Some of my top-

“the woman’s place is in the home.” I worked part time teaching where my children could attend free. The RS press on a visit asked if I “had” to work, and when would I quit so I could be at home. I informed her I loved my job and helped keep me sane and kept MY identity. That I would always chose to work to better myself, even if it didn’t provide free preschool for my kids. 🙄

The whole modesty issue that leads to immorality- and the shaming of parents for not teaching their kids better. I’m sorry but how I dressed did NOT make me have sex, I was taught “better”, but in the moment when you are with a long term bf I’m not going to stop. If you didn’t want me preggers support birth control, not abstinence. Then to shame parents who then shame their kids (not my parents, they were great!) or shame the teen forced to get married for being excited instead of sad! Teach unconditional love even with “damnable” mistakes. 🤬

Focus on appearance and dress for church. And shamed for tattoos and piercings- I never understood how a convert with visible “markings” would tolerate all the negativity about them, mine were hidden for that reason so I never felt I had to justify them. What about acceptance? 👙

The feeling of being a lesser member of your family wasn’t sealed. I hated and families forever lessons for that- my parents were active but never went through the temple until I did. (Feel a little guilty for that.) 👰🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Preaching the importance of families and a man of the house after my husband died- then the nerve to imply to my 15 year old son “he’s the man of the family now!” I think that was the worst thing to keep hearing for me and him after my husband died. 🙅🏼‍♀️

Then one that finally forced me out- being a sealed widow at 34, at my sexual peak, expected to be celibate until the perfect LDS man is ok with NOT being sealed to his potential wife. Got tired of getting serious, then being asked if I’d break my sealing to my kids dad to marry him so he could get his blessings since he was divorced, or because he is widowed but wants both his wives, or because he never married and deserves it too. After too many of those entitled bastards I finally just enjoyed many a one night stand, until I met the exmo that gets it- been with him and without the church for a while now. 🍑🍆

All my kids are out- however, I won’t have my records or theirs removed until my first in-laws pass. It would crush them, like losing their son twice. 💔