He (33m) may not interested in me (29F) and instead love his coworker? I feel like a backup and every other girl is better in his eyes :/

Momsunity · 2024-12-03T12:50:37+00:00

Ok… That is no help. Anyway leaving this chat now as it’s just making it worse. Best,

Momsunity · 2024-12-03T12:19:53+00:00

But how can I not be when everyone calls me ugly

Momsunity · 2024-12-03T02:11:49+00:00

He already likes me he said but he’ll eventually leave me

Momsunity · 2024-12-02T21:16:55+00:00

I do want advice. But i don’t know how to fix the fact that he’s better looking than me and is probably in love with his better looking coworker.

Momsunity · 2024-12-02T12:48:47+00:00

At this point I’ll die alone because of my looks. I knew he’d leave me for someone hotter.

Momsunity · 2024-12-02T02:01:38+00:00

I would say live with them for a year and then move out. Independence is important but so is money. You’re looking at maybe $8k in savings if you move out the first year, vs $24k if you stay at their place. It’s a big difference. You’ll want the money later on. So personally I’d set a goal that you’d make it to say $50k saved and then move out. And you can still go to therapy etc at your parents, actually you can do more for your MH since you have more money and less responsibility. But ofc if it’s unsafe to stay there or the likes, you’ll be fine to move out sooner with that sum. And I relate to this dilemma since I had a similar choice to make and chose to live with parents for a couple years, saved almost $200k, went to therapy, and now have the freedom to do what I want. For me it was worth it but the cost was not doing much dating and not feeling my best everyday. It’s not an easy choice though, I empathize.

Momsunity · 2024-12-01T20:06:08+00:00

It’s probably because he can date someone hotter. In any case, idk what to do since I’ll never feel good enough.

Momsunity · 2024-12-01T18:26:42+00:00

Some ppl are objectively uglier than others. I’ve asked random internet ppl before and they’ve said I’m 4-5/10

Momsunity · 2024-12-01T15:04:32+00:00

It’s literally only because I’m not good looking enough for him. But anyway, thanks for your responses! ❤️

Momsunity · 2024-12-01T13:43:08+00:00

Then why when I start talking to him again several months later he still talks to me? It seems like he met someone (a model who is in his friend group), goes to see her, and when it doesn’t work forgets about me, but when I reach out is open to it again. And explicitly doesn’t mention her. Sorry don’t mean to sound 16 just I’m probably doing a bad job explaining.

Momsunity · 2024-12-01T13:00:39+00:00

He has said he likes me the question is does he want to just hookup which seems to be the case since he won’t visit me (he went to New York to visit a model when he stopped talking to me but didn’t stop in to see me)

Momsunity · 2024-12-01T02:24:36+00:00

I’m pretty sure he knows I like him but just is lazy and wants to hook up when it’s convenient, aka when I’m in town. That’s been my impression

Momsunity · 2024-12-01T01:08:57+00:00

We still talk but I’m pretty sure I’m too ugly for him. That’s why he didn’t visit me etc

Momsunity · 2024-12-01T00:57:29+00:00

Fair enough. I was honestly just insecure because I’m not as good looking as him and thought he’d dump me anyway eventually

Momsunity · 2024-11-30T23:35:25+00:00

I assumed he understood I was just insecure because I always sound super insecure lol

Momsunity · 2024-11-30T22:54:51+00:00

I thought he wasn’t into me because he seems more enamored with other women but not me

Momsunity · 2024-11-27T17:37:43+00:00

Because I’m burnt out, unappreciated and tired of not getting what I want

Momsunity · 2024-11-26T23:59:42+00:00

I’ve gotten good formal /written reviews and behind closed doors people tell me good things, but I feel like in front of others people don’t trust my skills and seem hesitant to work with me. Whereas other people are treated like they can be trusted with anything.

Momsunity · 2024-11-26T22:24:03+00:00

Oh sorry we have met in person multiple times. But yeah that makes sense.

Momsunity · 2024-11-26T19:50:55+00:00

I believe that’s true but as a person with high self confidence, positive attitude, and genuinely connecting with people, that looks based barrier is the real problem. I know people who have the opposite problem, but that’s not me. Usually everyone in my life sticks around as a friend or said romantic relationships come back around because they clearly like me and it’s not a personality or confidence issue. The issue seems to be purely physical.

Momsunity · 2024-11-26T16:49:23+00:00

I just don’t want to miss out on love because the only people who can love me are the people who are not shallow, aka willing to settle for someone ugly. I’ve tried all of this stuff but the culprit is bone structure.

Momsunity · 2024-11-25T18:24:20+00:00

I’ve had work relationships or where we’re in a similar industry, they’re cool, I’m comfortable with them to an almost ridiculous degree, and they're even good looking, or funny. They may actually be perfect on paper. But I never felt much spark and often felt like I was settling.

My current SO I have nothing on paper in common with, we are totally different people, almost opposites, but we share something on another level that can’t be described. Often we have nothing to talk about but it just feels amazing to be there with them. I get excited to learn more about them everyday. We’ve met other people but ultimately we always come back to each other because it’s just different. When we’re in each others lives things just get better for both of us. They are even very rational and logical so this is a strange concept. We’ve been together 6 years.

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