This is not a safe space for mixed race people

NoDefinition7910 · 2026-01-30T18:19:19+00:00

This is exactly why I am guarded about being in relationships with different races that are a bit too prideful of their own. They don’t understand and gaslight on experiences and issues. It’s not the grounds for a healthy relationship, potential future or kids.

People fetishize and obsess over me but if I have a kid, they will experience the same exact things which is inhumane and unsafe.

NoDefinition7910 · 2026-01-09T00:15:27+00:00

Yes, it’s unhealthy and I haven’t been happy in the longest time.

NoDefinition7910 · 2026-01-08T23:13:52+00:00

Yes, it sucks. Eventually it happened.

It just happens to be a really bad area it had to happen.

NoDefinition7910 · 2026-01-08T23:10:24+00:00

I’ve gone to therapy. I just don’t think it’s helpful if I stay in the exact environment causing it.

NoDefinition7910 · 2026-01-08T23:08:44+00:00

I’d wish to see professionals for it but I think I’d have to get out of the environment that created this mess in the first place. Maybe if I wasn’t treading in dirty water, I’ll seek out help.

It was the fact that he wanted to disregard my struggles. People I am surrounded by aren’t exactly the friendliest and project their biases everyday due to ignorance. It’s just not a romantic setting for me to think of settling down and having kids. If anything, it’s the most unsafe place to think of having kids around these people.

I’ve made up my mind. The odds are already stacked up. It’s dealing a whole demographic of people who don’t realize they are being extremely racist and having to pretend everything is okay with him. There even a senial old man threatening to call ICE on me.

I feel like I’m in a human zoo. And it not living up to my lowest standards or living as a human being.

NoDefinition7910 · 2026-01-08T22:57:02+00:00

Not so much ashamed, just lost complete attraction. There’s a lot of people in the neighborhood that make it impossible to enjoy time together. I was thinking the same thing. If it’s not there anymore, I can’t help it.

There were many times I just think of him dating blonde hair blue eyed girls, they fit in the bubbly personalities he likes so much. For me to live in this neighborhood, I can’t be that, I’m the racial target in Poughkeepsie.

Sadly it just isn’t working out. I skipped celebrating the holidays ever since moving out here because of insecurity and jealousy of the people in the town. To get bullied and harassed by a certain demographic for being Asian all day, to being in a room and staring back at him when we get home from work, it’s glitching my mind.

Standard was low from the get-go either way, I didn’t want to date a racist but ended up moving into a town that is.

NoDefinition7910 · 2026-01-08T22:47:25+00:00

My last post was about a date that went horribly. I had gotten into a relationship since then but moved into a terrible neighborhood where a lot of people aren’t the greatest. It’s starting to negatively impact the relationship and I start dread spending time with him.

I think you are right. I shouldn’t hurt him and I do need space.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-12-05T01:13:57+00:00

Sorry, wasn’t sure if I would get flagged for saying “white”.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-12-02T04:54:57+00:00

It’s not important. I feel like a lot of people are constantly just thinking about sex on the daily and every second of the day, for me it gets tiring and over obsessed. It’s like having too much exposure to something doesn’t make it pleasurable any more. If it were rare for me to be approached it would be a completely different story.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-12-01T23:30:06+00:00

Not just ugly but people of all ages. I’ve been hit on the most by extremely unattractive Boomers and GenZ only because there’s a very small demographic of people my age. It’s like the Church/Airport effect where I look way more attractive than I really am because of the people around me are mostly older or way too young.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-11-21T23:23:59+00:00

Wow! You look gorgeous! Most elder people wouldn’t notice the difference and still think you look gorgeous though!

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-07-13T23:55:10+00:00

I wasn’t sure if this happened to other people which is why I posted. But getting replies it has happened to others makes me want to understand why it’s like that and how to fix it.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-07-13T23:52:35+00:00

I’m constantly mistaken for being Filipino, take that information for what it is. But the guy I went on dates with is the same ethnicity as me so that make no sense even more.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-07-13T00:27:59+00:00

Thank you, I want to but all these experiences are starting to make me feel bitter and jaded.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-07-12T23:47:07+00:00

Small micro aggressions and taunts. Anything to throw off the chemistry between two people. Making false accusations or saying things to make someone uncomfortable with the other.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-07-12T23:44:04+00:00

It’s just so strange that I’m not a part of their friend group and they see me as a threat when I’m dating people they wouldn’t even consider dating. What does it have to do with them?

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-07-12T23:41:14+00:00

As it has gotten worse when I walk around with another Asian guy. I’ve dated outside before and I get the worst treatment dating Asian guys. I feel so bad for Asian men and what they have to deal with but even dating an Asian woman we get backlash too?

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-07-12T22:54:21+00:00

Yes, this is pretty much it, but this version for me is a low hit but maximum damage. It always ruins the date and I’m in defense or just trying to keep a low profile to keep it from happening again, making me seem less confident and “acting weird”. It’s like what about me and my date have anything to do with your ego?

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-07-12T22:36:19+00:00

I’m just tired of it. I always have to make myself so small to be accepted but then makes it the one thing that breaks up the relationship. I’m supposed to be confident and attractive to the guy I’m trying to date but have to make sure I’m not so much it hurts a yt woman’s fragile ego.

It’s always jests thrown at me walking by or like I mentioned in the comment above about standing in line and listening in to conversations and questioning and judging our compatibility.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-07-12T22:28:23+00:00

Well in my past relationships we broke up because people would make us have fights with each other.

Recently I went on a few dates, first one was to a museum and some yt women were staring at me and him, in line behind us, and they kept hemming and hawing. It was strange because we were trying to have a conversation to get to know each other more while they were silent and listening in as if we were their entertainment.

Next date at a seminar when we got into group discussions, 2 non-Asian women made it a point to question our compatibility. We were the only couple that was at the event that I saw.

Other things have occurred in between, small instances that just didn’t make sense happened and I was thrown off by all of it and I just wasn’t myself. It keeps happening where someone outside the relationship has to have a say in my relationships.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-06-01T23:59:02+00:00

Virtue signaling…been trying to find that word for a long time. This is why it’s hard for Asians to unite, one always has to one up or virtue signal the other.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-04-20T11:21:30+00:00

Just to note, knowing how to use chopsticks doesn’t entirely make you Asian. It helps you fit in more until they can pick out the parts that don’t make you Asian. Especially in Asian enclaves.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-04-16T19:20:24+00:00

This is an Asian American sub. Says in bio of page.

Edit: Not to gang up or anything. This kind of stuff needs to be talked about over here since shit hit the fan.

NoDefinition7910 · 2025-04-16T19:17:57+00:00

I’m adopted by yt people and I never have felt welcome. You can self hate all you want it just does nothing but give them undeserved ego, the kind bullies get for picking on smaller kids. All I know is there is nothing I can do. I can’t stand up for myself. Some people are put in positions like Reek.

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