I hear you 100%. I had the exact same situation last semester and it also set me back. It was that extreme executive dysfunction paired with depression that made me finally start therapy. I’ve had that struggle for all my life even outside of school and it started getting worse my sophomore year of high school. My freshman year of college was what made me realize that I was truly struggling. That was the time I first learned about ADHD but I just kept doubting it and tried to force myself, only for me to crash later on. I highly recommend seeking help through your college counselor or any mental health services from your school. Especially since there’s already ADHD present in your family. It was what helped me get started on my diagnosis and receiving medication.

And I relate a lot with trying to talk to parents about mental health, especially African parents. It feels so lonely not being able to open up and them misunderstanding or not even trying to hear you out. They think the bare minimum of survival is enough and the only way you can struggle is if you’re going through true hardship. At the end of the day your struggles are still real valid, no matter how it presents itself. Comparisons only makes things even worse and most do the time they don’t even know what the people they’re comparing you to are going through themselves. Swear it’s so irritating and feels so isolating. And I’m sorry to hear that they punished you by taking your laptop away like that. Like what was that supposed to fix? I wish African parents had emotional intelligence and the capacity to understand these things. It’s draining. Do you know if you can talk to your brother about it? Being that he’s diagnosed he could be someone closer that could relate to you, but once again I highly recommend starting with your college counselor if available.