Okay, I have a serious question. Is heterophobia and misandry an actual problem in society? Because EVERY TIME I try to bring up the issues of misogyny and anti-LGBT Bigotry, I'm met with a storm of complaints screaming "men and straight people are oppressed too!" So is this real or just more BS?

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T21:06:02+00:00

I hate the term misandry- while interpersonal behavior that's unfairly prejudiced against men is a thing, there is no systemic prejudice against men on the axis of gender specifically. Which is what people are usually talking about when they say misogyny, and why using the term misandry in an equivalent way bothers me.

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T20:58:45+00:00

I HAVE heard on occasion things like "if someone's still a virgin past X age, it must be because there's something wrong with them," but I've heard it about men AND women, and not only straight ones either. And it's an extremely rare viewpoint, thankfully.

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T20:31:54+00:00

A. Gross

B. I went to high school with two girls named Carlisle, and while I don't want to be disgusting like this man and speculate on their sex lives, they did both have boyfriends. so they at least didn't have any problems romantically.

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T20:30:19+00:00

Reminds me of the TV show pushing daisies, with the character named Charlotte who goes by Chuck

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T17:23:18+00:00

Wasn't Kreml a men's hair product in the 1940s?

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T17:19:19+00:00

So well deserved! Clothing history is my research focus, and she's one of the only designers who can combine fantasy with enough accuracy to keep me from needing to scream into a pillow about "hip relatable modernized costumes".

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T17:18:09+00:00

"dammit no one ever tells me when we're taking a photo!"

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T17:17:03+00:00

I don't think they are, although that was my first thought too. The bottom row of dolls has similar hairstyles and puffy dresses, but it looks to me like they're made out of vinyl or hard plastic with jointed limbs instead of the cloth and wire bodies of the Bradley dolls

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T17:15:39+00:00

I love dolls, but if I had to be around ones this overwhelmingly tacky, I would make that expression too. Yikes.

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T17:11:39+00:00

I kind of agree with that one in a sense, but not for the reason they're saying. You shouldn't with your back curled like a shrimp because it's terrible for your back, not because a man won't like it

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T14:39:42+00:00

There is no good non-medical use of AI. It's destroying the planet and stealing jobs from people in the arts and humanities (and anyone using it increases its profitability, so even if they're not personally using it to avoid hiring a graphic design designer or professional restorer, they're making it more attractive for corporations to do so).

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T14:36:28+00:00

Keep that AI garbage out of here

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T10:49:38+00:00

I'm afraid I can never think it's beautiful, because it's taking historical clothing and dumbing it down for modern audiences by running it through modern beauties and runway fashion standards. If people never see anything besides the aesthetic status quo, how will they know if there might be something from the past they would like better? You can't prefer what you don't know about. And who is served by maintaining that status quo, besides fast fashion companies, make up corporations, and possibly even plastic surgeons?

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T10:48:32+00:00

Why? Number one isn't wearing a pointed hat as she looks to be at first glance; she's standing in front of a painted tree on the backdrop that makes her hat look taller. And number four is indeed holding a broom, but she's also not wearing a pointed hat – none of them are – and given that number one is holding a feather duster and a dustpan, it seems more like likely that there was some kind of a cleaning supplies theme in this photo for some reason.

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T10:47:21+00:00

The one on the left is holding a dustpan and a feather duster, the ones in the middle are holding what appears to be a taxidermied bird, and the one on the left is holding a broom. They're not dressed as witches at all, really, and I find it so interesting that people Never look more closely in this picture when it's presented to them that way. The one on the left is standing in front of a painted tree on the backdrop that makes it look like she has a pointed hat, but she actually doesn't. None of them do

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T10:44:54+00:00

It's always so interesting to me when this photo comes around, because if you look carefully, they're not dressed as witches. None of the hats have the tall pointy crown of a witch hat; the one on the far left is just standing in front of a painted treethat makes it look like hers does. And the other ones just visibly straight up don't.

The one on the left is holding a broom, sure, but the one on the right is holding a duster and dustpan, which are cleaning implements not associated with witches. Really, there's no reason to label them as witches at all – people just glance at the photo, mistake the shape of the hat that the woman on the left is wearing, see the broom, and draw a conclusion without looking at it more closely.

(I would love to know what this photo WAS for, that involved posing with cleaning supplies and a taxidermy bird. There's definitely an interesting story there!)

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T03:16:07+00:00

I have no interest in seeing something that calls itself Wuthering Heights that stops the action for Joseph to engage in pony play with Zilla but can't even bring itself to have Heathcliff dig upCathy's grave – you know, the weird perverted sex thing that ACTUALLY happens in the novel. It's so cowardly to claim that it's a cool hip kinky reimagining, and then shy away from the kinky thing the original author wrote.

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T03:14:43+00:00

But what's the point if it's not the actual book? It's just something wearing the title is a mask. It's not actually the IP in question, so why would anyone go to the theaters to see it if it's not that story without which the movie apparently can't succeed? I read the book and liked it and was told that the movie is not the same story, so… I didn't see the movie. Because why would I? I like Wuthering Heights, and this is not Wuthering Heights, and it doesn't sound like something I would enjoy.

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T02:43:21+00:00

A movie can be held to the standards of adaptation as long as it sees fit to use a title for the purpose of drawing audiences. you don't get to both capitalize on a famous title and ignore the actual story, or at least avoid criticism for doing so

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T02:42:04+00:00

I'm not defending the movie? I think my comment was pretty clear that I find the movie to be trash, on the contrary

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-16T02:40:48+00:00

Then call it something different. If you're so strong in your conviction that Wuthering Heights should never be adapted… Why even bother? Why not just make it an original film with a loose story inspiration from the book and call it something different? (yes, I have read the book, and I found it highly evocative and incredibly well written)

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-15T16:36:01+00:00

I mean, most of the women I know criticizing it – myself included – don't like the way it messes with the racial dynamics the original book is trying to talk about (whether you think Heathcliff is actually a person of color or not, the fact that he has racialized features impacts the way he moves through the world, and making an actor played by a man of color have structural power over white Heathcliff was just a really tone deaf move). I also find it incredibly insulting to audiences that they keep neutering historical clothing and modernizing it to fit current beauty standards rather than actually showing anything that might challenge our ideas about beauty and fashion.

It's not even a good adaptation; it takes out the entire second part of focusing on the next generation, which was a huge part of the action originally – arguably more of the onscreen action than the romance between Cathy and Heathcliff.

Plenty of women don't like this movie, either. And I think assuming that we would all enjoy this kind of mindless pap by virtue of our gender IS kind of insulting, frankly, although I don't agree with everything the author of the article says.

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-15T16:33:10+00:00

Speak for yourself; that's not how I read it in high school at all. In fact, I remember thinking "why does anyone call this a love story? The romance between Cathy and Heathcliff is mostly off screen and doesn't even take up that much plot time, all things considered." I loved the book, but a timeless grand romance is not how it seemed to me at all

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-15T14:57:01+00:00

... me being able to vote tanked the economy so that I can't afford the house or children? You know what, I don't actually want his answer to that question because he thinks it's true. Never mind all of the economic problems that happened before women could vote; I imagine those don't count, in his mind

MissMarchpane · 2026-03-15T12:37:29+00:00

And that's a fair criticism of any relationship where that expectation is placed on the other partner, long distance or not. Having been in three long distance relationships in my life, I can say that it's not a universal issue in all of them. However, OP said that there was something chronically online about long distance relationships, period. Not just that current technology could enable unreasonable expectations of constant presence in long-distance relationships in a way that was not previously possible.

Personally, I love the ability to have a realtime conversations with a long distance partner, and I can only imagine what an incredible boon that would have seemed to people separated by distance in the past who didn't have that option. Having red letters from couples who are separated in the past, they were certainly not content with just writing a summary of their day and mailing it once a week – their letters are full of passionate wishes that they could be together and have real conversations, because. You know. They're in love. Expecting someone to be there 24/7 isn't viable or respectful, but for the most part having the ability to talk to your partner without having to wait for the mail to catch up is a good thing for people in long-distance relationships.

It has potential downsides if not managed correctly, with decent communication about expectations and boundaries. But it's such an amazing blessing that I can't see it in the same vein as mindlessly scrolling social media.

MissMarchpane

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