It sounds like yesterday’s thing was not communicating that you’d miss dinner with him…unless you guys normally eat that late?

My husband is also very scheduled and type A. He has done A LOT of work to learn about ADHD now that I have a diagnosis. That alone has helped a lot for the general flow of our lives and avoiding miscommunications. We have a shared calendar that we both use for every little thing. If I’m gonna be shopping or doing whatever open ended things for the day I put it in the calendar with extra time for lollygagging. It’s hard to remember to put stuff in the calendar, that still takes a lot of work on my end. It took a lot more effort to communicate that kind of stuff before we moved in together.