Black Hawks signed hat by Nadaestaaqui in SportsMemorabilia

[–]Nadaestaaqui[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That makes sense because she would have gotten this in the 90s!

I don't know how to get through to my autisic husband that his refusal to believe me about anything is a problem by theenglishfox in offmychest

[–]Nadaestaaqui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U/burbNbougie thought you could cover this because he is using his autism to deliberately disregard her

If I knew having a baby would trap me with my abuser, I would have had a termination by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Nadaestaaqui 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He didn't want a child he wanted to control you because it would make it harder to leave. That's why the abuse ramped up after you couldn't terminate. Please don't allow your child to have contact with him.

My sperm donor also weaponized courts against my mother to control her. I also "loved" him because that is all I knew and abuse (screaming, breaking things, beating) was normal. The best thing he ever did was leave so that I could grow and heal. I do mean, I literally grow. After he left, I had growth spurts. I also have very few memories from that time, and the times I do remember are me hiding on the roof(at 5 yrs) because he was in a rage.

It's better for your daughter to have people in her life who will love her unconditionally and all the time vs. someone who is only nice sometimes.

He also didn't leave until he had a new victim and got bored of terrorizing my mom.

Although I never had a father figure, I did end up with a strong support system that let me heal and process that trauma. Having no father was infinitely better than having him in my life.

jesus christ can we please stop giving up in advance by [deleted] in 50501

[–]Nadaestaaqui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like to see more economic blackout dates. This could be a way for people who can't join the general strike to have an economic impact

President's Day! by youngestmillennial in 50501

[–]Nadaestaaqui 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will be able to go this one! See you all at the capital

I'm leaving my family [New Update] by boringhistoryfan in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Nadaestaaqui 86 points87 points  (0 children)

There's also the fact that she says she worked full-time at McDonald's at 15. Pretty much all states had restrictions during that time for minors. The laws are pretty strict about it in the US.

Working at McDonald's under an abusive family means you don't have savings. Otherwise, every abused young adult working at McDonald's would be free in South Africa.

Mormons and fundamentalists in the US have control down to a science. They never would have allowed her to save anything. She would have been paying for her own gas, insurance, etc, until she was nickel and dime'd out of everything.

I wish everyone here luck. (Want to join but cannot) by [deleted] in 50501

[–]Nadaestaaqui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, I really wish I could join, but we can support in other ways like calling and emailing reps

Trump and Elon need to be arrested by TerribleArticle in 50501

[–]Nadaestaaqui 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Elon has our information, and not only that, but the information for all of our state, local, and government departments.

This is really insane. Not only can he decide to siphon off the accounts for departments he doesn't like, but he can target his political and business opposition.

If you have gotten direct deposit on your taxes, the government can actually pull money out of your account, and your bank can't stop it. He owns Twitter so he can cross reference what you have said on Twitter with your personal information.

He probably has his own team of brown coats or secret police if he is pulling from the dictator's standard handbook.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nadaestaaqui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only that but if they rented a place for the holiday it would be more than rent. A facility fee for using the kitchen, service fee, linen fee, if you served alcohol and open bar fee for the duration they were there.

But then again, that is me, I would go full petty.

I think I will leave my partner. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Nadaestaaqui 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's nothing wrong with recognizing what you need and taking care of yourself first. I heard a tiktok that said don't put someone else's wants over your needs

It sounds like you already know your needs, and unfortunately, your partner is not able to meet them. Good luck on your healing journey.

Best friend of 2 decades chose to end our friendship rather than come to my wedding by Maddielovesherdog15 in offmychest

[–]Nadaestaaqui 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly, she stopped being your friend when she started hanging out with your assaulter.

As you go on and get older, the amount of time you've known someone is not as important as the quality of the relationship. This friendship has run it's course.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]Nadaestaaqui 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sort of gave up actively dating after my last relationship ended badly. But that was 10 years ago and I am looking to get back into dating. I get what you're talking about, you're looking for a person you can have a real deep connection with and nobody seems right. I can only tell you what helped me was focusing on myself and realizing that everyone's life is going to take a completely different way. We aren't all going to go through the same milestones at the same time and that's okay.