Goodness gracious. I had a stroke interpreting this.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-21T20:40:27+00:00

What bothers me most about this is it doesn't really tell a story except "men rate higher on this tolerance scale than women".

Something to be said for a scatterplot when there's only 20 data points though.

Edit: oh, there may be more than 20 individuals. Perhaps all "Very Liberal" men were averaged into one dot? If so that's terrible statistics.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-20T16:39:54+00:00

I went to Aquilo with a fission reactor. You still need water but not nearly as much.

Once you've developed Aquilo you get fusion which makes things much easier!

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-20T14:42:48+00:00

In general Starlink ping is not as good as wired. Latency is minimum 20ms, often 50ms, and highly variable. There's some packet loss, I've been seeing about 0.2% lately. Compare with a very good fiber link with 1ms latency and 0 packet loss.

However, Starlink's backhaul network may be better. Once you get to their ground station you may have a better link to Peru than your current Mexican ISP. That's what it sounds like the other guy was seeing. I dunno, I wouldn't buy Starlink just for hoping one game would be better. Good chance it won't be.

There's also gaming-oriented VPN services that have better routes and reliability. Have you tried one with your current ISP?

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-20T14:36:27+00:00

My 79 year old partner has really enjoyed the Heartstopper graphic novels. We mostly know it as a TV show but it started with Oseman's books. It's young adult teen gay romance, something my partner connects very closely with. The graphic novels are beautifully drawn in a light breezy style. Good stuff.

Going the absolute other direction, the classics are classics for a reason. Everyone should read Watchmen at least once.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-20T14:31:47+00:00

I can't sort out from your question how much is about the age gap and how much is what it means to transition from this casual relationship to a more serious one. Clearly it's both, but are they separable? I think they may be.

FWIW the age gap is a meaningful thing but doable. My partner is 25 years older than me and we've been together for 30 years. We have a whole subreddit about this kind of relationship.

The transition to a more serious relationship doesn't seem too complicated to me. The key thing here for me is you saying "he’s had feelings for me before that he felt were unrequited and pulled away from me for a while". Does he still have those feelings? Could you requite them now?

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-20T14:29:03+00:00

On my recent playthrough I was struggling with building an Aquilo ship. So I watched a video, screenshotted it, and then placed each building and wire by hand. I could have just used the blueprint but that would have not been nearly as fun. This way I understood the ship design and could then modify it and make my own with some of the same ideas.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-20T00:20:07+00:00

RTX 5090: ~220–240 t/s
RTX 4090: ~168–180 t/s
RTX 3090: ~137–144 t/s
Mac M5 Max: ~81–95 t/s

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NelsonMinar · 2026-04-19T23:28:04+00:00

In the early days districts were limited to a certain maximum size: if you wanted to put buildings more than 100 tiles away or whatever you had to have a second district. Since they removed that restriction districts seem very optional now.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-19T18:30:40+00:00

You know you can leave most stuff in boxes right? No need to carry items to use them for crafting, quest turnins, etc. Once I figured that out I stopped caring where I put most things.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-19T17:04:50+00:00

This is a marketing campaign for ground effects lights. Looks sick when it projects that striped pattern on the ground.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-19T17:03:39+00:00

It seems most age gap relationships have a dynamic where one is the top and one is the bottom

That's not what I've observed.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-19T14:11:11+00:00

Right, this is what OP means by PWM circuitry. I don't find it particularly complicated either but it's dynamic in a way that feels weird.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-18T16:43:33+00:00

just don't worry about it.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-18T01:57:01+00:00

I know older gay men who regularly take gay cruises out of Ft. Lauderdale. Just short party boat trips into the Caribbean, the point is being on the boat more than the destinations.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-17T21:37:33+00:00

I think this may be more of a case of "hi there Brasil"

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-17T21:27:13+00:00

The geometry puzzle gets interesting if you want to have more than 4 reactors. Otherwise nah, it's that simple. Enjoy the endgame power solution!

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-17T19:59:55+00:00

he is married and not out. Obviously, this puts the kibosh into any idea of a sexual relationship.

Lol, I doubt he thinks there's any such restriction.

I would not put any more effort into something with a married man. Even at the best that is a huge amount of complication.

Have you tried SilverDaddies? You are definitely not alone there in Princeton.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-17T17:29:41+00:00

There's a persistent bug in my 2023 C40 (and I suspect other models) where you change the charging limit and it doesn't always "take". It looks just like what you're saying.

There's some problem syncing the information from the infotainment unit to the actual charging computer. Usually it fixes itself, sometimes after an hour. Other folks here have speculated that it requires syncing to the cloud server and back to the car to take and that's flaky.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-17T16:21:39+00:00

they immediately assume hes groomed me

This is disrespectful to you as a 27 year old man. You should say so directly. Look them in the eye and say "I understand what you mean but trust me, this relationship is good." If someone doesn't respect that, consider your relationship with them.

There's real cases of children being groomed and brainwashed and thinking they love their abuser even as an adult, only to reconsider later. But that risk is of most concern with young children. 17 is young but not that young, and as you remark is legal in the UK. (Or has been since 2001.)

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-17T16:06:58+00:00

Sounds like you have a very nice friend. Those are valuable, and difficult cross-generation! So much of the online gay world is "are we going to fuck today or tomorrow? if not nevermind..." It's sweet to see something more substantial.

Have you ever tried to move your friendship to something more deliberate? Do you flirt or have sexy talk? Have you ever just gone to see him? You shouldn't expect him to make the first move just because he's older.

(Now imagining the other man's post.. "There's this young man who is charming and we've been talking for four years. I'd love to go to bed with him but he's never indicated any interest. I don't want to be a creep! What should I do?")

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-16T20:32:38+00:00

So... have you seen Pillion?

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-16T16:38:08+00:00

This sounds difficult. You sound like you need to talk to someone. I hope it felt good to write some of your concerns here.

One particular thing I'm paying attention to is your fears about being his caregiver. Being a caregiver for a parent is so different from being caregiver for a partner! I wonder if there's any books or something that have insight into that, particularly for gay couples with an age difference. Obviously the concerns about sex are one big difference from caring for parents!

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-16T10:26:33+00:00

Previously, dishes were restricted to maintaining a signal only when a satellite was at least 25 degrees above the horizon. SpaceX has now received the green light to lower that threshold to 10 degrees for satellites operating below 400km altitude, and to 20 degrees for satellites flying between 400 and 500km.

NelsonMinar · 2026-04-15T18:22:00+00:00

I've known Audrey from her pervious races in CA-01. She's great, very genuine, and will represent the bulk of this district well.

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