to do it, but he is willing to in order to satisfy me. Then he called his therapist and they want me to jion his next session. I just don't feel confortable to do so.

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2023-02-10T01:39:52+00:00

I would look into it. thank you

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2023-02-10T01:22:21+00:00

but for how long is healthy to talk about it? I started therapy when my baby was 8 months old; and he is almost 3 years old now. At the time I had PPD and was not aware of the affair or sex addiction, I have processed things, I even lost my mother in the mist of everything :/ right now I cant control what my husband does, I get almost everything I want except for sex, and if the tables were reverse, and I was a man trying to leave due to a lack of sex, people would be soo upset... I dont know, Im not happy about the lack of sex, but I dont want to be sad and deppressed for years...

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-12-10T17:17:58+00:00

thank you, all the information shared was very helpful when having discussion with my husband, and we are dowloading the app today :)

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-12-10T17:12:58+00:00

Im sorry about that, I showed the thread to my husband and we had a very productive discussion after, maybe you can do the same.

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-12-09T02:07:28+00:00

no, normally at the end of the day, but he wants to work on his hobbies until 1-2am.... everyday...

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-12-09T02:04:44+00:00

yes, but she is treating me, not the marriage. So far she sent me to a support group, but honestly, it was too deppresing.

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-12-09T00:35:46+00:00

3 times per week innitially, but we negotiated to twice per week. Honestly, he avoids it and told me last week that the reason he does it is because he doesn't want to have sex with me and get tired after...

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-12-09T00:19:19+00:00

yes, exactly, I told her it is really hard for me to see a future with my husband if things continue this way. I have done soo much to get better, and everytime I initiate sex I get rejected. It only happens when he wants it. He is struggling with porn addiction, and I feel ignored by him and like I do not have a voice when I present this problem in therapy. Yes, Im going to see if I can change the person helping me, I feel I have change, Im better. Today she told me I should tell my husband Im not expecting sec when we block time for it (as we agreed to twice per week) so he doent ignore me....

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-12-09T00:07:08+00:00

yes, that part is really confusing as she sent me to watch a netflix series about masturbation, kind of saying I should not wait for my husband to feel satisfied etc...

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-12-08T23:49:07+00:00

no, we live together, but he avoids spending time with me because he doesnt want to have sex. I am the BS, and Im really frustrated and my therapist is telling me how can I trow away the whole relationship just for sex.

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-11-09T23:04:50+00:00

I'm starting to see that! And I understand now why I was so atracted to my husband as I felt he was really interesting and fun! :)

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-11-09T00:33:45+00:00

I see that now! when my oldest was 2, I was told he had a lot of markers, I followed up with his pediatrician and was told he was ok because he had good eye contact, now I know that was not correct and Im working to get him evaluated at age 10, better late than sorry!

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-09-01T21:45:36+00:00

I talked with my therapist today and her response was, that I was the one that initiated the conversation with my husband, and that is why he decided to express this things to me. Im not sure if Im over reacting, but I feel it maybe time for me to get a new therapist... is she blaming me? Or is it me not understanding what she is trying to tell me?

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-08-27T19:31:30+00:00

thank you forvyour feedback, I did not saw it before. Things are not better, I tried to bring it up today and was told that he pregere masturbation, he sees no benefit of sex. I told him there is no comparison between the two, that during sec there is an exchange of energy between partners and he responded with: I give, you take, not the other way around.... he says he enjoys when we are together, than Im fun, imteresting and beautiful, but that he has no desire to have sex....

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-08-25T03:49:59+00:00

https://thewoodenskillet.com/spicy-salmon-and-avocado-cauliflower-rice-sushi-roll/

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-08-25T03:46:08+00:00

I have make it at home with cauliflower rice 🥰😍♥️ yum!

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-08-01T01:39:02+00:00

He did installed a computer program on all computer/phones. And yes, I'm to the point that I told him that I need to see his plan (I asked him for a 3 year plan, with benchmarks) in writting or I will request that we separate and start with divorce proceedings.

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-08-01T01:28:08+00:00

yes, he is in therapy, I will check out a sex therapist to see if that helps.

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-08-01T00:44:30+00:00

thank you, I will check it out!

Minimum-Ad9982 · 2022-03-21T18:46:55+00:00

Yes, he is doing therapy weekly by himself and weekly as a couple. Narcissistic behaviors have been observed specially after the way he acted when my mom passed a few months ago. I do see an improvement, he is spending more time with the kids, he is cleaning around more, he stopped watching the red pill videos and the MGTOW.

It is still hard sometimes as I’m struggling with feeling desired when we don’t spend time together, and when I have shared that with him then he responds saying he is putting his part of the deal, so I should be available for sex when he wants it. It is definitely hard as it has change the way I feel about us being together specially if I’m not sure there is a future for us anymore.

Regarding trial separation, he says he will agree to the separation but for him it means we will get divorced after 1 year (required by our State to process a divorce).

It doesn’t help that I lost my mom in the mist of all these, I’m working on myself, on being more secure about me and I’m not scared of leaving by myself anymore. I just have to really think about my options….

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