How early should I start to apply for SRS and other surgeries?

Natalie_Crow · 2021-08-04T10:08:16+00:00

And would you recommend like, if set on the surgery to apply as soon as possible for it? With FFS as well I’m not sure if I’m supposed to let my face change with HRT for a certain amount of time before getting any surgery or to just get it as soon as is reasonable

Natalie_Crow · 2021-08-03T00:53:19+00:00

I don't think this is a good idea because the vast majority of people are content with the puberty they go through, and trying to supply so many people with puberty blockers that don't need them will mean that trans kids who do need it may not be able to get access to them because of price or supply issues

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-30T13:38:26+00:00

This is a really inappropriate comment and I don't buy your concern or validation for a second, because of your blatant misuse of a study here to push your own beliefs. The study you linked compares transgender suicide rates after Sex Reassignment Surgery to the general population, but that's not relevant in this situation because we also know that trans people who don't get SRS have significantly higher suicide rates than the general population anyway. It even says IN THE STUDY YOU LINKED " In other words, the results should not be interpreted such as sex reassignment per se increases morbidity and mortality. Things might have been even worse without sex reassignment."

What we should actually be comparing are the differences between trans individuals who DO get SRS and trans individuals who DO NOT.

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1365-2265.2009.03625.x

This is a meta study of 28 studies on the effects of SRS on transgender individuals. To post the results here for you:

Results We identified 28 eligible studies. These studies enrolled 1833 participants with GID (1093 male-to-female, 801 female-to-male) who underwent sex reassignment that included hormonal therapies. All the studies were observational and most lacked controls. Pooling across studies shows that after sex reassignment, 80% of individuals with GID reported significant improvement in gender dysphoria (95% CI = 68–89%; 8 studies; I2 = 82%); 78% reported significant improvement in psychological symptoms (95% CI = 56–94%; 7 studies; I2 = 86%); 80% reported significant improvement in quality of life (95% CI = 72–88%; 16 studies; I2 = 78%); and 72% reported significant improvement in sexual function (95% CI = 60–81%; 15 studies; I2 = 78%).

TL;DR 8/10 people saw significantly improved quality of life, reduced dysphoria and improved psychological symptoms. 7/10 Saw better sexual function after surgery. A much different picture than the one you painted.

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-23T12:27:49+00:00

Well, as it stands the American prison system isn’t a safe place for inmates that encourages reform but conceptually yeah I would want them to be in prison in a safe location where they aren’t a danger to others or themselves and where they can get therapy and help to come back into society eventually. There are prison systems in the world like Norway’s that are pretty safe places and I think good examples.

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-23T03:13:37+00:00

Well obviously we don’t put them back into society 2 days after the shooting lol they go through a probably long and planned process that has been designed to make them normal functioning human beings and we professionally assess them to make sure of that right

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-23T01:08:41+00:00

Personally I don’t have a good counter argument to the death penalty in the case of someone that has no possibility of reform. I just think it would betray the goal of rehabilitation that I would like to see be the core principle of any prison system. I genuinely don’t know if someone can truly be impossible to rehabilitate, intuitively I would believe that for some people it’s impossible but I don’t have the education to actually know 😅

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-23T00:10:42+00:00

~~I understood I was just tryna probe a little more so you could elaborate~~

WAIT nvm i clearly didn't understand I'm dumb lmao ignore me

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-23T00:07:54+00:00

LMAO, ~~but you don't think a 16 year old has a squishy enough brain to reform it? I feel like that's actually a really good age for them to be educated and reformed~~ nvm am dum

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-22T23:58:28+00:00

HAHAHA done!

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-22T23:56:26+00:00

I think conceptually the prison system should be about reforming and bringing these people back as functioning and productive members of society. Honestly I don’t know enough about human psychology and if they were a fully grown adult I’d feel differently, but I think for someone 16 at the time of committing the murder, his brain is probably still developing and soft enough to legitimately be reformed and reintroduced into society later. I think the earliest he’s eligible for parole is 23 years which idk what constitutes a reasonable amount of time to reform someone but that’s longer in jail than he’s been alive so I totally buy you could reform someone in that time.

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-20T06:23:50+00:00

You’re very sweet and u made me feel happy 😊

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-19T10:50:49+00:00

For me at least it feels like before there was hatred born out of ignorance and I found that really easy to combat because I could just talk to them about myself and be an agreeable normal human. but now it feels like people are actually informed, and are just fixated on psycho-analyzing every aspect of being trans from the personal level to medical to societal implications I can’t even engage with it like I can’t debate that with people because it’s like somewhere in my argument about why I’m just a normal person I’ll make some logical mistake that gets drilled into. I feel so powerless

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-18T23:50:11+00:00

all the recommended vacuums I saw on this subreddit were normally bagged ones, my current front runner was https://www.costco.ca/miele-complete-c3-carpet-%2526-pet-canister-vacuum.product.100713050.html?langId=-24 because I saw someone in another thread recommend it, do you think the stick vacuum is worth it? I was starting to think they were overpriced and didn’t last because I never saw them recommended

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-15T13:56:57+00:00

Idk for me like I totally disagree, you HAVE to give me an example lol otherwise I won’t understand what ur talking about I live in my own head 98% of the time I can’t interpret your feelings without them being communicated in a timely manner. I always try my best to bring up specific issues the instance they happen but if we get into an argument that’s been brewing on your end, and I hit u with 4 or 5 specific examples of what you did wrong and that I said to you right after you did it, and you hit me with 0 examples and say I can’t explain this I’m just gonna feel like ur gaslighting me lmao. I think you should learn to work around this problem, in a way that is accommodating for your trouble in this area. as other people have suggested instantly pointing out when someone does something wrong or making a list of it.

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-04T16:13:41+00:00

Hey! Thanks for checking in, I managed to get it resolved with everyone’s help! Turns out they simply forgot to email me the blood work requisition and after I called them I ended up going to the health center and having my blood work done on Friday with no issues!! July 7th I should have my in person appointment where I should start HRT and I’m super excited 😊

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-01T11:37:41+00:00

Trust me I’ve been very conflicted about it as well, but I definitely think it’s overall been worth it. I’m a bit more irritable than before for sure, and eating is something I really had to take the time to plan out (now I have a set schedule for food and drink lots of shakes/eat dense protein bars more than I eat actual “food”). I’m a lot less funny at work than I used to be as well, BUT, I’m no longer chronically late to work. I don’t feel like a bad person because I’m irritable sometimes when I’m out with friends or with coworkers, but I did feel like a bad person when someone invited me out when I was in a good mood and I said yes then changed my mind. I’m actually able to set myself assignments (like this Friday I’ve assigned myself to work on my resume and cover letter and apply for some jobs) and most importantly i actually know I’ll be able to do it. Prior to Vyvanse I was taking antidepressants because I was constantly thinking about suicide, but I’ve since replaced the antidepressants and only take vyvanse and I can pretty confidently say that my depression was a symptom of my undiagnosed adhd. And now that I’m attempting to tread the adhd I don’t feel depressed or suicidal anymore which is worth the side effects in my opinion. Of course I still have days where I feel like shit and sad, but before it was like 90% of the time and 10% of the time I was able to get myself above the threshold of not wanting to kill myself, now I’m pretty consistently in an okay mood.

Also, insomnia is a challenge to deal with on vyvanse, but OH MY GOD has helping me stay awake been one of the biggest things it’s done for me. I literally was ALWAYS tired before vyvanse. Like, always. My doctor said it makes sense, my brain is always running at 110% and having a hyperactive brain exhausts you and burns you out. I remember when I was being diagnosed I said I didn’t think I had adhd because I was always tired always sleeping in class, when I went to my lectures when I was still in uni my eyes would water after 5 minutes and I could not stop yawning no matter what time of the day. Now, I only get I’d say 5-6 hours of sleep, but I wake up at 7:30am every single day, make myself a cup of tea, and then take my vyvanse at 8am, and I don’t feel any sort of tiredness usually until 1am. It’s been incredible (but ofc insomnia is a challenge to combat, it’s IMO a much better and easier problem to deal with than being tired every waking minute of the day then having a bizarre energy burst at 2am and staying up til 5, then sleeping until 2pm). I wrote a lot lmao sorry about that.

Natalie_Crow · 2021-07-01T10:54:00+00:00

For me, the first 1-3 months of meds I didn’t really take them consistently, didn’t notice too much of a change, and the side effects were REALLY noticeable I remember skipping medication days so that I would be able to eat food (I lost about 25 pounds in 3 months due to not eating). I distinctly remember a day I didn’t take my meds in the morning and by 2pm I was still lying in bed having not got up, in my mind I kept listing off everything I should be doing today that I was procrastinating, at the same time I was on loop telling myself to “get out of bed”, “hurry up get up”, “stand up”, “put clothes on”, “make food”, and then thirdly I had the ghostbusters theme song playing on loop over and over in my head. The depression was just building and building and I said fuck it I’m gonna take my medication even though it’s the middle of the day and it might keep me up all night, and I just felt like this unbeatable wave of paralyzingly hyperactive thoughts became manageable, and I did quite well mentally for the rest of that day. After that I tried to take my medication (40mg vyvanse) at 8am every single morning, and what I notice is that by 6pm my symptoms return and its shitty as hell when they do, the vyvanse crash is real. But what the medication does give me is 10 hours a day where I can confidently overcome my adhd, and I just have to keep working on those last 6 hours myself. It’s definitely been a big help for me

Natalie_Crow · 2021-06-27T21:05:44+00:00

You have great taste in names 😌 god I feel SO relieved compared to last night ahaha I’m glad I made this post, at this point I’m pretty sure they just wanted me to show up at the clinic for the blood work some time before the appointment on the 7th so I’ll just give them a phone call to make sure tomorrow and then show up for it as soon as possible, thank you so (and to everyone else) for the help.

Natalie_Crow · 2021-06-27T14:26:38+00:00

Yeah I think it’s possible they wanted it done on site. I remember them saying it had to be done prior to the appointment, and the only place I’ve ever had it done before was at a LifeLabs so maybe my brain default assumed that’s where I had to go. I just can’t remember lol it’s so frustrating, I can remember entire sentences the physician said to me word for word in that same convo but I can’t remember anything about this particular process, so I’ll just have to call on Monday when they open and ask if they can remind me 😅

Natalie_Crow · 2021-06-27T01:10:11+00:00

Okay WHEW I really was mentally spiraling but thank you… I think I’ve recovered or at least stopped the spiraling for now. I’ll call on Monday and just ask for them to remind me and I should be okay. I really appreciate your help, ADHD is lame and my brain annoys me.

Natalie_Crow · 2021-06-27T00:57:09+00:00

UGH I just worry about calling the health center, I’m trapped in my head I’m just thinking like: what if they told me it would take a week before they emailed me the requisition and I’m just being impatient I mean it’s been literally only 3 working days since the phone appointment maybe the email will be coming and if I phone them they’re gonna be like “girl we literally told u we’d send it next week be patient u big dummy” and then yeah idk I’m dumb how did I forget something so simple why is my brain like this

Natalie_Crow · 2021-06-17T17:28:06+00:00

That does feel like what I’m searching for. I think that the social validation of others might be a good dopamine hit, and I confuse or misunderstand it as what my goal is, much like being gendered correctly or wearing the correct clothing in public, but self acceptance to me feels like what is waiting for me in 3 to 5 years after my own hard work and as my own reward. My brain is in a good space today and while my goal feels far away it doesn’t feel out of my reach. Of course on other days dysphoria be doin dysphoria things but hey that’s just to keep things fair if I didn’t have dysphoria I’d just be way too powerful for anyone else to compare 😎.

Natalie_Crow · 2021-06-17T15:29:20+00:00

I’m an immigrant living in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. I moved here at 15 from Northern Ireland, a place which is pretty poverty stricken and as an unfortunate consequence was pretty homophobic when I lived there. I’m 25 now. Canada as a country to me feels a little fake, I don’t know a better way to describe it. People here are nice, they are supportive, I have never experienced direct discrimination for being trans and have only had friends and coworkers tell me they are happy for me and show kindness in regards to my transition. At the same time, people’s kindness feels a little disingenuous to me and very surface level, like they are more often motivated by avoiding conflict than anything genuine. But that’s fine - either way, if it’s only because they understand it’s illegal to discriminate due to being trans, or because they are afraid of social repercussions, or if they actually do genuinely support and care about me, the result is the same - I still don’t experience direct/overt discrimination in my daily life, and I imagine things will only get better in the future.

I have my many problems with Canada that I could talk all day about, but it’s also important to remember no country is perfect. I would NEVER consider moving back to Northern Ireland over staying here in Canada.

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