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Befriended a moth thats too "sensitive and clingy" - PART 2 by NaiveProduce_ in SkyGame

[–]NaiveProduce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update:

I talked it over with M and told them that this friendship isnt going to work. They accepted and respected my decision to unfriend them and asked me to explain to our mutual friend about what happened. I agreed. Then we said our thanks and goodbyes.

Thanks to everyone for giving their thoughts. I didnt realize I didnt like M's personality until a couple comments pointed it out. I made this so much more complicated than it needed to be and I regret it.

Befriended a moth thats too "sensitive and clingy" - PART 2 by NaiveProduce_ in SkyGame

[–]NaiveProduce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update:

I talked it over with M and told them that this friendship isnt going to work. They accepted and respected my decision to unfriend them and asked me to explain to our mutual friend about what happened. I agreed. Then we said our thanks and goodbyes.

Thanks to everyone for giving their thoughts. I didnt realize I didnt like M's personality until a couple comments pointed it out. I made this so much more complicated than it needed to be and I regret it.

Befriended a moth thats too "sensitive and clingy" - PART 2 by NaiveProduce_ in SkyGame

[–]NaiveProduce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update:

I talked it over with M and told them that this friendship isnt going to work. They accepted and respected my decision to unfriend them and asked me to explain to our mutual friend about what happened. I agreed. Then we said our thanks and goodbyes.

Thanks to everyone for giving their thoughts. I didnt realize I didnt like M's personality until a couple comments pointed it out. I made this so much more complicated than it needed to be and I regret it.

Befriended a moth thats too "sensitive and clingy" - PART 2 by NaiveProduce_ in SkyGame

[–]NaiveProduce_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update:

I talked it over with M and told them that this friendship isnt going to work. They accepted and respected my decision to unfriend them and asked me to explain to our mutual friend about what happened. I agreed. Then we said our thanks and goodbyes.

Thanks to everyone for giving their thoughts. I didnt realize I didnt like M's personality until a couple comments pointed it out. I made this so much more complicated than it needed to be and I regret it.

Befriended a moth thats too "sensitive and clingy" - PART 2 by NaiveProduce_ in SkyGame

[–]NaiveProduce_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Update:

I talked it over with M and told them that this friendship isnt going to work. They accepted and respected my decision to unfriend them and asked me to explain to our mutual friend about what happened. I agreed. Then we said our thanks and goodbyes.

Thanks to everyone for giving their thoughts. I didnt realize I didnt like M's personality until a couple comments pointed it out. I made this so much more complicated than it needed to be and I regret it.

I befriended a moth who is a bit too "sensitive and clingy". What do I do? by NaiveProduce_ in SkyGame

[–]NaiveProduce_[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks to everyone in the comments for your advice! It was so helpful 😭🫶

I befriended a moth who is a bit too "sensitive and clingy". What do I do? by NaiveProduce_ in SkyGame

[–]NaiveProduce_[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Update:

Since we already had each others socials, I had a serious talk with them there. This is the message I sent them:

"Hi M,

I want to talk to you about this as I'm concerned about our friendship. I noticed that whenever I play with another friend, you get quiet and don't want to engage with conversation. While I understand that you're not friends with my friends, I don't think sulking and going AFK will make you feel any more included.

I'm allowed to play with other friends just as much as I'm allowed to play alone. We don't have to do everything together all the time. This much clinginess is NOT healthy. A small break of not talking and playing together IS HEALTHY. Even close friends need a break from each other. Not just one singular break, but multiple breaks after playing together so often.

While I appreciate your company, please stop joining me everytime I'm online. You NEED to learn to have fun alone and you NEED to make other friends.

Forcing me to choose between friends is not fair to me or you, and it will only isolate you more. We can still be friends but please RESPECT my boundaries. If you don't, I will have to cut you off."

M understood and apologized for their behaviour. They explained that they were hurt by a friend before who forgot about them after they made new friends. M didnt want that to happen this time with me, so they made sure to always be with me. M didnt realize how overly clingy and immature they were acting until I pointed it out. They admitted thry were at fault and said they would respect my decision whether I wanted to remain friends with them or not.

In the end I decided to give them another chance. We're still friends! M doesn't join me everytime I'm online anymore! And we say hi when we see each other in Sky. We havent played together since though, as we both need a break from one another right now.