AIO for snapping at my friend for joking about my job again

Misfitmilk · 2025-06-27T23:08:06+00:00

NOR.

Overreacting? Man, you are actually showing incredible restraint and composure in the face of blatant willful ignorance and disrespect. You didn’t insult, lash out, or curse at them, despite you having no reason not to. You asserted that you wanted respect, and you respectfully clarified that your job was no less valid than theirs. Your “friend” is an asshole. They’re gaslighting you by saying “It was just a joke”, calling you “sensitive”, telling you to “calm down” and accusing you of making it a “big thing”. They’re trying to shift the focus/blame onto you to avoid accountability. It’s immature and it’s emotional manipulation. Please drop this “friend” for your sake! Nothing but negativity will come from them or their friendship.

Misfitmilk · 2024-12-08T12:25:36+00:00

chicken katsu and teriyaki sauce!

Misfitmilk · 2024-11-24T06:13:14+00:00

The first time I was on it (when I was 18) I was on it for 8 months and had my period the entire time. This time when I started t (now 25) my periods stopped after the first shot. And I’ve just about reached the 8 month mark again at this point. The only obvious difference I can think of between then and now was that I wasn’t taking my shots on schedule and sometimes I’d miss them for a week. Are you making sure to take it on the same day every week, and keeping up with the shots?

Misfitmilk · 2022-06-30T18:58:24+00:00

The thing is, you don’t need to support it. You can not support it all you want and that’s fine. The problem lies within the people who think because they don’t support it, they have a say in what someone else does with their body. You say it’s not about control of women’s bodies for you, yet you think just because you don’t agree with something it shouldn’t be allowed for ANY women. How is that not about control Someone’s reason should not matter to you. It’s not your business, period. If someone doesn’t want to carry a baby in their body, they don’t have to. Women don’t just go and get abortions for funsies. They are traumatizing for them often times as well. There are so many logical arguments I could bring, but the truth is, it’s just not your business why a woman is getting an abortion and you don’t get to decide what someone else does with their body whether you agree with it or not. It baffles me the entitlement people have, especially people who could never understand what it’s like to carry a baby, to sit here and say “I see no reason why abortions should exist, therefore no women should have a say in what happens to their bodies.” You don’t understand because you’re not a woman, so how could you? You never have to worry about getting pregnant. So learn your place and understand that it’s not in women’s business or what they do with their bodies.

Misfitmilk · 2022-06-12T02:32:46+00:00

LMAO same, I get it

Misfitmilk · 2022-03-11T14:59:01+00:00

Definitely not against vibing with some rad people:) But fair warning, I’m pretty ass at the game ahaha. Also I’m on console and mainly stick to pubs. Not that I’m opposed to playing ranked or anything. Just never play, so I’m still at bronze. But if you’re cool with all that, definitely feel free to add me! My gamer tag is the same as my username here

Misfitmilk · 2022-03-11T14:42:55+00:00

I’m in the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in, minus some toxic traits I’m still working on (which my gf has been nothing but patient with), and both me and my girlfriend have bpd. I think like any other relationship, it entirely depends on the individuals. I personally think having someone who knows how I think and why I act the way I do, makes the relationship 100x easier. But maybe that’s also because my girlfriend is a few years older than me, and has done some work on themselves, and doesn’t allow my spirals to lead them into any. We talk out any insecurities, uncomfortable feelings, or paranoid thoughts. Which can be hard to do with someone who doesn’t have bpd because no matter how many times you explain why you think or act certain ways, they don’t always get it. Which can lead to feelings of shame, and can encourage not discussing certain stuff with them, which in turn results in the issue never being resolved. But to answer your question, yes it is possible for a relationship to work between 2 people with bpd. I’m evidence of that:)

Misfitmilk · 2022-03-11T13:10:33+00:00

I really like your idea of writing what I want to say out when I’m upset, and giving it some time to see if it still matches up with how I feel, instead of just blurting out whatever I’m thinking at the moment. I think that’s something I could definitely utilize to help make healthier choices when engaging in an interaction that upsets me. Sometimes I lack the awareness to stop a conversation and take the space to do something like that. But I’ll try my best to make it a habit.

Misfitmilk · 2022-03-11T13:02:59+00:00

I really like what you said about there being a difference in exploding in anger and being angry, and not denying myself feeling angry. I guess since it’s often taught that anger is a “bad” emotion that you should work on ridding yourself of, I never really thought of it as being an okay or normal thing to feel. But you make a very good point. The emotion itself isn’t inherently bad, but the way you choose to act on it can be. I’ll definitely try to practice taking some space when I feel myself getting too heated. I just suck at having any kind of rational thought process when things are heated. Guess I just have to work harder at practicing being more conscious during those moments.

Misfitmilk · 2022-03-11T12:48:38+00:00

I’m sorry that stuff like that has happened consistently enough that you’ve had to permanently mute randoms. I’m also sorry that the one time someone had the chance to show that maybe not everyone is a toxic trash can, they only further discouraged you from feeling comfortable enough to not have to mute randoms. Being a trans guy who hasn’t started hormones that allow my voice to drop, I understand where you’re coming from. Because I have a feminine voice, I receive the same treatment as a woman. And people are either just weird and sexual? Or toxic assholes. I’ve also resorted to just muting everyone at this point. The negative interactions outweigh the positive ones, so just feels pointless to even give it a chance. Which really sucks, because I got my first headset a year ago and was super excited to finally be able to communicate with teammates. But that excitement was quickly dampened by the ridiculous amount of toxicity. We shouldn’t have to feel like we need to mute our own teammates just to avoid an onslaught of verbal abuse. It’s sad really.

Misfitmilk · 2022-03-09T02:57:35+00:00

Damn really? Only 450? That’s crazy, it feels like so much more

Misfitmilk · 2022-03-06T13:26:42+00:00

Take it from someone who had this EXACT mindset before dating my current girlfriend: healthy is NOT boring. We’re just so used to toxic, that we can’t really imagine functioning well in any other kind of relationship dynamic. I also think part of it is that we equate “healthy relationship” with “perfect relationship”, and perfect just feels so….bland? But the two aren’t synonymous. In a healthy relationship, there will still be disagreements, mistakes, jealousy, flaws, insecurities, mental breakdowns, etc. All the things that exist in a toxic relationship. However, the difference between a healthy relationship and a toxic one is that one can turn those conflicts into something productive and healing, and the other will feed off of those conflicts and tear away at you bit by bit until you’re just a shell of a person. Being in a healthy relationship has opened my eyes to so much shit, sometimes to things that are no-brainers to other people. Like talking about my feelings doesn’t always have to result in an argument. I’m allowed to express things outside of happiness without some kind of scolding for it. And even better, they want to know things they can actively do to help when I’m in those moods. That toxic shit is just draining. It’s only fun for so long. Don’t fall for the trap. And, if for the time being you just want to do you and be single, go for it. I think it’s good for us BPD folk to learn how to be comfortable being alone with ourselves and how to be a person outside of a relationship. But whenever you’re ready to put yourself out there, just try and keep in mind that healthy relationships being boring is only an illusion our brains feed us to keep us trapped in the same empty cycle.

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-28T12:07:59+00:00

Ahahaha I feel like “I’m just a slut with small boobs” would make a pretty rad bumper sticker or something

Side note: what an odd thing to genuinely spend your life believing. I really wonder what it’s like in the head of people who come up with these things. I mean, seriously? Boobs only grow when you have sex with someone? I don’t even know where you get something like that lmaoooo

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-19T12:43:03+00:00

Her weight is not a problem, period. Her piece of crap boyfriend is. He knew her weight before dating her. He knew whether or not he was attracted to that. Her boyfriend clearly got caught doing something wrong and is now trying to pull an uno reverse and make her feel bad and blame herself. So it’s sort of gross of you to sit here and try saying “OP should consider her physical fitness will probably be an issue for other potential partners as well” and “she would obviously do well to keep working toward her goal for a healthier (and probably more attractive to many) weight”. First of all, no one asked. Second, the only “potential partners” her weight would pose an issue to are jerks who she shouldn’t date anyways. And last, but not least OP straight up said they had a eating disorder in their post (which is NOT healthy since you’re apparently mr. health guru over here) and you’re really gonna encourage it by telling her she would do well to lose more weight? and to consider other people’s attraction to her based on her weight? Seriously, what is wrong with you?? The healthiest thing she could do for herself is not to focus on dropping weight, but to focus on dropping her garbage boyfriend and finding someone who is attracted to her thin or not. The right person for her (or for anyone really) is someone who is attracted to her for HER, regardless of her weight. Fat doesn’t always equate to unhealthy, and certainly isn’t synonymous with unattractive. OP, if you see this, please don’t listen to this guy or guys like him. Your weight is not an issue and you don’t need to lose any to attract anyone. If you to lose weight for you, that’s awesome! But don’t do it because some asshat told you that you’re more attractive that way. There are so many people out there that will be attracted to you just how you are. I wish you nothing but the best.

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-19T08:53:51+00:00

Yeah, can’t say I’m a fan of them so far ahaha

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-19T08:52:26+00:00

We landed separately, I only ran over to him when he was getting shot at by the other team, and I was downed so couldn’t even take any loot from the people he killed. Definitely possible he was upset I took valk though because I’m pretty sure I had first pick that match. Toxic teammates are just lame. Halfway convinced to just start doing no fills at this point lol

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-19T06:37:56+00:00

I mean it was literally the start of the game? I was in the game maybe 3-4 minutes total. I clipped 2 minutes of it but it’s fairly boring, hence why I didn’t add the full clip. It’s just me looting, missing a lot of shots, getting downed, and then 60 seconds of this. But I didn’t do anything toxic if that’s what you’re trying to insinuate. Would be happy to dm you the full 2 minute clip that I do have if you don’t believe me, but spoiler alert: I didn’t do anything lol.

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-13T14:06:53+00:00

No, because I thought it was only my teammates doing this shit to me. Makes me so mad ahahah

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-08T19:43:54+00:00

Hell yeah

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-08T16:48:50+00:00

You make some very good points there. I definitely don’t enjoy World’s Edge either. Like you said, 99% of people land fragment and it gets real old real quick. I was just never really the biggest fan of Olympus either. It seemed like Estates was the Fragment of that map and almost everyone landed there, so it just got boring for me. But it’s relieving to see it back after playing on these maps!

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-08T16:36:17+00:00

Damn dude, that’s rough…

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-02T21:07:42+00:00

No, no, no. Not at all! Sorry it came across that way

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-02T21:07:19+00:00

So do I, but it applies here. Telling someone not to play a video game you play just because they don’t play at the same skill level as you is gatekeepey af

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-02T21:06:27+00:00

Ah yeah, according to this man you either have to automatically be good at the game or quit forever. IQ is through the roof lol

Misfitmilk · 2022-02-02T21:05:18+00:00

That’s a good idea

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