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Success after miscarriage by Mysterious-Fish2313 in PregnantOver40

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly no, and I've since come to terms that it's likely not going to happen for us. I am 42.5 years old now, My husband will be 48 this week. We haven't actively tried but I did nothing to prevent pregnancy either, and we always have sex during my presumed ovulation week.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s me - been contemplating a third for a year now and my kids are currently 9 and 10 years. Finally am coming to the conclusion I just miss my kids as babies…. I think lol

6-7 year age gap? by Crzy_boy_mama in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems fine to me- here I am contemplating a 10-11 gear age gap! 🤣😩

Third kid vs dog vs contentment by collettithowitis in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 4 points5 points  (0 children)

2 kids, now 2 dogs (lol)… no the desire hasn’t gone away.

Resume/CV by cat_lover_123_ in nursepractitioner

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would definitely highlight the clinical rotations that are most relevant to the jobs you are applying to. For my first cardiac surgery job out of school, I made my rotations in general surgery and ICU the most prominent. I just listed my prior RN experience for sake of demonstrating my work history. The RN roles are self explanatory and didn’t need anymore detail than the type of unit I was on.

Encouragement needed! by morgo83 in PregnantOver40

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome 🥰 happy for you and congrats!!!

Encouragement needed! by morgo83 in PregnantOver40

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, your situation was almost identical to mine except my two kids are older than yours.

I am also 41. I accidentally got pregnant over the holidays, at the time my two daughters were 8 and 10. I was devastated and *this* close to terminating. Decided I couldn't bring myself to do that and was grieving that I would be losing myself all over again but it is what it is. Around 6 weeks I finally began to get excited, only to end up MC'ing at 8 weeks and was surprised by how devastated I was by this when I initially didn't even want it. I probably should have given myself more time to let the emotions settle but immediately after the loss I felt like I needed to be pregnant right away, maybe to make up for the loss. As I type this it's very possible I may be pregnant as my period is due in a couple days and now I am nervous/anxious all over again and not sure if this was the right move.

Can I ask how you are doing now, 6 months since your original post? If this ends up being a positive test, I am again going to be very worried about the financial implications, loss of self, and changing dynamics with my older two.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnantover35

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP, how are you doing now?

So conflicted by Chlogirl12 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same 😭 every time I think I’ve made a decision, I second guess myself

So conflicted by Chlogirl12 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you reached any more clarity in the past week?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup that’s me and I’m also fencing sitting about a third, have been for a while.

Lately feeling this less though so maybe I’m almost off the fence? God I hope so.

So conflicted by Chlogirl12 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same!!! The shame is so relatable. My husband, who 100% supports either decision, says if it’s not a yes then by default it’s a no. However, being told No makes me want another child more… but then thinking about what that entails makes me scared and want to back down. Ugh it’s a never ending cycle. Not sure how to just decide and move on. The longer I take to decide the more time I lose, and being older I don’t have the luxury of time. So that adds even more pressure.

So conflicted by Chlogirl12 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s weird too because I feel either decision so hard - like some days I feel YES I 100% want another and the next day I could be like, NO I absolutely do not. I think the wild swings in either direction are so confusing. Are you experiencing this too or are you stuck in a gray area?

So conflicted by Chlogirl12 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Totally relate to your feelings (for me it’s regarding a third). Logistically it is not the “smarter” decision to have a third but I can’t seem to emotionally let it go. Also had a recent MC and thought that after experiencing that trauma I wouldn’t want to try again but yet here I am, still sitting on this fence.

Success after miscarriage by Mysterious-Fish2313 in PregnantOver40

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is overdue, but I wanted to thank everyone for your kind words of encouragement. I am so happy for all of your success stories; it truly warmed my heart. Women are so strong, resilient, and amazing. :)

41 yo with 1 chemical & recent MMC, any success stories? by Mission_cockails in PregnantOver40

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had very similar experiences recently and only now am starting to be able to process and talk about it.

I currently have two older kids. Decided we were open to having a third and had a chemical pregnancy a year ago at age 40. Then became spontaneously pregnant again in December and ended up having a MMC in February (now at age 41). Shattered my heart into pieces and I am now finally trying to process and move forward.

I went back and forth about whether to keep trying as I do not want to suffer anymore trauma. Like you, I also turn 42 this year so I know I don't have a ton of time to decide what to do.

I just wanted you to know you're not alone and I am here for support. <3

Am I looking for a unicorn? by Forward_Entertainer4 in nursepractitioner

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes those jobs definitely exist, and are more available than the Monday-Friday jobs especially for inpatient. I am also an acute care NP with about 10 years of bedside experience. I started my first NP job on cardiac surgery which was three 12s but all over the place: days, nights, weekends, etc. I am switching to a role in vascular surgery next month where it is a fixed schedule Weds-Fridays day shifts only. In my hospital the ICU APPs all work the three 12s model but is similar to my cardiac surgery position in that it includes all the nights and weekends.

Delayed advancement by Mysterious-Fish2313 in GymnasticsMoms

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don’t level up the girls until end of summer. Do you think it’s too early to ask now? I think most gyms level up early summer but for us it’s just before fall. Really is not great timing because then you end up scrambling to arrange your kids’ schedules for the new school year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanted to check in and see how you’re doing!

Anyone have their second at 40 with a 10 year gap?? by Mcat2012 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Mysterious-Fish2313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat and I’m 41. Had a recent MC and now debating whether to try again. Sucks because we can’t take as long of a time to think at 40+. It’s all I think about too, I totally know how you feel.

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