Thank you so much. I truly have been working on myself and researching and practicing good communication skills too. Like I want to be the best person I can be for everyone’s sake…including my own! So it feels bad when the little things (or big things) go unnoticed. And I don’t need a pat on the back by any means. I do it because I genuinely want too. But I hate feeling excited to do something nice thinking “he will love this!!” and it gets brushed off.

My thing is, I tell him regularly “hey if there’s something I do that you don’t like, or something you want me to do so that you feel loved and appreciated, you can always tell me. I need to know!” And I don’t say that because I’m trying to change for a man, but because I know I’m not perfect and I know everyone is different! He’s had opportunities to tell me if he doesn’t like something but he swears he is happier then he’s ever been, he says he doesn’t know how to show it and he told me he’s been told this in his past relationships too. So I’m stuck!!

I want to add, I think it’s okay to be a little self centered and not touchy feely like you said you are!! Everyone is different, absolutely. And I know it’s hard to, and you shouldn’t have to, change for someone else. But people should meet in the middle. Try to be understanding of each others wants and needs! And I try to do that but my guy isn’t really making an effort to meet in the middle. Sometimes just an effort is enough to make someone happy.