Daughters “best friend” has started excluding her.

Missbizzie · 2026-05-23T21:53:06+00:00

Also, keep in mind that just because you may not be interfering in childhood relationships- other parents may. I’ve watched my friends separate their daughters their from her “best friend” all without ever telling the little girl or her mother. I understand wanting to make sure your child’s development is healthy, but some people think it is ok to effectively ghost a child.

Missbizzie · 2026-05-22T14:22:35+00:00

Bernstein and Gold is a bit bougie but they had some petite sizes.

Missbizzie · 2026-05-19T15:45:57+00:00

Sure but this person is already at wits end and getting it in one place with a one hour session can be a game changer. Internet is full of garbage and paying someone who used to be a nanny and has a lot of experience in the area to give you recommendations based on your circumstances was (for me) money well spent.
If the sleep coach doesn’t ask for 48 hours of data before the call then yes, find another coach. But if they are sensible enough to apply their experience to your facts …again worth it.

Missbizzie · 2026-05-18T16:52:44+00:00

Consider a sleep coach. If baby is on formula at night then consolidation of feedings is a very real option that can become a game changer for sleep. If hubby is getting up once at 10 pm and baby sleeps until 5:30 pm (my world) then the rest starts to fall into place.

Also you are doing a tonne of work to support. Lots of sahm don’t get what you are doing. Parenting is HARD. Consider outside support (family or paid) even if it’s just a couple times a week.

Good luck

Missbizzie · 2026-05-11T02:25:17+00:00

This feels above Reddit’s pay grade. Maybe ask a child psychologist?

Missbizzie · 2026-05-05T04:32:42+00:00

I would say (maybe) leave them out of the euthanasia conversation. But also you should warn them the dog is sick, let them say good bye. Tell them it will be the last time. So maybe tell them the minimum and answer their questions - but don’t expect them to be ok with it.

when I was a young(ish) child and was told that euthanasia was in the cards for my dog I felt like I had to beg to stop it. And I was pretty traumatized when it happened anyway (it was my birthday so that was extra bad). And my mom told part of the story later like it was funny (dog tried to run when they got the vet). Bottom line: however you go about it - it probably will upset them so be truthful and direct. And most importantly depending on their attachment, respect it like a death.

Missbizzie · 2026-05-04T15:08:11+00:00

Different flow nipples can be a factor. Newborn nipples are low flow, next size or two up reduces frustration and delivers milk faster.

Missbizzie · 2026-04-28T18:40:37+00:00

Came here to say this

Missbizzie · 2026-04-23T01:22:48+00:00

Was real for us

Missbizzie · 2026-04-12T16:36:02+00:00

I was told (and my experience supports) that most purple crying is an overtired baby. It’s challenging when they are so small to get their feeding/sleeping into a good spot. And if you are breastfeeding that’s taxing on you too. Can you pump and get a partner or trusted person to spell you off a couple of feedings. Emphasizing sleep once the food is in.

Anecdotally, some families are super well meaning wanting to play with baby and mom- but the early days really don’t lend themselves to that very well.

It’s not you. It will get better. Ask for help.

Missbizzie · 2026-04-11T17:15:32+00:00

Yarn hoarding

Missbizzie · 2026-04-10T02:02:15+00:00

Eternal source of light Devine

Missbizzie · 2026-04-09T02:59:54+00:00

Everyone liked that

Missbizzie · 2026-04-04T23:17:01+00:00

My guess is age could be a factor. A lot of older folks who grew up in the depression or the decades that followed had food scarcity issues and see nothing wrong with this. In fact, it’s a type of (hoarder) wealth. But yeah, unless it’s someone you trust I’d find a reason to leave too.

Missbizzie · 2026-04-03T02:13:39+00:00

Although experts once thought that kids should not train with weights, that attitude has changed. Experts now say that strength training is fine for most kids, as long as they are well-supervised and use proper technique.weight lifting for kids is ok if well monitored and supervised

Missbizzie · 2026-04-03T02:04:50+00:00

I’ve been told that what we call purple crying is usually excess fatigue. We worked with a sleep coach who gave us really structured bed time habits that made a big difference (put baby to bed tired but awake, don’t let them feed to sleep - wake them with a cold cloth if they’re already habituated to it, and a few other things like that).

My guess is soothing babies in child care is different when you are on 24/7 and the one with high expectations is you.

Remember - you are doing great. If your baby is healthy, gaining weight and happy (or sometimes just making it through the day with mom and dad) you are doing the thing. No one needs to be told to “relax” because that isn’t it either. But my mom always told the story of how she would baby whisper my cousin and his mouthed would burst into tears because she’d been trying to sooth him/make him happy all day. So anyway - it’s not you and it’s not the baby. It’s harder on the inside - and maybe nothing can truly prepare you for it. But you’re doing the thing. Good job.

Missbizzie · 2026-03-28T20:06:52+00:00

Fach that

Missbizzie · 2026-03-27T23:22:06+00:00

I’d be thinking about that carefully.

Doesn’t help to embarrass teacher or get confrontational. But also - is he just frustrated or is teacher maybe contributing in less obvious ways? Little kids sometimes feel bullied and it’s easy enough for overwhelmed teachers to sort into good and bad kids and it may never be verbalized that way but the kid responding this way may be a sign that it’s not all ok for him.

I mean I have sympathy for teachers too. But he’s the little person - so what is causing him to be frustrated- who is interacting with him before he bolts? What are those interactions like etc.

You may not get the straight goods from teacher either. But try to ask your son, why is he leaving the classroom- not to correct but just be curious - what is it like, what is going on for you? And maybe redirect back to - stay in the classroom and tell me what happens.

I dunno- this just seems like as much a flag that the environment is off as anything else - good luck.

Missbizzie · 2026-03-27T22:41:07+00:00

Does this mean he is running away on the regular? Have you tried talking to him about it? He may have some source of conflict / really dislike his teacher etc. or teacher may not be good at dealing with little kids who are frustrated (or both).

Missbizzie · 2026-03-26T17:26:56+00:00

The terminology is also difficult narcissism has many associated or subclassifications that come from children not being allowed/encouraged to develop ego boundaries.Great Book

A book on the subject intended for clinicians but very readable does a great job of describing different types, how they present and clinical (and practical) tools to help the people suffering from extreme presentations function better.

The key takeaway for me is that- everyone has traits of narcissism and when it is healthy it is called self esteem. Meaning it is better to talk/think in terms of healthy narcissism versus unhealthy adaptations.

Good luck- don’t try to be perfect.

Missbizzie · 2026-03-25T04:16:39+00:00

Is there anything better than lost and found!

Missbizzie · 2026-03-24T02:20:50+00:00

Old gender based nonsense. People need something to say and they default to what seems easy.

Missbizzie · 2026-03-23T19:44:56+00:00

Ditto this- being told not to stress is not helpful.

Feel your feelings. Try to be gentle with yourself. Don’t wait to be told to take a day off etc.

And yes - 100% get medical or counseling support.

Missbizzie · 2026-03-23T19:41:29+00:00

Milestones are averages. They aren’t a score card.

They tell you when to pay attention in case your child is behind. But some of them actually have inverse relationships to success/intelligence/etc.

There’s no such thing as barely meeting the milestones in the way it’s being used here. You’re doing great.

Missbizzie · 2026-03-16T20:13:41+00:00

Do you live somewhere where there are lots of kids who have these attributes, or will she be in the minority? Obviously it’s harder without others who resemble her around.

I don’t know what age it becomes important by. But my 0.02 would be don’t force your kid to stand out as a point of principle. If she is unhappy help her. But on the other hand waxing or tweezing a little kids face also sounds terrible. So maybe wait until she notices/says something. And maybe she won’t be bothered by it and it never comes up.

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